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29 Sep 2012, 5:46 pm

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
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another thread where someone with a bad attitude about women complains that women don't like him...and the choir joins in
whine that women don't meet your requirements (are whales, hurdurr so funneh) whine that women have their own reuirements (because superficial judgements are only good when you're making then right?)

spongy has written some excellent advice here though


I wouldn't say wtfield2 has a bad attitude about women, he has standards and that is understandable. He's met women from the dating site but he doesn't seem to make a great first impression so the main thing he needs to focus on is closing.

Nobody is obliged to sleep with someone else and some people on dating sites look better in their photos than they do in real life.


It's great that he has his own standards, but it's not cool that he berates women for having their own standards.
one or the other, wanting a skinny girl is no more moral than wanting a tall guy
actually you can control weight you can't control height.So yes it is more moral..but wanting a tall guy is moral too as it is more masculine and prevents danger;


than replace weight with breast size or whatever
if it'sfine to prefer height or other physical characteristics, why did you reject a girl for having a stated height preference?
that was giant hockey fan.


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29 Sep 2012, 11:55 pm

[quote="DogsWithoutHorses"]
than replace weight with breast size or whatever
if it'sfine to prefer height or other physical characteristics, why did you reject a girl for having a stated height preference?[/quote

No, it's not a 'preference'. I have no problem with that and I have my own but that's all they are: preferences. This was a case of having a mandatory minimum height. The girl I'm dating now has none of my preferences but that's not going to stop me. Above all else I care what's on the inside and saying I won't date a girl under 5'4" means I would have missed out on her. I'm sick of being seen as a piece of meat above all else.



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30 Sep 2012, 12:07 am

GiantHockeyFan wrote:
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than replace weight with breast size or whatever
if it'sfine to prefer height or other physical characteristics, why did you reject a girl for having a stated height preference?[/quote

No, it's not a 'preference'. I have no problem with that and I have my own but that's all they are: preferences. This was a case of having a mandatory minimum height. The girl I'm dating now has none of my preferences but that's not going to stop me. Above all else I care what's on the inside and saying I won't date a girl under 5'4" means I would have missed out on her. I'm sick of being seen as a piece of meat above all else.
whyd you ignore my pm?


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30 Sep 2012, 12:15 am

GiantHockeyFan wrote:
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than replace weight with breast size or whatever
if it'sfine to prefer height or other physical characteristics, why did you reject a girl for having a stated height preference?[/quote

No, it's not a 'preference'. I have no problem with that and I have my own but that's all they are: preferences. This was a case of having a mandatory minimum height. The girl I'm dating now has none of my preferences but that's not going to stop me. Above all else I care what's on the inside and saying I won't date a girl under 5'4" means I would have missed out on her. I'm sick of being seen as a piece of meat above all else.


first, sorry the the who said what mix-up,

I don't like broccli, not too teared up about "missing" food with broccli in it. Because there are enough of the things I like to make me happy.
If someone is not physically attracted to short men, or flat chested women, or bald men or women with thick eyebrows why should they date them.... Since most people like to sleep with the people they date, physical attraction is relevant.

Being treated like a piece of meat does feel terrible, at least as a male presenting person it's limited to a few speres of life.


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30 Sep 2012, 11:47 am

DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
another thread where someone with a bad attitude about women complains that women don't like him...and the choir joins in
whine that women don't meet your requirements (are whales, hurdurr so funneh) whine that women have their own reuirements (because superficial judgements are only good when you're making then right?)

spongy has written some excellent advice here though


I wouldn't say wtfield2 has a bad attitude about women, he has standards and that is understandable. He's met women from the dating site but he doesn't seem to make a great first impression so the main thing he needs to focus on is closing.

Nobody is obliged to sleep with someone else and some people on dating sites look better in their photos than they do in real life.


It's great that he has his own standards, but it's not cool that he berates women for having their own standards.
one or the other, wanting a skinny girl is no more moral than wanting a tall guy


i've been hearing people say this for a while now, for a very long time now, they say it gets harder for women as they get older, but easier for men as they get older, as in, harder for women to get a boyfriend, to attract men