Will probably be single forever

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what you envy is a fictional construction of womanhood that only persists because you haven't lived it
there is a difference between being happy and projecting a image of happiness
this is like thinking people's facebook profiles are an accurate depiction of their life when they are really the shiniest, sunniest, most braable moments with anything unpalatable or embarrassing edited out

sorry for the derail, probably should have pmed, just a little concerned for you cause those aren't good thoughts and they probably don't feel good

I just want one who will see me as just Tim, not "Tim the Republican".

Of course, what I really want is someone who is conservative, and has the same interests. I'm just worried they don't exist.

just angry on how women can get a boyfriend standing still but men can't get a girlfriend standing still

Sometimes there are guys who come into my life for whatever reason and, yes, sometimes, without me doing anything to make them think I am interested in any way, they want to be my boyfriend. This isn't necessarily good and doesn't mean I want to be their girlfriend back. I'm then faced with the having to tell them that I don't really like them the same way they like me, and they get upset and it makes me feel like a really bad person and people say 'what's wrong with him?' 'seriously, he's a nice guy. Give him a chance.' 'why are you so picky?' 'you'll be single forever!' And when you say back 'I didn't feel anything for him' you're a heartless b**ch. You have to also be attracted to and like the person who wants to be your partner back, and sometimes 2 people just don't mesh very well.

Guys get less of this happening I understand, but that doesn't mean they have it harder. People can look at a single guy in his 50s and it's no big deal, 'oh, he's just a bachelor,' but a single woman in her 50s people assume there's something wrong with her or she hates men.

Men can also be perfectly happy and single if it weren't for the pressures of society, the idea that only losers are single etc.

I don't think it's fair to say that about everyone. Is it really that hard to believe people get lonely regardless of what society does? None of my decisions are based on any of that.

"No bro, it isn't. And i don't want to be a**** but seriously this is like the eleventh thread you've complained in.

F*cking grow a pair. Seriously, man up. You need to have a spine, NO ONE respects a door mat, and you'll NEVER get a relationship without respect. Realize that YOU are in control of your own destiny and women don't OWE you ****, not a relationship, a bj, love, respect, sympathy, NONE of it.

You gotta EARN it. EARN it by realising that you don't NEED to have a chick to validate your existance, realize that people try to help you all the time, but your LAZY ass ALWAYS blames society instead of taking initiative and making yourself more attractive the opposite sex. ADAPT! Don't cry about women not wanting you, find out what they want and use that to make yourself more attractive.

If you dig dogs? Volunteer at a shelter. Line dancing, learn a language, be a tutor for college kids, DAMN ANYTHING. Get involved in life, don't watch it from the back seat, maybe then a woman would want to be your co-pilot.

Oh, and Be a Man. "

one guy said that to me on Plentyoffish 3 years ago, still haven't forgotten that, i'm still angry and pissed off at him for saying that, thats when I had just heard about enough of hearing those annoying sexist phrases in life, society against us guys when they tell us to "Man Up, Be a Man, Grow a Pair, Grow Some Balls, Sack It Up"

I'd love to kick that dudes ass, would love to make him squeal as I break his f****n' neck!! !! !, if I could do that to him without getting into legal trouble, I probably would

Holey moley...I thought that was aimed at me for a second what a complete idiot, he really doesn't deserve your time of day and I wouldn't waste my energy on him if I was you. When people tell you to 'man up' it's just as sexist as people telling a woman to 'get back in the kitchen' etc etc. There are sexist people all over the place (just as there are racists, and homphobes etc). I just think of it as they can say what they like to you, but you never have to listen to them...live life by your own rules.

Yeah, I can relate. Maybe someday I'll just settle, perhaps my standards are too high. I'm almost 23 as well, I'm close in age to the OP, and I've never had a girlfriend. I think having company, someone to have sex with and share a life with and have children with is better than simply being a snobby bachelor my entire life. I've fallen head over heels with a couple girls before and they rejected me, currently I have semi-fallen for another girl but problem is she lives 2,000 miles away and has a boyfriend.

I think because I don't pick up on these social cues of flirting that they think I'm rejecting them, while my mind is busy over analysing every step and movement they make. What they say and how they say it. I seem oblivious to the most obvious of things. By the time I realised, hey I like this person. It is too late and that person already lost complete interest in me. Do you find it the same way? I'm referring to when you wrote about the guys that you like don't like you back, part.

When I see someone attractive, I always hold myself back and then try to assess this person instead of just walking up to the person and start a conversation. I guess I do this because I'm so used to mimicking my environment that I thought I should adapt myself to what she would expect. Instead of just being myself, when... I have so many versions of my self that I project to the public, it is difficult to just be me when that is the advice that everyone hands out.

Hear, hear.

yeah because i never see, notice any girls looking at me or smiling at me from a distance

I guess I am doomed to be a total outcast because I didn't vote for Obama (I didn't vote for Romney either, though).

My birthday is the day before Valentine's Day...



What a torturous birthday.

hate valentines day with a huge passion