Maaan, the friendzone is tough!

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12 Apr 2011, 2:14 am

It is not an arranged marriage. She fell in love with someone in her friend network who she hadnt noticed much before. It happens. Love doesnt always happen at first sight.

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12 Apr 2011, 2:15 am

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

zen_mistress wrote:

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

zen_mistress wrote:

You never know that. You can fall in love with someone you have known for quite a while. And who needs the drama of chasing the inaccessible man you had crazy passion with anyway?

I have always avoided people that sparked that kind of passion in me.

I dont mind the person who sparks that kind of passion, but if they are, as I said, "inaccessible" physically, emotionally, mentally, then it is not worth the hassle.

To each their own. I prefer to have control over my emotions and I can't really control passion.

Meh... I'm beginning to think I'm uptight.

Well, it depends how much passion. Noone wants to be unhinged.

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12 Apr 2011, 2:25 am

zen_mistress wrote:

It is not an arranged marriage. She fell in love with someone in her friend network who she hadnt noticed much before. It happens. Love doesnt always happen at first sight.

I didn't say it is, but successful arranged marriage often lead to the results that TeaEarlGreyHot mentioned.

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12 Apr 2011, 2:31 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

zen_mistress wrote:

It is not an arranged marriage. She fell in love with someone in her friend network who she hadnt noticed much before. It happens. Love doesnt always happen at first sight.

I didn't say it is, but successful arranged marriage often lead to the results that TeaEarlGreyHot mentioned.

In boo's world people can't be happy there must always be a flaw or a hidden misery to every story. I thought only my Russian relatives were that cynical :lol:

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12 Apr 2011, 2:32 am

I see.

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12 Apr 2011, 7:15 am

Laz wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

zen_mistress wrote:

It is not an arranged marriage. She fell in love with someone in her friend network who she hadnt noticed much before. It happens. Love doesnt always happen at first sight.

I didn't say it is, but successful arranged marriage often lead to the results that TeaEarlGreyHot mentioned.

In boo's world people can't be happy there must always be a flaw or a hidden misery to every story. I thought only my Russian relatives were that cynical :lol:

:-/

I didn't say there should be some misery.

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12 Apr 2011, 2:41 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I agree with Chronos on this one.

I hardly believe that she "waked up" after all these years and decided to love him out of the blue. Love (and attraction) can't be a decision.

Btw, she probably knew that he had a crash on her, NT girls would always know that but they pretend that they don't notice.

I just noticed this post, and want to add, actually she didnt have the faintest idea that he had waited years for her. So it was all a big surprise

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13 Apr 2011, 3:03 pm

having never even had a RL male friend, I don't even know what the "Friend Zone" is.

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14 Apr 2011, 6:37 am

I've just had to friendzone a new IRL friend of mine (who I've only just this minute found out likes me), poor guy. :lol:
But he didn't get in there quick enough I'm afraid.

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14 Apr 2011, 7:14 am

Well...if those two become serious, you can't do anything about it....

Maybe you should look around for yourself and don't think about her as much until whatever happens with her and her BF.

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14 Apr 2011, 7:20 am

MONKEY wrote:

I've just had to friendzone a new IRL friend of mine (who I've only just this minute found out likes me), poor guy. :lol:

But he didn't get in there quick enough I'm afraid.

Do you mean that you got a boyfriend before he got up the nerve to ask you out, or that you have a time limit which he exceeded? If it's the latter, how long is that time limit?

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14 Apr 2011, 7:31 am

CrinklyCrustacean wrote:

Do you mean that you got a boyfriend before he got up the nerve to ask you out, or that you have a time limit which he exceeded? If it's the latter, how long is that time limit?

Have you even seen rabbitears thread? :lol:

I am thinking it's the former.

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14 Apr 2011, 7:57 am

Starlight-Supernova wrote:

CrinklyCrustacean wrote:

Do you mean that you got a boyfriend before he got up the nerve to ask you out, or that you have a time limit which he exceeded? If it's the latter, how long is that time limit?

Have you even seen rabbitears thread? :lol:

I am thinking it's the former.

And you are correct. :lol:

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14 Apr 2011, 7:58 am

MONKEY wrote:

And you are correct. :lol:

Hey, when it comes to instinct, I am number 1 (and I am good at helping people into relationships during my two weeks inFrance with school buddies. :lol:

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I'm happy for you anyways.

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19 Apr 2011, 1:02 am

I haven't read any of the replies in this thread, just the original post, but I really don't need to in order to offer my informed opinion...

...once you're in the friend zone, it's almost impossible to get out. Forget it and move on.

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19 Apr 2011, 9:52 am

I don't know if I posted her already or not but I'll say what I think. Why is the friendzone so bad? What's wrong with having more friends? More friends means you have more connections, which can lead to a relationship with one of their friends or acquaintances. Do guys who complain about the friend zone so focused on sex that they don't value the girl if she doesn't want to go out with him? That's kind of sad then. I don't get it. *shrug*

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