How important is money really?

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I think that money can make a big difference in a male's perceived attractiveness as a high level of importance is placed on money in our society. I think asking a forum full of aspies about the importance of money is likely to result in a misleading consensus - it seems most aspies do not place the importance on money that others do.

I know for myself that I sometimes puzzle my parents with my lack of interest in accumulating as much money and property long term as I can (for them, as for many others, this seems to be the central goal in life - what one works towards and a measure of ones overall achievement). For myself, I think like any resource it's important to conserve money and not waste it on unnecessary purchases, but I feel there's really only a limited amount of money one needs in life - like water, after a certain extent you're really just leaving the taps running for no reason. Everything you need and most things you would be likely to want you can buy once you reach a certain monetary threshold (which I personally don't think is nearly as high as everybody else seems to think it does) you can have. After that people are selling the exact same items for an inflated price, while attaching cultural meaning to them to distinguish them from identical less expensive items.

There are much more important things to work towards in life than money. But I won't go into that for fear of running off-topic.

Regarding male attractiveness, I find a man who is able to support himself with what he has (as I do) attractive. I don't find dependency or the need to live off the money I have attractive, unless that person has good reason for being unable to support themselves. However, I do meet many people who have trouble getting buy because they do not conserve money properly and then complain that they never have enough and/or do not get the amount they are entitled to. This is unattractive.

As to the actual amount of money one has, this is really pretty irrelevant. It's how one utilizes the money that's important. That being said, I have no problem with people "treating themselves" - a.k.a. buying unnecessary items, or overpriced items with cultural significance, within the means of their individual budget (whatever that may be). I believe this still falls under sensible utilization of money and budgeting.

Personally, I'm currently on a pretty low income but I'm good at conserving money and I've never felt I haven't had enough money to live the way I want.

Women that find men with money attractive deserves to be treated in the manner she acts ie a prostitute, lower middle income and below the label is waved.

I can be a bum on minimum wage (which is where I'll end up after having spent the last 10 years on disability) but I do not care and still live like a king how many people can say that.

I personally find it quite offensive that it's been suggested women 'marry up'. The implication here is that women can't or won't be the bread winners. This is definitely not the case. One look at a stay at home father forum will tell you this.