why doesn't anybody ever want me?

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Sounds good but have some pictures of you with your male friends. Woman like to feel that in getting a man their expanding their network of friends. Only include female friends in a group shot with other men included. You don't want it to look like you already have a girlfriend. Spam a few dozen women everynight. Over your life time that would add up to thousands so your odds increase. Consider trying some other dating sites as well. Why does everyone on Wrong Planet just use OKCupid? Is it the most popular one in America? I don't think they even have it in my country.

In addition to online dating, just get out more. I know it might seem like even when you're surrounded by women that it's impossible to make any of them into your girlfriend so what's the point and how can you even find out if they're single but the other night a woman started flirting with me and this was after she already knew I lived at home.

I could count my friends without taking my socks off but I also try to get out in public a few times a week. I do stuff at a couple of community centers, I play the keyboard in their music group, I frequent three different churches even though I'm an atheist (because churches do things besides just hold mass). So do stuff like that. Just go outside and meet people and then you'll improve your odds because now there's a one in a thousand chance a desperate 30 year old will start flirting with you like what happened with me.

Also remember that when a woman is attracted to you it may be based on subconscious factors that aren't related to your social status such as if she's ovulating, pheromones, whether she can detect you immune differs from yours, etc if all these factors add up and she's desperate she's yours. Remember most of these are things that don't work with online dating. You have to meet in person.

Can't get your own place? Once your going steady move in with her. If your long term plan is to cohabitate then one of you will eventually have to give up your house anyway so this will save you the trouble of having to get one in the first place. Don't have anything to say but want to fill up your profile? Learn the art of writing much and saying nothing. I did that in school and still got a passing grade. Or you could just talk about your interests. Anime for example. Talk about where you would like to go for a date instead of where you live.

If you can't get a job try volunteering and you get asked what you do you can say you do that. Some women are pretty impressed when they here men volunteer. It makes them seem altruistic. Your not just working to get paid but out of the kindness of your heart. Also try learning a musical instrument. People light up when you tell them you play an instrument and it's a fun thing to do. Also something that can be done in groups. Don't think learning a musical instrument is just for children. I didn't get a piano tutor until I was in my teens and I didn't start teaching myself the glockenspiel until the last couple of years.

Remember you can't do anything to guarantee success, only improve your odds so go do that. Good luck.

I use OKCupid because it's completely free and there are plenty of women in my area using it. I've tried other sites but they all either 1) require money, 2) have virtually nobody near me, 3) match me with women that aren't remotely my type, 4) turn out to be a sex hookup site, 5) turn out to be a scam or 6) any combination therein.

Fair enough. I tried one of the pay sites and even though I could afford it, all of the women there were on free accounts so their profiles were visible but they couldn't respond. And no attempt was made to say which ones were subscribers. Even if you can afford those sites they're a bad idea. Still, have you tried Oasis or Geek2Geek? They're both free and I got a couple dates out of them.

I will give those a shot. thank you


not sure how to link to my OKCupid profile, but it's under LotsaLoveToGive
just bear in mind that I used a pic from 5 years ago as a placeholder until my best friend can take new ones of me

only concern now is what to say to potential matches as I always manage to say something stupid...

Honestly, your profile looked really good. I'm usually pretty critical of these things, too. My only big suggestion is to get more pictures, and not to use your current one as your "main" picture (it's not a bad picture, but since you're looking down at your guitar it looks kind of weird when only your face is shown, without the rest). I'd remove the "looking for love" under what you're doing with your life, and take out the stuff about being lucky/unlucky in your Friday night plans.

I think that if you can get a few more pictures (outdoorsy or fun pictures work well in general) I think you'll be fine. Maybe try to rearrange your paragraph/grammar structure to make things more readable also...either make everything pure bullet points with a space between each line, or put it into paragraph form..