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18 Mar 2011, 11:14 am

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The second feeling happens when the person gets to a certain age and feels that he/she still never experienced adult experiences , he/she starts feels way behind his peers in life experience and feel socially inadequate , even his/her peers would notice that there's something wrong with him/her and start asking him/her questions such as "why you don't have a partner?" and such , he/she would be even alienated in many social events because he/she would be the only one with no partner there.
The second feeling would not stop unless if a sudden success happens or total giving up.


I think the hardest thing is to hear how everybody saying how great a relation is, and I am not even capable of imagining what it is like.



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18 Mar 2011, 11:15 am

01001011 wrote:
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The second feeling happens when the person gets to a certain age and feels that he/she still never experienced adult experiences , he/she starts feels way behind his peers in life experience and feel socially inadequate , even his/her peers would notice that there's something wrong with him/her and start asking him/her questions such as "why you don't have a partner?" and such , he/she would be even alienated in many social events because he/she would be the only one with no partner there.
The second feeling would not stop unless if a sudden success happens or total giving up.


I think the hardest thing is to hear how everybody saying how great a relation is, and I am not even capable of imagining what it is like.


meh, they're not always so great.



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18 Mar 2011, 11:17 am

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The problem with this in a forum like L&D is some guys blame women as a class for their problems, where women blame a specific individual.


Which do you think is the best/most correct way?


Well they both pretty much suck because they are unconstructive, but to answer your question it is far worse to blame women as a class because there are negative consequences far beyond simply being wrong...



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18 Mar 2011, 11:18 am

Grisha wrote:
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The problem with this in a forum like L&D is some guys blame women as a class for their problems, where women blame a specific individual.


Which do you think is the best/most correct way?


Well they both pretty much suck because they are unconstructive, but to answer your question it is far worse to blame women as a class because there are negative consequences far beyond simply being wrong...


oh my gosh, it's so weird to have a decent conversation about this stuff -which i find genuinely interesting- instead of people just throwing insults at each other!



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18 Mar 2011, 11:25 am

emlion wrote:
Grisha wrote:
emlion wrote:
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The problem with this in a forum like L&D is some guys blame women as a class for their problems, where women blame a specific individual.


Which do you think is the best/most correct way?


Well they both pretty much suck because they are unconstructive, but to answer your question it is far worse to blame women as a class because there are negative consequences far beyond simply being wrong...


oh my gosh, it's so weird to have a decent conversation about this stuff -which i find genuinely interesting- instead of people just throwing insults at each other!


There is something to it, that's why the subject always pops up - I even think I sort of understand it now that there's been a reasonably civil conversation about it.

But trust me, the insults will start - the thread is still young... :wink:



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18 Mar 2011, 11:26 am

heh, true, true.



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18 Mar 2011, 11:51 am

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AS men live a miserable, meaningless life of constant drudgery, brutalization, and sad rejection. AS women spend all their lives in peace and luxury reclining on cushions while male slaves fan them and feed fruit into their mouths.


HEY! I never got THAT memo!! ! I want my bishie harem boys! I like fruit! :(



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18 Mar 2011, 12:21 pm

draelynn wrote:
hill-o-beans wrote:
AS men live a miserable, meaningless life of constant drudgery, brutalization, and sad rejection. AS women spend all their lives in peace and luxury reclining on cushions while male slaves fan them and feed fruit into their mouths.


HEY! I never got THAT memo!! ! I want my bishie harem boys! I like fruit! :(


Naaah, don't overestimate men. They'll probable forget to get you seedless grapes... *sigh* You're better off alone ;)



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18 Mar 2011, 12:29 pm

Nathalie wrote:
draelynn wrote:
hill-o-beans wrote:
AS men live a miserable, meaningless life of constant drudgery, brutalization, and sad rejection. AS women spend all their lives in peace and luxury reclining on cushions while male slaves fan them and feed fruit into their mouths.


HEY! I never got THAT memo!! ! I want my bishie harem boys! I like fruit! :(


Naaah, don't overestimate men. They'll probable forget to get you seedless grapes... *sigh* You're better off alone ;)


Yeah... I guess they'd complain about peeling them too...



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18 Mar 2011, 12:30 pm

draelynn wrote:
Nathalie wrote:
draelynn wrote:
hill-o-beans wrote:
AS men live a miserable, meaningless life of constant drudgery, brutalization, and sad rejection. AS women spend all their lives in peace and luxury reclining on cushions while male slaves fan them and feed fruit into their mouths.


HEY! I never got THAT memo!! ! I want my bishie harem boys! I like fruit! :(


Naaah, don't overestimate men. They'll probable forget to get you seedless grapes... *sigh* You're better off alone ;)


Yeah... I guess they'd complain about peeling them too...


*sigh~ good male servants are so hard to find these days...



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18 Mar 2011, 12:37 pm

emlion wrote:
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draelynn wrote:
hill-o-beans wrote:
AS men live a miserable, meaningless life of constant drudgery, brutalization, and sad rejection. AS women spend all their lives in peace and luxury reclining on cushions while male slaves fan them and feed fruit into their mouths.


HEY! I never got THAT memo!! ! I want my bishie harem boys! I like fruit! :(


Naaah, don't overestimate men. They'll probable forget to get you seedless grapes... *sigh* You're better off alone ;)


Yeah... I guess they'd complain about peeling them too...


*sigh~ good male servants are so hard to find these days...


Yeah... that makes life soooo hard for us women, right? :lol:



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18 Mar 2011, 1:03 pm

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5XHRo5y5FE&feature=player_detailpage[/youtube]

Just made me think of this song...



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18 Mar 2011, 1:08 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Guys have it harder to find one.

Girls have it harder to find the right one.

That's true for the NT people ,not just the AS.


So true.



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18 Mar 2011, 1:11 pm

But the president of this thread was not blaming anyone, he just said what he thinks.



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18 Mar 2011, 1:19 pm

Dantac wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Guys have it harder to find one.

Girls have it harder to find the right one.

That's true for the NT people ,not just the AS.


So true.


So ...so far, there's a consensus that what I said here is true.

Now let's think a bit deeper.

Most guys also want the right one, but since they have it harder to find one, then that makes finding the right one even harder and harder , because the probability of this 'one' to be also the 'right one' is always slim.

For girls , finding the 'right one' is slim too, but since finding a 'one' would be more frequent for them (having more dates), then the probability of meeting the 'right one' should rise.

So who it have harder again?



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18 Mar 2011, 1:20 pm

Hmmmm... when I was young and attractive I KNEW no one wanted me. No guy decent or otherwise was interested. My husband tells me there were guys literally drooling over me back then. I never saw a single one. I wouldn't know attraction unless it walked up, shook my hand and said 'HI, please date me." Which is exactly how I thought the whole thing was supposed to work. Apparently, my lack of reaction to the oh so elusive flirting was interpreted as my being a stuck up b***h. Not a clueless b***h.

No, not easier for girls - just different. Especially if you are looking for more than a cheap thrill.