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ZX_SpectrumDisorder
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31 May 2012, 3:41 am

Make your feelings known!

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31 May 2012, 5:28 am

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Does anyone here watch parks & rec?
I loved April and Andy's wedding. They invited their friends and family over for like a potluck housewarming party and surprised them with their wedding. Simple, adorable, affordable.
There is a lot of cultural and familial pressure to have a big wedding, it stinks, people should be able to do what they want without judgement.
It's about the couple, it's their day, I wish other people would butt out and shush.
All the wedding shows and magazines pushed here bug me even more when marriage isn't even legal for everyone in this country

As far as the dancing goes...I don't know, your culture is different from mine so the reasons I'm thinking probably aren't applicable
I wouldn't totally discount some awkwardness or attitude issue peeking through being a contributing factor, but I know you do so..

I am not discounting the awkwardness but i am discounting the creepiness (= by creepiness means i make girls scared of me), i don't have this creepiness vibe , i am sure of this.

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31 May 2012, 5:49 am

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:

Make your feelings known!

Search your feelings, Luke!

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31 May 2012, 9:37 am

Those aren't the feelings you're looking for.
But seriously... if you're against marriage you should say so.

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31 May 2012, 10:57 am

Those aren't the feelings I'm looking for. I guess I should just

move along, move along...

:wink:

I don't know that I'm against marriage. The concept doesn't really appeal to me right now though. I met a great guy but I met him young, and I don't want to lose him but I don't want to restrict myself forever. I can't have it all if he's not comfortable with it though.

Sorry, Boo, for detracting from your post. I hate dances. My parents forced me to a couple of church dances when I was a teenager and I just walked around the outside of the building until they were over.

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31 May 2012, 7:49 pm

Be like Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell. A wedding is ceremonial. Marriage is in your heart. I hate that marriage also has to be on paper according to modern standards and laws.

Of course, I'm also pro- polyamory and open relationships as I have plenty of friends that have made that work out for them. I can understand being worried about being tied down to one person forever.

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31 May 2012, 7:57 pm

Hey Boo,

I have to agree with Hyperlexian at the very beginning. The other girls may actually be on the lookout for a hookup, and if someone else caught their eye early on, that may be why they seem disinterested while dancing with you. I can't stand dancing with people at weddings. Then again, I'm not really one to do much dancing with another person anywhere. Maybe focus on chatting people up instead of dancing with them?

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31 May 2012, 8:14 pm

Senath wrote:

Sorry, Boo, for detracting from your post. I hate dances. My parents forced me to a couple of church dances when I was a teenager and I just walked around the outside of the building until they were over.

Heh. Back in the day I started pacing while chewing on the end of a glow stick at a Prodigy rave/concert. My boyfriend and friends had gone off to play in the mosh pit and I was bored and (what I now recognize as) stimming. Next thing I know someone tapped me on the shoulder and took a sudden step back when I stopped to look - he acted like he was worried I was going to deck him or something. He asked me if I was okay, and I told him yes, and then I realized exactly how big my own private circle had gotten and how many people were watching me. That was a bit embarrassing. I must have seemed really pissed off with how vigorously I was pacing and the lack of a positive look on my face.

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01 Jun 2012, 2:12 am

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Roger that, Boo. No offense intended whatsoever. (And congratulations!) You're right - just get young women to natter about blah blah blah. You won't have to say a word!

Yea ;p

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Also, I just wanted to caution against saying "people 'never' perceive me as XYZ." Really, no one has any idea, because so few people will say it to your face. I can take a good guess at how I am perceived most of the time - for better or worse - but I can't always be sure. 99.99% of everyone would probably be shocked (and horrified, miserable, depressed, etc.), if everyone else revealed such thoughts out loud.

I have enough self-asserting evidences that I don't have the creepiness problem and i am almost never perceived as creepy, it is something i thought i had at times but I simply don't (which is good). Girls are very friendly with me everywhere, creeps don't get that.

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01 Jun 2012, 2:49 am

My political views often annoy women. Plus I am to radical for my own good. It could be my tattoos they find unflattering oh well can't win them all over :lol:

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01 Jun 2012, 8:35 am

Joker wrote:

can't win them all over :lol:

That's good to keep in mind. I end up forgetting this and then sacrifice my self trying to put myself in a likeable light for everyone (IMPOSSIBLE!). Then I get overwhelmed and/or lose my sense of self and don't know who I am. :shaking:

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03 Jun 2012, 3:34 pm

Talking about costly weddings, here are some videos from the wedding i attended on sat:

https://imo.im/fd/E/3a8bqEalo6/IMG_2061_1.mp4

https://imo.im/fd/A/e1JpHM3hDp/IMG_2083_1.mp4

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03 Jun 2012, 4:03 pm

and some pics ;p

https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.net/hp ... 8908_n.jpg

me helping doing the fireworks....
https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.net/hp ... 2884_n.jpg

and most the important part, the food and the booze! ;p

the f*** with the dancing lol

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03 Jun 2012, 9:33 pm

Holy Batman!

Beautiful dress. That table of food just looks yummy.

Fireworks? Some people have way too much money to spend.

Who's the girl? She's very pretty.

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04 Jun 2012, 12:39 am

NicoleG wrote:

Holy Batman!

Beautiful dress. That table of food just looks yummy.

Fireworks? Some people have way too much money to spend.

Who's the girl? She's very pretty.

A former coworker.

No, not a potential gf lol, just a friend.

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04 Jun 2012, 1:33 am

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Holy Batman!

You're gonna scare Joker here.

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