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09 Mar 2012, 1:37 pm

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Good for you, it's not for me. Being 10 stone overweight is a serious issue and you're in denial if you think otherwise. I'm not a body fascist by any means, like I said I have no issue with someone being overweight, it's when it gets beyond this into morbidly obese territory then in becomes a serious issue on many levels. People should take care of themselves. It's not realistic to expect society to change its views to be more accomodating. Personally I prefer to get on, rather than be excluded.

i was morbidly obese and am still technically on the cusp between overweight and obese. there were men who found me attractive like that, and nobody had to accommodate me in any way.

I was on that very same cusp a long time ago before I did something about it, I just can't understand how anyone could go further. That was just my cut off point. I got tired of people treating me like garbage and being called a fat ugly ba**ard etc to my face and the paranioa of not even being able to trust 'friends' who'd be fine to your face, but make you feel bad about yourself in a group.
I'm not having a go at anyone btw, it's just that it changed my life and it's easy to say that society should be more accepting, but it's never going to happen. I was disgusted by how I was treated, but I don't get treated that way anymore and I don't want to be associated with it.

i didn't hate myself or even dislike myself when i was fat - i knew there was nothing wrong with the way i looked. i looked just fine at my morbidly obese stage.

i was not mistreated in any way by people. it's too bad that you were. do you think there is maybe a connection between how you felt about yourself and how people treated you?

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09 Mar 2012, 1:48 pm

Sorry, I completely disagree. I've been brought up and socialised into believing that being fit, lean and healthy is desirable and being morbily obese is not.

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09 Mar 2012, 1:55 pm

disagree with what? that fat people can be attractive? of course you don't have to find fat people attractive, but thankfully many people feel otherwise.

i was also raised to think that obesity was sexually and socially undesirable, but i got over it. the more i loved myself, the better other people treated me.

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09 Mar 2012, 1:57 pm

No worries. I've yet to meet one.

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09 Mar 2012, 2:01 pm

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of course you don't have to find fat people attractive, but thankfully many people feel otherwise.

You included?

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09 Mar 2012, 2:04 pm

Tequila wrote:

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of course you don't have to find fat people attractive, but thankfully many people feel otherwise.

You included?

absolutely. it's not a fetish for me, it's just irrelevant in a way.

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09 Mar 2012, 2:20 pm

Smoking
Drunkenness
Not liking chocolate

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09 Mar 2012, 2:33 pm

Stupidness, smoking, uptightness (no sense of humour), and being too vanilla

As a side note, I don't see why everyone's caring so much about political views. As long as you don't end up arguing about them all the time (in which case you need to find something better to talk about) I don't see why it matters.

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09 Mar 2012, 2:38 pm

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As a side note, I don't see why everyone's caring so much about political views. As long as you don't end up arguing about them all the time (in which case you need to find something better to talk about) I don't see why it matters.

well clearly if we are all bickering about it on a thread, we would definitely fall out with a partner over it in real life.

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09 Mar 2012, 2:40 pm

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well clearly if we are all bickering about it on a thread, we would definitely fall out with a partner over it in real life.

Meh, all I know is when I'm with my girlfriend I'm far too busy to care about politics :wink:

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09 Mar 2012, 2:52 pm

Asp-Z wrote:

The-Raven wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

well clearly if we are all bickering about it on a thread, we would definitely fall out with a partner over it in real life.

Meh, all I know is when I'm with my girlfriend I'm far too busy to care about politics :wink:

trust me I cant rant about politics during any sexual activity lol.

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10 Mar 2012, 1:46 am

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Someone with greasy hair and food stains on their clothes.

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10 Mar 2012, 1:59 pm

Hmm, Vulgarity and improper english..
Bullying
Right wing bigots/religious fanatics
Smoking 7 chewing tobaco= #1 turn-off. Awful smell, disgusting habits. Unhealthy. YUCK!

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11 Mar 2012, 9:18 am

Jerks who are jerks because they were just born as jerks.

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11 Mar 2012, 2:57 pm

Women whose entire identity is appearances.
Morbid obesisty ( not just over-weight)
The converse too- Anorexics.
Superiority complexes.
Extreme animal rights activists.

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11 Mar 2012, 6:28 pm

It looks like the reason I can't find a partner is because of all the people who have "Republican" and "theist" as turn-offs/dealbreakers. I deleted my OKCupid account because of this.

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