i cut my long-distance thing. i feel like s**t

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I am by all means not qualified to judge about relationships. and I never said that people should not do it, all I said was- it is misleading to call it "relationship". it's a free world, I don't condemn anyone for doing anything that doesn't hurt others. but saying that one is in a "relationship" with someone they never even met in person I find pretty silly.

attraction is something biological, it's not a rational decision that you make. if you meet a person online, you think you have a lot in common, you love to converse, you start fantasising, you decide that you should "be together online" (LOL I can't believe I just wrote this- seriously, does it not just sound weird to you?!), you're still dealing with your fantasy, an image in your head. you don't see the other person with no make-up on, you don't see their excessive weight/hairy legs/smelly breath in the morning etc

you don't have to deal with their annoying habits. you can't hug them, show them affection. realtionships take a huge amount of effort and self-sacrifice, I know this because I was never capable of keeping it up for long. online relationships require little effort, plus I don't believe that anyone is 100% honest online - it's impossible, if not just for the fact that I don't see you so I can't see the huge spot on your forehead and you're never going to admit that you have it (that was a metaphor, and I don't mean you in particular).

so again- I don't mind anyone having it, I just reserve the right to laugh it off if people insist on calling themselves boyfriends/girlfriends with people they never really met in flesh.

yes, yes it is impossible to be a 100% honest, online. i'll let you ponder about that one, for a while

so you agree?

muhahahaha ......you're next.

""yes, yes it is impossible to be a 100% honest, online. i'll let you ponder about that one, for a while""

braintwister, hm..

He means that you're not being 100% honest here....

I'd have to disagree with the assessment that online relationships take no effort to maintain.

Out of curiousity, why is it impossible to be 100% honest online?
I`m not arguing anything (yet ),
would be interesting to hear why

^ it's because one won't admit all his faults

That's what most people do online:


http://www.scribd.com/doc/7602073/Online-Dating-DonTs

They talk about their strengths and hide their weaknesses ....it's an indirect fakeness.

Hm I think I talk more about my faults than my strengths XD

of course I'm not, why would I be? this is Internet after all

I didn't say no effort. I said little effort, comparing to real-life relationships it's really almost nothing.

But this is very generally speaking, i`m sure there are people
who are honest. But if there is an airtight reason why its impossible
it would be interesting to hear, thats all

well you erase a whole load of your posts so... :p

Yes i do edit them sometimes not because i lied, but because i
write too much and too long posts sometimes and try to short it down,
thats more like a general problem with me, not something i do especially
on wp or anything, i delete tons of stuff whenever i write kinda

I didn't mean dishonesty as outright lying. no matter what your motivation is, the fact is that you censor yourself. that's the thing about Internet- you take your time, think your posts through, sometimes edit them. IRL it doesn't work like that, especially if you have a problem with censoring yourself like I do. you don't take back your words IRL.