Do You Ever Feel Like You Will NEVER Find a Soul Mate?

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You've a provocative fool. Do not tell me what will happen to me. Your outdated fantasies have no use or truth in them. The only positive thing they advocate is morality.

Nope, I know I won't lol.

Met her once. But it didn't work out.
Sense I'll be alone forever now.

Suddenly the cult named "Church of the Atom" (in Fallout 3) that worship an unexploded nuclear warhead does not seem so crazy...


To go back to the topic:

I hypothesise that my Soul mate have been run over by a car, killed in a war or have been abducted by aliens

Religious morality is highly selective. Read the Qu'ran and the Bible and compare their suggestion of morality to what actually evolved societies - justice and the rule of law, which has pushed civilisation forward. Stoning people to death because they have a different opinion or blowing up abortion clinics because they want to "save lives" is not - it is fascism and domestic terrorism.

Very true, I was just throwing them a bone if I'm honest - I can't help but respond when provoked but I wanted to end the arguement!

atheist speaking (*waits to be hit with stones*), don't believe in soul mates either.

I'm not LOOKING!

I wouldn't read too much into what a "soul mate" is supposed to be here; I'd just look for someone who I get on with and am attracted to, and go from there.

I find it interesting that some people use the phrase "soul mate" to mean "The One True Love" combined with "Instant effortless rapport", as far as those things exist; it can also be used to mean the same things as "just friends" too; in both cases the phrase is meant metaphorically. I was surprised to find that some people use it in a literal spiritual sense instead.

Being an atheist, I don't believe in the spiritual version, but the phrase "soul mate" is a convenient metaphor of summing up the hope that there is a person out there who would make a near-perfect partner or at least, somebody you who matches your belief about what a person like that should be.

It can happen, though. Some time ago I tried (and failed) to date a woman who is as near a "clone" of me, "twin flame", call it what you like, as I have ever met and far more so than even the dozens of people I know in the Autism community. I had been looking for somebody like that for years, since before I had a name for what I was; I thought I was unique. I wasn't sure that such a person even existed until she showed up. I wonder how many others like us there are?

Although we got on well in general terms, sadly, I was in no position to be anybody's boyfriend at the time and by the time I was, she had acquired one. The point is, I wonder what would have happened if both of us had been single and good to go at the same time? And even if we had dated, would it have ended in failure from us being too alike? Her BF is somewhere on the autism spectrum, but in a different way to the two of us; so maybe dating your soul mate isn't necessarily a good idea even if they do exist

By my mid-thirties I was beginning to resign myself to becoming a crusty old bachelor. Then I met the woman of my dreams. We've been happily married for more than ten years and have two children.

Nil desperandum.

I'm getting to the point where I'm just going to give up. I doubt there is someone out that compatible with me, and the medical issues that prevent certain things. In other words, a normal relationship really isn't possible, and if it is, the guy would get sick of it and leave.

I'll probably end up with a Dog and Cat.

What Hale_Bopp said.

I feel like I am not compatible with anyone, and also the type of guy people settle for when they can't get anyone "better". Not what I want.

Yes.

Wait... the energy-mass equivalence principle and the exact predictions of quantum chromadynamics are insights into what science doesn't tell us...

Be that as it may or may not be (and I'd agree all knowledge is tempered by different probabilities of doubt), the logical conclusion that because you have limited knowledge, one can thereby abandon an appeal to empirical data or rationalism, and just breach Occam's razor and invent whatever fantastical entities you want*, is not a valid conclusion. Truth rests on evidence supported by a rational framework, beliefs that are not possible to falsify or are inherently absurd by appeal to entities outside the scope of the describable universe - which includes non-material causes and entities.

*Or rather whatever entities have been inculcated into you by the groupthink of whatever idiotic superstitions your culture holds, and that includes pseudoscientific and mystical entities not necessarily a part of organised religion.

As for the original question - I doubt it. Recently I've become pretty okay with it too.

Are you sure you aren't interested in coming up to Canada I gotta admit that you are exactly the type of girl I would be looking for and they are nowhere to be found around here, as they are gobbled up almost right away. I especially love how intelligent you are: that is a big deal to me and one of the main reasons I broke up with my Girlfriend. All I can find are either party girls who have no thoughts other than what bar or nightclub they plan to visit next or girls with serious (as in dangerous) mental issues.

Getting back to the topic at hand, I don't hold out much hope either. Not only am I painfully shy around women I've never met and can't read flirting/social cues but I am an incredibly picky eater to the point my choices are extremely limited. Causes most people to falsely accuse me behind me back of being an attention seeker when in reality I am a hermit and would just like to be like everyone else in terms of diet. Story of my life is that I've reached all the milestones many years after everyone else and I can't see how this can't be any different but I will admit it's hard to hold out hope. Seems 'normal' women who want a family, are intelligent, hardworking, independent, etc want nothing to do with me and I cannot figure out for the life of me why, especially when all my (married) female co-workers love me and tell me I am a dream guy to most women. Oh well, all I can do is keep going onward! Almost makes me wish I was a little more 'weird' so I could get along with nerdy girls instead of being the slightly weird normal guy. In my case, I seem to fall right through the crack of being too 'normal' for a weird girl and too weird for a 'normal' girl.