What females really want

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Remember this thread is about what ASPIE women want in an ASPIE mate. Do you still think that is correct?

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this made me laugh.

paxfilosoof, i would advise you to read "Sex at Dawn" by Christopher Ryan, Ph.D. & Cacilda Jethá, M.D., as it dispenses with a great deal of the nonsense you have posited here.

some ev-psych is useful, and some of it is laughed out of academic circles. but a great deal off what ev-psych put forth as biological truth is actually social conditioning that came as a result of agricultural settlements. thank goodness in the modern days we are divesting ourselves of those shackles and really critically examining what we consider to be genetic and/or biological.

http://www.sexatdawn.com/

another good book is "Delusions of Gender", which exposes some of the sexism inherent in neuroscientific study.

They want you to ask them: Want to have sex? They say "sure!". And everyone is happy

Women want you to be able to fix their cars. At least in my experience.

Psh! I fix my boyfriends car, thank you very much!

He is quite a lucky man then, in fact maybe the luckiest in the world.

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On a side note, working on cars, if you're part of a social group of any kind, will introduce you to some girls a bit. As then everyone will be like "_______ knows how to work on cars." But then you'll have to work on cars. So there's sort of a tradeoff. I used to like working on cars, now I've grown to hate it a bit.

haha Noooo! lol I just have a dad and mom that made me learn and he grew up without a dad. lol I'm like every other female...good and bad qualities.

Great idea about the mechanic thing getting you out there to meet people...it brings them right to you! Same if you play an instrument and you can join a band. There are so many talents that could be put to use that way! Great advice and brilliant!

Sexiness and/or wealth? NO, not true. Yes, there needs to be some attraction but even my first pimple faced, nerd, socially ostracized bf was attractive to me because he made me laugh so I looked past the pimples and saw his smile and his eyes and I asked him out ad we dated 15 months. Turns out his daddy was rich but his mother was not and I always had to pay his way. My second, and current bf, well he is aspie and I do find him sexy but I didn't at first. He was just super sweet and supportive and he is really poor. It was how he treated me and he too made me laugh that won my heart.

Boo is referring to relationships and women around his age range, you are talking about relationships you had in your high school period. Completely different scenarios so you can't really compare the two, people will date in high school for whatever reason because financial responsibilities and pressures aren't as evident or apparent.

well, women don't become more shallow once they reach adulthood (in fact they tend to be more emotionally mature), so her point still stands.

Thing is, i am not really bitter about this.

It's a fact I am embracing it.

I mean hey, sexiness is a whole world from physical to mental, nothing shallow about it, and status/wealth is ....well... i hate gold diggers but i understand the least financial requirement by the non-gold diggers.

The times women have showed an attraction to me were times I was feeling my best and on top of the world.

If biorhythms are anything to go by, or whatever, the days/hours/minutes when you express yourself positively and feel wonderful, they become enthralled by your spirit? hormones?

What it is I'm not sure. But these 'I'm attractive days' for me are moments/days of joy, bereft of suffering for me, woman or no woman.

I wonder if chicks got a wide on for Jesus? I mean he would have had that halo thing and bathed in white light going on, huh?

But then the devil was considered pretty hot too so......

Last edited by Surfman on 09 Jul 2012, 4:24 am, edited 1 time in total.

Someone that can make them cum, duh

I never used the word shallow so don't try to insinuate, I am saying that finacial needs increase for both parties and people require more stability and support. People in high school aren't concerned about paying for mortgages, council tax, income tax and in some countries, medical insurance, people in high school are more likely to go for someone based on behaviour and status, I mean there are factors that don't enter the equation in high school for both sexes.

And then there is culture, and immigrant girls marry up with a local man.

Most girls I've known want true love, even though their baseline program is toward the alpha, they are often repelled by the cocky alpha type as well.

Even a good smile can win hearts all over the show....