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01 May 2012, 9:42 am

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Asking "Do you like the Simpsons and South Park?" really means "Do you want to come to my place and fornicate?"


s**t, then that means I have a lot of gay fans!!



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01 May 2012, 10:26 am

Tim_Tex wrote:
2. She had the same interests as me (Simpsons, South Park, indie films). People with those interests have higher sex drives than people who don't. Asking "Do you like the Simpsons and South Park?" really means "Do you want to come to my place and fornicate?"


I'd like The Simpsons and South Park, but I'm straight. :lol:
Though, really, I'd love that to be true.



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01 May 2012, 2:59 pm

But if the Simpsons/South park criteria is dropped, people will think sex is all I want. Not true. I am just trying to weed out the ones who are asexual, saving themselves until marriage, or only willing to do Missionary (because "anything else is evil").


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01 May 2012, 3:06 pm

i have never in my life heard anyone say that they would only have sex in the missionary position.

most people have sex before marriage (very few do not), so there isn't really any reason to filter people out like that. 97% of people in this survey who were non-virgins had sex before marriage:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/co ... 01274.html


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01 May 2012, 3:39 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
But if the Simpsons/South park criteria is dropped, people will think sex is all I want. Not true. I am just trying to weed out the ones who are asexual, saving themselves until marriage, or only willing to do Missionary (because "anything else is evil").


Just find a creative way to ask if this is so important to you. Maybe not on the first date, but within the first 3, you are allowed to tactfully enter the ground of what type of sexual beast the person is (or is not). If you really want a women who is energetic in bed, the conversation won't bother her. But do test out the questions here or with friends, first, see how different women react, so you can pick the best ones.

Honestly, I am got so frustrated with men over-reading into the few things they knew about me and reaching a false conclusion as a result. I was very reserved, and conscious of who saw or knew what, but if someone removed those constraints, everything was different. If they had just engaged in a conversation about it, instead of coming up with silly "tests" and assumptions, they would have known.


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02 May 2012, 10:35 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
I don't understand.

How would I not be a good partner for her? What did I do wrong?

I did not deserve to be called weak, lacking in direction, unable to communicate, or unmotivated, simply because I did not do things exactly the way she did. How does asking for advice signify a lack of direction, or lack of motivation? How does needing emotional support make someone unstable? How does waiting to see if she will move to a city near me constitute lack of direction (when it was left entirely to chance, with nothing I could have done on my end--and when she said she would do a relationship if she moved to city X, but not city Y)?


I meant to reply to this earlier, but forgot.

I am going to say this in capital letters because you need to remember this:


YOU DID NOTHING WRONG

She didn't break it off because of A or B or D, even though she probably thinks she dId. She broke it off because she didn't feel about you the way someone is supposed to feel about a mate, and that is the beginning and end of it. You cannot force feelings, or earn them, or make it happen by magically doing something different. It is meant to be or it is not, and this relationship apparently was NOT MEANT TO BE.

MOVE ON


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