Bigotry against involuntarily celibate men

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Do you live in a small Eskimo village?

No one said it would be easy man.


You won't find 10,000 women you're compatible with. You ask them out on dating sites. Less than 1% will go out with you. Of those less than one in ten will be compatible. How are you supposed to know if you're compatibke with someone before you've even spoken to them?


Yes, over several years. Not all in one night.

I've been on every dating site you can think of: Match, Eharmony, Adult Friend Finder, OKCupid, etc...

In my experience, very few of the women on these sites are serious at all. In fact, dating sites use a shady marketing tactic where they keep inactive profiles appearing as active in order to look like they have more members than they actually do. Have you ever noticed that everything you visit a dating it makes you sign up and upload photos before you can do anything else? That is because they want to create as many profiles as possible to market their site as bigger than it actually is. And the few women in my area who are real and serious are all looking Christian men. Out of the thousands I've messaged in the past ten years, at most seven agreed to actually meet me. And none of them wanted a second or third date after that.

I live in a Conservative Bible Belt state where the culture encourages everyone to get married as soon as they graduate high school, so if you're still single by 25 at the latest you're out of luck. And even in the rare event that I do meet somebody in my age range who is still single, she won't want anything to do with anyone who isn't a Christian.

You said a mouthful. Even Bible Belt women who don't have a problem with sex before marriage still won't date non-Christians even though they are behaving no differently than the secular women they claim they are above. Why even call yourself a Christian if you aren't going to uphold the teachings of the bible? It makes no sense to me.

That's another thing that makes me a non-incel. Most incel men want a theocracy and the ones who live in liberal states hope they can move to the Bible Belt because they think it's an utopia. The harsh truth is that those so-called "good Christian girls" are still going to reject them because they don't have a sex life going back to their preteens like the jerks do.

1. Causes all women read this forum
2. So if I stopped complaining I’d magically become wealthy ? Bet not

There’s no hope for me I can’t work full time

There’s liberaltears too
But come on boo you know people will take stuff rom dating sites and post them
There’s magazine articles and blogs dedicated to finding loser men then posting their interactions as examples

So you're going top avpoid onine dating because you might say something embarrassing and then some might screenshot it and put it on reddit.

Better not go outside either because someone might see you do something embarrassing.

No I’m
Just saying it’s something that does happen and if you are worried about it then act accordingly

Personality disorders involve very rigid and maladaptive perceptions of oneself and other people. Everything gets set into stone somewhere during adolescence or early childhood and from then on your behavior and mindset in different situations is pretty predictable and always self-sabotaging, never learning from mistakes and growing personally.

It's actually good for incels to never have been approached by women because for a person like that it's really unsettling and illogical that as soon as you and your classmates hit puberty the very same girls who shunned you before are now hitting on you big time. A damaged person can only resolve this mental conflict by rationalizing that the girls are just cruelly duping him into thinking they actually liked him so that they can embarrass him in front of everyone. Then the damaged person either ignores the hints or acts like a total rear end in a top hat, and either way will soon find out that he just screwed up big time and will grow up to be an even more bitter sadsack than if no one ever actually had shown any interest.

^^^It doesn't have to be that way.

Any sort of "damage" can be fixed. Even emotional damage. That's why we have therapists. That's why we have friends.

A car is rear-ended. The car is damaged. Is the damage permanent?

I was bullied when I was young. I was a nonverbal autistic until I was 5 years old. I was a fat sad-sack kid of guy later my childhood. Glasses, braces, and fat!! !! ! And I was damaged.

But I fixed it.....by not letting this crap get embedded in my soul.

Yes it could happen to you. Will your life be over? No. No it won't. The potential benefits outweigh the risks.

It's not curable though. I think that's what he meant.

The Common Cold is not curable, either.....

I see my autism as "penance" for some unfortunate things I did in previous lifetimes. I was forced into the Holland scenario in order to get my attention, to stop and think, my previous lifetimes were not stop and think ones.