If you're 27 and never had a girlfriend, is it too late?

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09 Aug 2015, 8:30 pm

specialsauce wrote:

So to summarize this long thread, is being romantically and sexually inexperienced in your late 20s a life sentence or not?

Unlike OP I'm not bitter about the past I could have had. I'm just worried about the future I might not be able to have.

yep. I don't know depends if you have anythign going for you, though likely if you're my age and never had a single relationship , its likely nothing in which case we'll probably end up those guys who die virgins never having had love.
people will say it won't happen but clearly by the large portion of men who die alone it does happen and quite often.

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09 Aug 2015, 8:37 pm

Many girls date older guys, they do it all the time. When some of my female classmates in high school were dating 7-9 older guys I talked like that too with a friend, like "OMG did you see X is dating a much older guy" but in the end none cares, people just love to talk and that's it. Some guys even complain that women of the same age prefer older dudes.

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Well it depends on you and also on luck so it makes no sense to ask us. And if it turns to be so, it certainly is not because you were inexperienced in your late 20s, since you had this same problem even before.

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09 Aug 2015, 9:09 pm

In my experience, the only people who care much about couples who are somewhat different in age are people who have nothing better to think about. They tend to really have no interests beyond gossiping.

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09 Aug 2015, 9:32 pm

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well i know my nieces family tried to get her to break up with her older guy.

it doesn't matter anyways. I don't have women messaging me anymore and I'm too anxious and worthless to message women.

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11 Aug 2015, 1:22 am

Probably not yet. but if you're 29... START FINDING SOMEONE. I heard it's already too late once you get to 30, which I fear.

I mean, this is coming from a guy who thinks young love is better than old love. And I never got laid yet!

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11 Aug 2015, 2:45 am

specialsauce wrote:

Unlike OP I'm not bitter about the past I could have had. I'm just worried about the future I might not be able to have.

Me too. I think being single at this age is a good indication that there's something wrong.

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11 Aug 2015, 3:25 am

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specialsauce wrote:

Unlike OP I'm not bitter about the past I could have had. I'm just worried about the future I might not be able to have.

Me too. I think being single at this age is a good indication that there's something wrong.

thats how women see it. "red flag, if women avoided him all his life something must be horribly wrong with him"

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11 Aug 2015, 3:43 am

sly279 wrote:

314pe wrote:

specialsauce wrote:

Unlike OP I'm not bitter about the past I could have had. I'm just worried about the future I might not be able to have.

Me too. I think being single at this age is a good indication that there's something wrong.

thats how women see it. "red flag, if women avoided him all his life something must be horribly wrong with him"

That's quite a catch-22.

Maybe there's a little something wrong with all of us but most women don't expect guys to be perfect. No one is perfect.

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11 Aug 2015, 3:56 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:

sly279 wrote:

314pe wrote:

specialsauce wrote:

Unlike OP I'm not bitter about the past I could have had. I'm just worried about the future I might not be able to have.

Me too. I think being single at this age is a good indication that there's something wrong.

thats how women see it. "red flag, if women avoided him all his life something must be horribly wrong with him"

That's quite a catch-22.

Maybe there's a little something wrong with all of us but most women don't expect guys to be perfect. No one is perfect.

Ok, let's say we're not too broken for most women. Then what keeps us from being in a relationship?

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11 Aug 2015, 4:00 am

314pe wrote:

RetroGamer87 wrote:

sly279 wrote:

314pe wrote:

specialsauce wrote:

Unlike OP I'm not bitter about the past I could have had. I'm just worried about the future I might not be able to have.

Me too. I think being single at this age is a good indication that there's something wrong.

thats how women see it. "red flag, if women avoided him all his life something must be horribly wrong with him"

That's quite a catch-22.

Maybe there's a little something wrong with all of us but most women don't expect guys to be perfect. No one is perfect.

Ok, let's say we're not too broken for most women. Then what keeps us from being in a relationship?

Nothing. All it proves is that you haven't had a relationship yet All it proves is that even some some women this "reg flag" as a flaw, maybe they know that no one is without flaws. If you haven't had a relationship [i]yet]/i] maybe that only means you used to used to be flawed.

I don't know about you but my flaw was that I was too scared to talk to girls. They'd ask me out in school and I'd refuse. Now I'm working to overcome that flaw and others.

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11 Aug 2015, 4:02 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:

sly279 wrote:

314pe wrote:

specialsauce wrote:

Unlike OP I'm not bitter about the past I could have had. I'm just worried about the future I might not be able to have.

Me too. I think being single at this age is a good indication that there's something wrong.

thats how women see it. "red flag, if women avoided him all his life something must be horribly wrong with him"

That's quite a catch-22.

Maybe there's a little something wrong with all of us but most women don't expect guys to be perfect. No one is perfect.

but they do. they want the perfect guy. so any flaw and you get booted out from the pool of possible guys.

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11 Aug 2015, 4:44 am

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but they do. they want the perfect guy. so any flaw and you get booted out from the pool of possible guys.

It's a tool for handling a dating pool of 100,000s of people. If you dislike it, go with IRL instead where this doesn't happen (at least not at much).

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11 Aug 2015, 4:48 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:

314pe wrote:

RetroGamer87 wrote:

sly279 wrote:

314pe wrote:

specialsauce wrote:

Unlike OP I'm not bitter about the past I could have had. I'm just worried about the future I might not be able to have.

Me too. I think being single at this age is a good indication that there's something wrong.

thats how women see it. "red flag, if women avoided him all his life something must be horribly wrong with him"

That's quite a catch-22.

Maybe there's a little something wrong with all of us but most women don't expect guys to be perfect. No one is perfect.

Ok, let's say we're not too broken for most women. Then what keeps us from being in a relationship?

I don't think that I'm not flawed anymore, but it did get better somewhat. I still don't have a girlfriend and rarely go on proper dates, but I do eat food with friends who are girls.

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11 Aug 2015, 10:18 am

sly279 wrote:

RetroGamer87 wrote:

sly279 wrote:

314pe wrote:

specialsauce wrote:

Unlike OP I'm not bitter about the past I could have had. I'm just worried about the future I might not be able to have.

Me too. I think being single at this age is a good indication that there's something wrong.

thats how women see it. "red flag, if women avoided him all his life something must be horribly wrong with him"

That's quite a catch-22.

Maybe there's a little something wrong with all of us but most women don't expect guys to be perfect. No one is perfect.

but they do. they want the perfect guy. so any flaw and you get booted out from the pool of possible guys.

Tons of non-perfect men nevertheless manage to find wives and girlfriends. Clearly, women happily and regularly date non-perfect men.

The issue doesn't seem to be that women boot out ALL imperfect men from the dating pool, it's that women consistently boot imperfect YOU from the dating pool.

What are the other non-perfect men doing differently? Other than being employed, financially stable (not rich, stable), willing to undertake new activities rather than sticking with the tried and true videogames and wetshaving?

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11 Aug 2015, 10:24 am

I'd guess it's not so much a matter of not being perfect, but of being too imperfect.

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11 Aug 2015, 5:03 pm

rdos wrote:

sly279 wrote:

but they do. they want the perfect guy. so any flaw and you get booted out from the pool of possible guys.

It's a tool for handling a dating pool of 100,000s of people. If you dislike it, go with IRL instead where this doesn't happen (at least not at much).

A dating pools of 100,000s? I don't think there are a 100,000 men to each woman. It's more like 1 to 1. That means there's hope for everyone because as soon as the 1 in 100,000 Mr Perfect guy is taken, there'll still be 99,999 women left for the remaining 99,999 men.

Anyway, the reason why it's hard for most AS guys to get a girl, IMO, it's not the girls' fault. It's often because we're just too shy around girls. When I was younger I was hit on by various girls and I was too shy to respond. When I was a bit older I dated various girls and they thought I was a cold fish (remember to make physical contact as soon as possible or your date will be disappointed).

Not only that, but since we're largely blind to body language and subtlety, think of all the times girls were hitting on us and we didn't even notice. The fault is not with women but in ourselves. Don't feel guilty about it, you're just not wired to connect. Don't blame it on women, it's not their fault if you don't notice them hitting on you. Don't worry about how rich you are. Plenty of poor guys get the girl. If girls from all classes only went after rich guys, the human race would have died out long ago.

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