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13 Jun 2011, 8:27 pm

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women have a right and responsibility to themselves to be cautious and careful.


If being "cautious" includes being abusive, then I guess the men have the right to be abusive too right? Why the double standard? We all play by the same rules, don't we?



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13 Jun 2011, 8:34 pm

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Best advice is read up on the "alpha male" attitude and mindset and understand how/why masculine men naturally and subconsciously adopt it.

If you have this knowledge, and you end up accepting it, then you've already made a big long step because by accepting, you subconsciously start to apply it in your life. From there, it will be all up to what you desire in life.


mmm...your comment subconsciously smells of PUA now.
Now sir are you teaching zoology or human psychology here?



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13 Jun 2011, 8:36 pm

ChinaCatSunflower wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
women have a right and responsibility to themselves to be cautious and careful.


If being "cautious" includes being abusive, then I guess the men have the right to be abusive too right? Why the double standard? We all play by the same rules, don't we?

i see that you did not read the statistics, and have missed the point completely.


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13 Jun 2011, 8:38 pm

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someone should go into business giving personalized tips to people who are on the dating market. actually... i am sure such a thing already exists.


yep it exists hun its called dating coaching...lol IHMO life coaching is more fun as relationships are only one part of the work life balance, I like to look at all the parts of the whole now, am a holistic and a Gestalt in heart and in approach now :lol: :wink:

thank you for that - it was escaping me. and i agree about the life coaching over date coaching. better to work holistically and things may fall into place much better.


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13 Jun 2011, 8:42 pm

cdfox7 wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
Best advice is read up on the "alpha male" attitude and mindset and understand how/why masculine men naturally and subconsciously adopt it.

If you have this knowledge, and you end up accepting it, then you've already made a big long step because by accepting, you subconsciously start to apply it in your life. From there, it will be all up to what you desire in life.


mmm...your comment subconsciously smells of PUA now.
Now sir are you teaching zoology or human psychology here?


I'm no teacher. Just sharing what I see is proper for a certain someone's situation.

Masculinity is not a crime, lady.



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13 Jun 2011, 8:44 pm

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i see that you did not read the statistics, and have missed the point completely.


No I read those stats. I've seen them before. Unfortunately, there are not statistics gathered for men, but I bet the rate of abuse is at least as high. You really only see this from the female perspective don't you? You think your pain matters and nobody else's does, don't you? That's really sick.



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13 Jun 2011, 8:51 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
cdfox7 wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
someone should go into business giving personalized tips to people who are on the dating market. actually... i am sure such a thing already exists.


yep it exists hun its called dating coaching...lol IHMO life coaching is more fun as relationships are only one part of the work life balance, I like to look at all the parts of the whole now, am a holistic and a Gestalt in heart and in approach now :lol: :wink:

thank you for that - it was escaping me. and i agree about the life coaching over date coaching. better to work holistically and things may fall into place much better.


YVW hun np, I agree with that. Plus the PUA movement uses the coaching approach to personal development under the gise of date coaching to train and educate in there dark arts now :wink:



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13 Jun 2011, 8:53 pm

ChinaCatSunflower wrote:
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i see that you did not read the statistics, and have missed the point completely.


No I read those stats. I've seen them before. Unfortunately, there are not statistics gathered for men, but I bet the rate of abuse is at least as high. You really only see this from the female perspective don't you? You think your pain matters and nobody else's does, don't you? That's really sick.

actually, no, i don't feel that at all. how strange you would think that.


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13 Jun 2011, 8:58 pm

ChinaCatSunflower wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
i see that you did not read the statistics, and have missed the point completely.


No I read those stats. I've seen them before. Unfortunately, there are not statistics gathered for men, but I bet the rate of abuse is at least as high. You really only see this from the female perspective don't you? You think your pain matters and nobody else's does, don't you? That's really sick.


I think you need to calm down, mate. Guilt trips won't get you anywhere. And I don't think anyone here is trying to hurt your feelings.



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13 Jun 2011, 8:58 pm

MCalavera wrote:
cdfox7 wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
Best advice is read up on the "alpha male" attitude and mindset and understand how/why masculine men naturally and subconsciously adopt it.

If you have this knowledge, and you end up accepting it, then you've already made a big long step because by accepting, you subconsciously start to apply it in your life. From there, it will be all up to what you desire in life.


mmm...your comment subconsciously smells of PUA now.
Now sir are you teaching zoology or human psychology here?


I'm no teacher. Just sharing what I see is proper for a certain someone's situation.

Masculinity is not a crime, lady.


Are you implying that I had gender reassignment surgery, now?
As if you are then can I remind you that you out of order sir
by making an indirect personal attack on my biological gender now!!

I am immune to your negs!! !



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13 Jun 2011, 9:01 pm

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I think you need to calm down, mate. Guilt trips won't get you anywhere. And I don't think anyone here is trying to hurt your feelings.


This is carried over from another conversation. And yes, someone was intentionally trying to hurt my feelings.



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13 Jun 2011, 9:02 pm

cdfox7 wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
cdfox7 wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
Best advice is read up on the "alpha male" attitude and mindset and understand how/why masculine men naturally and subconsciously adopt it.

If you have this knowledge, and you end up accepting it, then you've already made a big long step because by accepting, you subconsciously start to apply it in your life. From there, it will be all up to what you desire in life.


mmm...your comment subconsciously smells of PUA now.
Now sir are you teaching zoology or human psychology here?


I'm no teacher. Just sharing what I see is proper for a certain someone's situation.

Masculinity is not a crime, lady.


Are you implying that I had gender reassignment surgery, now?
As if you are then can I remind you that you out of order sir
by making an indirect personal attack on my biological gender now!!

I am immune to your negs!! !


Why the cocky/funny approach with me? I thought that was DD PUA stuff that you forbid yourself from using.

I don't see how that was a neg, by the way. But then again I've never read much from Mystery dude as I'm not really interested in PUA tricks. Only interested in the "PUA" psychology stuff.



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13 Jun 2011, 9:11 pm

ChinaCatSunflower wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
I think you need to calm down, mate. Guilt trips won't get you anywhere. And I don't think anyone here is trying to hurt your feelings.


This is carried over from another conversation. And yes, someone was intentionally trying to hurt my feelings.

no, i wasn't. and a person can easily go look at that thread and see exactly what i said to you. i understand that you are angry at womankind, but lashing out at me is not going to change the world to better fit your expectations.


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13 Jun 2011, 9:13 pm

MCalavera wrote:
cdfox7 wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
cdfox7 wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
Best advice is read up on the "alpha male" attitude and mindset and understand how/why masculine men naturally and subconsciously adopt it.

If you have this knowledge, and you end up accepting it, then you've already made a big long step because by accepting, you subconsciously start to apply it in your life. From there, it will be all up to what you desire in life.


mmm...your comment subconsciously smells of PUA now.
Now sir are you teaching zoology or human psychology here?


I'm no teacher. Just sharing what I see is proper for a certain someone's situation.

Masculinity is not a crime, lady.


Are you implying that I had gender reassignment surgery, now?
As if you are then can I remind you that you out of order sir
by making an indirect personal attack on my biological gender now!!

I am immune to your negs!! !


Why the cocky/funny approach with me? I thought that was DD PUA stuff that you forbid yourself from using.

I don't see how that was a neg, by the way. But then again I've never read much from Mystery dude as I'm not really interested in PUA tricks. Only interested in the "PUA" psychology stuff.


Are you looking to have an argument with me?
Do yourself a favour and walk away from this thread until you have regained control of your emotions!
Do you understand what I have just say now?



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13 Jun 2011, 9:24 pm

cdfox7 wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
cdfox7 wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
cdfox7 wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
Best advice is read up on the "alpha male" attitude and mindset and understand how/why masculine men naturally and subconsciously adopt it.

If you have this knowledge, and you end up accepting it, then you've already made a big long step because by accepting, you subconsciously start to apply it in your life. From there, it will be all up to what you desire in life.


mmm...your comment subconsciously smells of PUA now.
Now sir are you teaching zoology or human psychology here?


I'm no teacher. Just sharing what I see is proper for a certain someone's situation.

Masculinity is not a crime, lady.


Are you implying that I had gender reassignment surgery, now?
As if you are then can I remind you that you out of order sir
by making an indirect personal attack on my biological gender now!!

I am immune to your negs!! !


Why the cocky/funny approach with me? I thought that was DD PUA stuff that you forbid yourself from using.

I don't see how that was a neg, by the way. But then again I've never read much from Mystery dude as I'm not really interested in PUA tricks. Only interested in the "PUA" psychology stuff.


Are you looking to have an argument with me?
Do yourself a favour and walk away from this thread until you have regained control of your emotions!
Do you understand what I have just say now?


I'm not trying to have a fight/argument here, and I'm definitely not being emotional.

If you feel you can't control yourself here, then it'd be best to just let me the freedom to share what I feel is proper advice without killing yourself to have a go at me.



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13 Jun 2011, 9:26 pm

Wow. Lots of anger in this thread. Maybe we should get this locked before it gets even more out of hand? >.<