O M G

Page 5 of 9 [ 138 posts ] Go to page Previous 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9 Next

Joined: 17 Feb 2012
Age: 44
Gender: Male
Posts: 13,051
Location: San Jose

22 Jan 2014, 3:41 pm

Its been months since i last checked my OKcupid profile i used to check it every day and then got bored because i kept getting quivers every day 6 new quivers and a couple responses. I respond back a few days too late one was an invitation to have coffee in santa clara at 5 pm but the date of the message was a few days before i read it.

_________________
Your Aspie score is 193 of 200
Your neurotypical score is 40 of 200
You are very likely an aspie
No matter where I go I will always be a Gaijin even at home. Like Anime? https://kissanime.to/AnimeList

Last edited by AspieOtaku on 22 Jan 2014, 11:16 pm, edited 1 time in total.

leafplant
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 5 Oct 2013
Age: 55
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,222

22 Jan 2014, 4:22 pm

kepted ? are you being ironic?

leafplant
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 5 Oct 2013
Age: 55
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,222

22 Jan 2014, 6:44 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I give Leafplant one month on okcupid before she becomes too full of herself and starts to ignore us mortal guys here.

Flattery won't get you anywhere, you know

Btw, I have now discovered, thanks to OKC, that I am nowhere as weird as I thought. Not sure how I feel about that.

Also, with the power of OKC I can now understand you not understanding westerners/UK dating issues in particular. It would seem that in your country there are a lot of really good looking guys and a lot of not so great looking ladies. This surprises me. Also, does anyone know where I've put my passport ?
:bounce:

Deuterium
Deinonychus

Joined: 7 Jul 2011
Gender: Male
Posts: 360
Location: United States, GA

22 Jan 2014, 8:24 pm

leafplant wrote:

That's really interesting. Perhaps you are not as introverted as you seem to think?

I could pass for a mute with minimal effort, I'm one of the most introverted people I know of. I can warm up if given months of exposure to someone, and around them I can get a bit more fun-quirky, but it is constrained to being alone with them; if someone else is around who I don't feel the same way with I will tend to shut down to the level of the least comfortable person present (which can confuse people I'm open with if they don't understand that). In public situations this means I shut down quite significantly.

sly279
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 11 Dec 2013
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 16,181
Location: US

22 Jan 2014, 9:46 pm

i find it amusing you all get excited about having a 90% match, is there not alot people in your areas?

i get 100s and 100s of 90+% matches and atleast 50 95+%

on the note of attractive everyone says there's bunchs of unattractive people so what do those people do should they go die off?

on topic i saw a lady from my work on okc and it says we a high match but having known her in person i can say we are not a match shes not the type of person i'd want to be in a relationship with.

makes me question the match percentage and besides alot of people like me have anwsered all 4k questions or how many there are but that was 6 years ago when i started and some don't represent me right so i read peoples profiles and go off that to see if they match but sadly most respond well it says we only 50% maybe if i was more of i fighter i'd be like be we have abcd in common and feel the same on this and that, but meh thier loss

AspieOtaku
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 17 Feb 2012
Age: 44
Gender: Male
Posts: 13,051
Location: San Jose

22 Jan 2014, 11:15 pm

leafplant wrote:

kepted ? are you being ironic?

Typo my bad haha!

yellowtamarin
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 5 Sep 2010
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,763
Location: Australia

23 Jan 2014, 12:29 am

sly279, you can always create your own questions that ask the stuff you really want to know. Think of what it is about your colleague that makes her unsuitable, and create a question based on that, perhaps. Not many people will answer it for a while, of course, but at least you are doing something to help improve the accuracy of match %.

leafplant
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 5 Oct 2013
Age: 55
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,222

23 Jan 2014, 4:19 am

Logan5 wrote:

I believe that OKCupid has (at least) two matching algorithms. The basic matching algorithm is used to select profiles for your "Quiver" and those shown in the side-bar. It matches people by their demographic and geographic information, and what they have specified in the "Who you are looking for" section. The advanced matching algorithm uses responses to the match questions. (It is rumoured to also use information from your written profile and your appearance in your pictures.)

In my experience, the basic matching algorithm was crap, and the advanced one was only marginally better. I wasted a lot of time on the questions and writing my profile, but (similar to Deuterium) I found I had little in common with most of the women, no matter how high the match score was.

There are several problems with the advanced matching based on the questions. First, many of the questions, and their associated response options, are poorly phrased and/or irrelevant (if not idiotic). Second, most people only complete a few dozen of the questions, so no matter how many you complete, there is usually very little to match with. Finally, many people seem to put very little thought into their responses and what responses they consider acceptable or unacceptable in others. (In my experience, the responses of some people, within questions and/or across questions, seemed contradictory.)

Thank you for this information. Do you have any idea what criteria may be used to assemble the personality profile

For example, I got almost a maximum of

Quote:

You might be…

Worse Mannered

and I am wondering where my appalling manners have failed me in all this. Unless I snubbed a coder, of course, and they were a vengeful type :roll:

leafplant
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 5 Oct 2013
Age: 55
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,222

23 Jan 2014, 4:42 am

Deuterium wrote:

leafplant wrote:

That's really interesting. Perhaps you are not as introverted as you seem to think?

Hm. I wonder how you answered your questions to be matched with people who are not suited to you. Everyone over 90% I've been matched with does seem to like similar things to me.

Deuterium
Deinonychus

Joined: 7 Jul 2011
Gender: Male
Posts: 360
Location: United States, GA

23 Jan 2014, 8:35 am

leafplant wrote:

Hm. I wonder how you answered your questions to be matched with people who are not suited to you. Everyone over 90% I've been matched with does seem to like similar things to me.

Many matches are passionate about books, and a bit nerdy, but almost all seem quite outgoing and social. Most seem certainly like people I could tolerate and have a few things in common with, but no real substance I could see promoting something beyond friends. It's definitely not the first time an online system has gotten confused about how to categorize my personality or otherwise discern what I am like. The results could be worse, but I don't feel that the matches tend to look very promising in a romantic context.

I think that perhaps the most compatible people with me would tend to be too introverted to even mess with a dating website. Admittedly I joined with zero intent to actually date, more out of curiosity of what it would come up with and what it would think of me, though I might consider meeting someone who seemed really great.

leafplant
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 5 Oct 2013
Age: 55
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,222

23 Jan 2014, 9:04 am

Deuterium wrote:

leafplant wrote:

Hm. I wonder how you answered your questions to be matched with people who are not suited to you. Everyone over 90% I've been matched with does seem to like similar things to me.

Many matches are passionate about books, and a bit nerdy, but almost all seem quite outgoing and social. Most seem certainly like people I could tolerate and have a few things in common with, but no real substance I could see promoting something beyond friends. It's definitely not the first time an online system has gotten confused about how to categorize my personality or otherwise discern what I am like. The results could be worse, but I don't feel that the matches tend to look very promising in a romantic context.

I think that perhaps the most compatible people with me would tend to be too introverted to even mess with a dating website. Admittedly I joined with zero intent to actually date, more out of curiosity of what it would come up with and what it would think of me, though I might consider meeting someone who seemed really great.

Yeah me to, then the curiosity starts to get the better of you and then ...

I am noticing a frequent desire on my part to act as a match maker as I scroll down through all the hundreds of faces that show up on my screen. Just now, I came across a delightful young lady who is my new hero:

Quote:

I'm quite educated and I appreciate someone to whom I don't have to explain that one shouldn't dry their hair in a full bathtub.

Adorable.

Perhaps take yellowtamarin's suggestion of setting up your own questions. You sound very Sheldon like, so you need to cast your net specifically for Amy-likes in your area (of appropriate gender, not sure if you may be gay)

leafplant
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 5 Oct 2013
Age: 55
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,222

24 Jan 2014, 6:58 am

I must say being on OKC has been eye opening to me. I saved some favourites to see if I can spot a pattern because if I am honest, it hasn't really been clear to me what kind of guy I am looking for. Well, I think I know now and I have also learned that my taste is for guys who are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay out of my league.

I do definitely have a type, though, so that was interesting to learn.

Yuzu
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 28 Dec 2011
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,169
Location: Bay area, California

24 Jan 2014, 10:40 am

How do you know they're out of your league? You mean looks-wise or something else?

leafplant
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 5 Oct 2013
Age: 55
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,222

24 Jan 2014, 10:45 am

Yuzu wrote:

How do you know they're out of your league? You mean looks-wise or something else?

Looks-wise and in other ways. For example all tree of my top favourites are living in California. :roll:

FunkMasterMike
Snowy Owl

Joined: 18 Nov 2012
Gender: Male
Posts: 143
Location: Lancaster, CA

24 Jan 2014, 1:30 pm

Ages 25 to 58?
O_o
Are you saying the people at your office shouldn't be allowed to have a profile?

The_Face_of_Boo
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 16 Jun 2010
Age: 44
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 33,664
Location: Beirut, Lebanon.

24 Jan 2014, 1:42 pm

Yuzu wrote:

How do you know they're out of your league? You mean looks-wise or something else?

Like most female Okcupid users, she only sees 20% of male users above average attractive.

Page 5 of 9 [ 138 posts ] Go to page Previous 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9 Next

Jump to:

O M G Post Reply New Topic

O M G