techstepgenr8tion
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15 Sep 2011, 2:58 pm
I used to get them all the time - just that anything that *I* would try to do with them was wrong. It was like going thirsty on a life raft plus catching all kinds of scorned reactions almost monthly 
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15 Sep 2011, 3:15 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
anna-banana wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I can read those attraction/interest signals between other people, so I can't see why I wouldn't be able to read the signals which are directed to me.
My problem is that there are no signals at all.
My problem is that there are no signals at all.
ha-ha funny =(.
oh I thought you were joking (the "I can't see why" pun wasn't a pun I guess? yikes...).
15 Sep 2011, 3:17 pm
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15 Sep 2011, 3:18 pm
anna-banana wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
anna-banana wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I can read those attraction/interest signals between other people, so I can't see why I wouldn't be able to read the signals which are directed to me.
My problem is that there are no signals at all.
My problem is that there are no signals at all.
ha-ha funny =(.
oh I thought you were joking (the "I can't see why" pun wasn't a pun I guess? yikes...).
Aspies....
15 Sep 2011, 3:20 pm
techstepgenr8tion
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15 Sep 2011, 3:22 pm
blueroses wrote:
For most people, I think there is often a lot of luck involved with meeting someone. It's turning the initial meeting or first date into a relationship that takes some actual work. And, for people like me who hardly go out anymore, there's some hard work involved with actually meeting someone, too, lol.
What I think is utter junk is that there's really no real way for people to meet IRL aside from church and bar. I was talking to a guy I met in Florida last weekend, friend of a friend down there, who kinda reminds me of Moog and we were on that topic for a while. He ended up finding a church group, I was looking through charitable organisations (really for that and just giving back purposes) just to find out that Rotary and things like that are timed just right to where if you work an 8 to 5 job your SOL, its like people aren't expected to give a damn about anything bigger than themselves until they're they're old enough to be enrolled in AARP or AMAC. Even to look for clubs in places like meetup.com yields meetings of three tentative people who haven't shown up since one person did and realize the two others were no-shows.
15 Sep 2011, 3:50 pm
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
blueroses wrote:
For most people, I think there is often a lot of luck involved with meeting someone. It's turning the initial meeting or first date into a relationship that takes some actual work. And, for people like me who hardly go out anymore, there's some hard work involved with actually meeting someone, too, lol.
What I think is utter junk is that there's really no real way for people to meet IRL aside from church and bar. I was talking to a guy I met in Florida last weekend, friend of a friend down there, who kinda reminds me of Moog and we were on that topic for a while. He ended up finding a church group, I was looking through charitable organisations (really for that and just giving back purposes) just to find out that Rotary and things like that are timed just right to where if you work an 8 to 5 job your SOL, its like people aren't expected to give a damn about anything bigger than themselves until they're they're old enough to be enrolled in AARP or AMAC. Even to look for clubs in places like meetup.com yields meetings of three tentative people who haven't shown up since one person did and realize the two others were no-shows.
Oh, that's why you were talking about joining Rotary the other day, lol. The Rotary chapter in my area is mostly made up of middle-aged married folks and retirees, so I'm not sure how that would pan out. I think volunteering for a nonprofit with a younger volunteer base, like Habitat for Humanity, might work better for you.
Sorry your most recent experiences with meeting women online were bad enough to scare you away from dating sites ...
15 Sep 2011, 5:34 pm
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15 Sep 2011, 7:37 pm
AsteroidNap wrote:
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
What I think is utter junk is that there's really no real way for people to meet IRL aside from church and bar. :
I think there are a few more ways to meet people than just those two, bars being one of the worst in any event. About a year ago I started visiting a local hobby shop, and now have a regular gaming group that meets weekly. New people come and go all the time. Also a few weeks ago I joined a volunteer political organization. I used to belong to the local amateur astronomy club too. That was fun, and I'm thinking of re-joining.
Examine what one likes to do, and I'm sure there's a group/club in the area that caters to it.
Meetup.com is a very useful resource in this regard. I located a fairly large and active Aspie group in my area this way - too bad I'm too Aspie to actually go...
15 Sep 2011, 9:00 pm
zen_mistress wrote:
I think the "not looking thing" that a lot of people say, usually it is people already in relationships- is ridiculous. How are you supposed to find anything if you dont put any effort into looking for it? If you are sitting at home not looking for a date, the pizza delivery boy isnt just going to turn up with a 24 carat engagement ring and some champagne.
I remembetr reading some thread about a pizza delivery man and pizza and beer down in adult.
