Does anyone else just not see the point in marriage?

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18 Dec 2008, 4:57 pm

Kirska wrote:

For me a lot of it has to do with the fact that he is legally bound to me and can't just leave one day when we get in an argument. Well, he can, but not without the pain of a divorce.

When I was in other relationships I always felt like I was walking on thin ice since they could leave at any moment. Most breakups I went through were sudden and unexpected (AS probably doesn't help that).

Couple-dom is all about love and you don't need marriage to love eachother...

However....

there will be dark periods in every marriage where one or both parties wonder if they've done the right thing. Having that legally binding contact makes it easier for you to think twice about leaving.

A good example: You can be the most "in love" couple in the world - until your first child turns 2.5. They're not called the terrible two's for nothing and you often find that parents get into all kinds of conflicts because of differences in discipline models, tiredness and post-natal depression.. yep... it can last that long. There are lots of couples (even married ones) who split at this point. This is particularly sad to me because knowing what I do now, I can say that things get better in a year or two. Being forced to think twice isn't a bad thing at all.

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19 Dec 2008, 5:42 pm

So basically the whole point of marriage is to have kids?

Does the population crisis mean nothing to anyone?

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19 Dec 2008, 5:42 pm

So basically the whole point of marriage is to have kids?

Does the poulation crisis mean nothing to anyone?

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23 Dec 2008, 2:35 am

I cannot imagine myself getting married. My goal is to find a girl who will change that.

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23 Dec 2008, 11:32 am

DeLoreanDude, I totally agree.I never wanted to marry, and I don't get why I should. I also agree it only gives problems. 50% of American marriages ends up in a divorce, which is to me a clear sign it mustn't be that great. I think people marry way too easily. I never want to marry, and I never want children. Having children is my worst nightmare.

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23 Dec 2008, 12:13 pm

gina-ghettoprincess wrote:

So basically the whole point of marriage is to have kids?

Does the poulation crisis mean nothing to anyone?

I don't see where people get this idea. I am married happily and have no intention to have kids.

I will be an aunt in 3 months and I plan on having lots of pets. That's enough for me.

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25 Dec 2008, 12:37 pm

Akajohnnyx wrote:

I cannot imagine myself getting married. My goal is to find a girl who will change that.

I think I am the female version of you.

And, though I am not against marriage generally- if other people want to get married, that´s fine- I do have a problem with the fact that there seems to be an expectation in our society that people SHOULD marry. Or like there´s something wrong with you if you don´t want to get married- (especially if you are a woman)! This expectation is just ridiculous. I have often wondered, if there wasn´t so much social pressure to get married, if that many people would actually do it.

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