"Sweet" is now my least favorite word

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02 Apr 2012, 5:39 pm

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:

I know quite a few guys who are a**holes in the company of other guys, but not in the company of girls.

There's a lot of posturing that happens in all-male spaces that doesn't happen in mixed company.

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02 Apr 2012, 5:41 pm

Guys are even bitchier than the bitchiest of girls, then there's the whole pecking order crap undercurrent of who could beat up who etc.

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02 Apr 2012, 5:46 pm

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:

Guys are even bitchier than the bitchiest of girls, then there's the whole pecking order crap undercurrent of who could beat up who etc.

I think that exists in parallel to women being cruel to other women who they perceive as being more sexually-desirable to men.

It's all so sad. :cry:

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02 Apr 2012, 5:48 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Ok guys, here some tips i learned to avoid to be viewed as 'sweet' and hence friendzoned:

1- Don't be too available: don't show up a lot to her, don't visit her daily, if you see her online go offline sometimes or just don't initiate conversation with her every time. Do not reply fast to her messages or texts.

2- Do not ever join any type of gossip talk with her and with her friends.

3- Sexual innuendos, use them in your humor.

4- Flirt with her.

5- Try to make her a bit jealous once in a while like "wow, that girl over there is really hot" , yea....TEASE her - it works. One time i kept my status 'busy' (and I was REALLY busy) not initiating anything with her and then after an hour she was like "so...with who you are busy all this time....busy with some girl?" - I was like "i wish it was the case" and then said "i might be now tho" and went not-replying for like 10minutes, she send me a text on the phone 'c'mon why aren't you replying? who's that girl taking your time?".

haha, when i said you should be a little ass, that what i mean.

Something I agree with you on - yes, the above works, and people love it. Women should do the same too, though I disagree with the jealousy-making thing (unless they do it to you).

It's the lack of availability and arosing curiosity that works.

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02 Apr 2012, 5:50 pm

smudge wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Something I agree with you on - yes, the above works, and people love it. Women should do the same too, though I disagree with the jealousy-making thing (unless they do it to you).

I think ValentineWiggin is hot, don't you think so smudge?

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02 Apr 2012, 5:53 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I think ValentineWiggin is hot, don't you think so smudge?

Nice try!

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02 Apr 2012, 5:58 pm

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Face_Of_Boo, if a guy checks out other women when i am just getting to know him or dating him,

Again, I am not talking about this advanced phase....but a way earlier phase when the guy is still unsure what he means to her.

And hell yea, it does increase attention from her and starting wanting more of your attention.

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02 Apr 2012, 5:59 pm

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Face_Of_Boo, if a guy checks out other women when i am just getting to know him or dating him,

Again, I am not talking about this advanced phase....but a way earlier phase when the guy is still unsure what he means to her.

right, as bolded. if he flirts or looks at another girl instead of me, he has lost his chance.

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02 Apr 2012, 6:01 pm

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Face_Of_Boo, if a guy checks out other women when i am just getting to know him or dating him,

Again, I am not talking about this advanced phase....but a way earlier phase when the guy is still unsure what he means to her.

right, as bolded. if he flirts or looks at another girl instead of me, he has lost his chance.

Why? if neither of you declared anything then you two wouldn't be in a committed relationship.

and when I do that i turn it to flirting after she asks something like "don't you think i am good looking too?", and i go like 'I think you are even better looking than her"......

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02 Apr 2012, 6:03 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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Face_Of_Boo, if a guy checks out other women when i am just getting to know him or dating him,

Again, I am not talking about this advanced phase....but a way earlier phase when the guy is still unsure what he means to her.

right, as bolded. if he flirts or looks at another girl instead of me, he has lost his chance.

It wouldn't though if you didn't know for sure he was after you in the first place.

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02 Apr 2012, 6:04 pm

It's just not good form.

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02 Apr 2012, 6:35 pm

smudge, if i didn't know if he was interested in me, and he was checking out other women in front of me... it would be a definite no for me to consider him for dating. i don't compete with other women for a man's attention which is what i would be doing by responding to that nonsense - he's either into me or he isn't. if he checks out other women he wants them and not me.

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02 Apr 2012, 7:05 pm

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smudge, if i didn't know if he was interested in me, and he was checking out other women in front of me... it would be a definite no for me to consider him for dating. i don't compete with other women for a man's attention which is what i would be doing by responding to that nonsense - he's either into me or he isn't. if he checks out other women he wants them and not me.

Not really. He's still looking for someone when he's flirting with other girls. Then when you show your potential interest in him, or he realises that you might be interested - he'll pursue you further and will stop looking or flirting with other girls, or at least until he's *sure* you want him. Both sexes do this. Have you never flirted with different guys when you're single?

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02 Apr 2012, 7:44 pm

smudge wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

I have, er tried to.
But I sure as hell didn't rub it in their faces.
That's a surefire way to get dropped like a hot Pop Tart.

You don't ADVERTISE that you're interested in/checking other people out-
even if I did like a guy, if he was doing that, I'd start looking elsewhere.

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02 Apr 2012, 9:25 pm

It doesn't work and if it does work it has more to do with that person own insecurities than your own attempts to make them jealous because your flirting with other women.

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02 Apr 2012, 9:43 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Oh no

I couldn't do #5

that just wouldn't feel right.

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