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26 Mar 2014, 8:34 am

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To be honest, I am not attracted to very overweight girls but I wouldn't say it on a dating profile nor I would even give a hint about it because a lot of women think they're fat while they're not lol.


I´d simply describe yourself in a way, that the opposite is able to decide if you are a match or not.

As example some people have stuff like "that they like to enjoy the weekends at home in comfortable atmoshphere". That does not involve anything bad at all, but simply describes the person as it is. And let me know additionally, that as someone that rather gets bored, if spending all the weekend at home, I would be a bad match for this person. That does not make me or the opposite a bad person, but just two person that rather dont mach that good. ^^

So if YOU are interested in topics as healthy eating, sport activities, ... there is nothing bad about mentioning that in an description of YOURSELF. The majority of people will automatically know, that if something is important for you when it comes to yourself, that it will be as well important for you when it comes to others.

If someone mentions to do various sport activities, and being member of a certain sport group, ... will let me assume automatically, that if I want to sit at home all the time and watch TV, that we will be a bad match. Just as someone mentioning to spend certain time on cooking with focus on mediterrian style, gives me automatically as well the hint, that this person will rather not want to eat fast food every day for dinner.

I´d simply describe yourself, the way you are. The more others know about you, the more likely people, that dont match with you, will try to date with you.



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26 Mar 2014, 8:37 am

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How do we know that it doesn't mean "is independent, in a stable career, and not very insecure"?


because on dating sites men are looking for looks and NOT independent thinking womyn in fact this is a DISadvantage


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26 Mar 2014, 9:41 am

leafplant wrote:
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The next person on any dating site that says that I am going to call out. I could use a laugh.


If you do that you'd be a different kind of offensive person who ,instead of ignoring, would message and taunt people on dating site just because she didn't like how they word things in their profiles.


I don't see how asking people what they mean is offensive, but regardless, I never claim to be super nice


Oh gee that's what you mean by "calling them out cuz I could use a laugh"?
It is so easy to misinterpret what others say sometimes...

Btw I never thought of you as SUPER nice. So no worries there.


Yes, that is what I mean. The superficial ones will have no idea what to say if they mean "skinny and good looking". I find that funny.
And I don't know if you're being sarcastic.


OK, I know you are autistic and therefore very unlikely to have self awareness to realise this, so I will point it out as a sort of friend:

You calling people out on wanting a woman that takes care of herself is like that guy who messaged you and gave you a lecture because you said on your profile that you don't want a man who has too many female friends.

Let people be.


Good point. But that guy was interested in her at least. She was going to messaging someone she has no interest in just to mess with them. That's another major offender on dating sites.

And I'm never 100% sarcastic.



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26 Mar 2014, 10:13 am

If my okc profile was still on I would have added this sentene to make hale_bopp calls me out.

Then we end up having skype sex.



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26 Mar 2014, 10:23 am

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^^

:lmao:

"Taking care of herself" could also mean she has to provide her own orgasms. :P

HILARIOUS!! ! :cheers:


It would be heaven, not much stress on satisfying her in sex.



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26 Mar 2014, 10:28 am

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I guess I better shave my legs.


If you want to optimize your mating chances then yes, you should; I am talking pragmatically regardless of your beliefs.

It's for the same reason why so many of us men shave, beards aren't generally desired by ladies.



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26 Mar 2014, 10:43 am

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You calling people out on wanting a woman that takes care of herself is like that guy who messaged you and gave you a lecture because you said on your profile that you don't want a man who has too many female friends.

Let people be.


you seriously don't get what "being offensive is!" talking to OTHER people and asking about a subject does not hurt the person who did it in any way they don't even know, this is just info gathering. Whereas directly messaging and calling someone out IS offensive, it is an attack.


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26 Mar 2014, 1:31 pm

GivePeaceAChance wrote:
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You calling people out on wanting a woman that takes care of herself is like that guy who messaged you and gave you a lecture because you said on your profile that you don't want a man who has too many female friends.

Let people be.


you seriously don't get what "being offensive is!" talking to OTHER people and asking about a subject does not hurt the person who did it in any way they don't even know, this is just info gathering. Whereas directly messaging and calling someone out IS offensive, it is an attack.


I think fault with comprehension is yours, not mine, see below:

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The next person on any dating site that says that I am going to call out. I could use a laugh.


By call out, she means message them directly and ask them to explain themselves to her. That's just aggressive and mean thing to do if it's not done for purpose of clarification, but "for a laugh" - i.e. her sole purpose in contacting would be to belittle and embarrass them.



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26 Mar 2014, 2:12 pm

GivePeaceAChance wrote:
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How do we know that it doesn't mean "is independent, in a stable career, and not very insecure"?


because on dating sites men are looking for looks and NOT independent thinking womyn in fact this is a DISadvantage


this is SO true--many guys will approach/message based on looks but turn and run in the other direction when you start speaking/respond and they realise you have a functioning brain that produces it's own intelligent thoughts. sad. :(



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26 Mar 2014, 2:17 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
I guess I better shave my legs.


If you want to optimize your mating chances then yes, you should; I am talking pragmatically regardless of your beliefs.

It's for the same reason why so many of us men shave, beards aren't generally desired by ladies.


or, if you'd rather end up with someone who isn't so shallow they would judge you based on your amount of leg hair, don't.



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26 Mar 2014, 2:32 pm

starvingartist wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
I guess I better shave my legs.


If you want to optimize your mating chances then yes, you should; I am talking pragmatically regardless of your beliefs.

It's for the same reason why so many of us men shave, beards aren't generally desired by ladies.


or, if you'd rather end up with someone who isn't so shallow they would judge you based on your amount of leg hair, don't.


yup this, I did shave when I did for my own comfort, and now I am sick of it and I shave nothing. I state is so and if people want me to do stuff just to satisfy them I don't need them


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26 Mar 2014, 2:34 pm

GivePeaceAChance wrote:
starvingartist wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
I guess I better shave my legs.


If you want to optimize your mating chances then yes, you should; I am talking pragmatically regardless of your beliefs.

It's for the same reason why so many of us men shave, beards aren't generally desired by ladies.


or, if you'd rather end up with someone who isn't so shallow they would judge you based on your amount of leg hair, don't.


yup this, I did shave when I did for my own comfort, and now I am sick of it and I shave nothing. I state is so and if people want me to do stuff just to satisfy them I don't need them


Personally I like the way my legs look unshaved - kind of like a female hobbit. But I agree, it'll be a cold day in Hell before I start doing things because they might please a man.


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26 Mar 2014, 2:57 pm

Ann2011 wrote:
GivePeaceAChance wrote:
starvingartist wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
I guess I better shave my legs.


If you want to optimize your mating chances then yes, you should; I am talking pragmatically regardless of your beliefs.

It's for the same reason why so many of us men shave, beards aren't generally desired by ladies.


or, if you'd rather end up with someone who isn't so shallow they would judge you based on your amount of leg hair, don't.


yup this, I did shave when I did for my own comfort, and now I am sick of it and I shave nothing. I state is so and if people want me to do stuff just to satisfy them I don't need them


Personally I like the way my legs look unshaved - kind of like a female hobbit. But I agree, it'll be a cold day in Hell before I start doing things because they might please a man.


Hey I am nudist at heart, I would love to walk naked in public BUT I would get arrested, lose my job and every romance chance - you get my point?

Surely, unshaved beard would not lead to this but most probably would lead to daily harassment, mocking, losing job and hey even maybe arrest too.

Honestly, I have enough troubles in surviving this world and I don't to add more of them.



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26 Mar 2014, 3:01 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
GivePeaceAChance wrote:
starvingartist wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
I guess I better shave my legs.


If you want to optimize your mating chances then yes, you should; I am talking pragmatically regardless of your beliefs.

It's for the same reason why so many of us men shave, beards aren't generally desired by ladies.


or, if you'd rather end up with someone who isn't so shallow they would judge you based on your amount of leg hair, don't.


yup this, I did shave when I did for my own comfort, and now I am sick of it and I shave nothing. I state is so and if people want me to do stuff just to satisfy them I don't need them


Personally I like the way my legs look unshaved - kind of like a female hobbit. But I agree, it'll be a cold day in Hell before I start doing things because they might please a man.


Hey I am nudist at heart, I would love to walk naked in public BUT I would get arrested, lose my job and every romance chance - you get my point?

Surely, unshaved beard would not lead to this but most probably would lead to daily harassment, mocking, losing job and hey even maybe arrest too.

Honestly, I have enough troubles in surviving this world and I don't to add more of them.


i think if you honestly live in a place where having a beard would net you public daily harassment, you might want to consider moving to somewhere where the general population is more sane.

also: equating a woman not shaving her legs to a man walking nude in public is insulting. i am not committing a public indecency if i choose not to shave my legs. :roll:



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26 Mar 2014, 3:49 pm

starvingartist wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
GivePeaceAChance wrote:
starvingartist wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
I guess I better shave my legs.


If you want to optimize your mating chances then yes, you should; I am talking pragmatically regardless of your beliefs.

It's for the same reason why so many of us men shave, beards aren't generally desired by ladies.


or, if you'd rather end up with someone who isn't so shallow they would judge you based on your amount of leg hair, don't.


yup this, I did shave when I did for my own comfort, and now I am sick of it and I shave nothing. I state is so and if people want me to do stuff just to satisfy them I don't need them


Personally I like the way my legs look unshaved - kind of like a female hobbit. But I agree, it'll be a cold day in Hell before I start doing things because they might please a man.


Hey I am nudist at heart, I would love to walk naked in public BUT I would get arrested, lose my job and every romance chance - you get my point?

Surely, unshaved beard would not lead to this but most probably would lead to daily harassment, mocking, losing job and hey even maybe arrest too.

Honestly, I have enough troubles in surviving this world and I don't to add more of them.


i think if you honestly live in a place where having a beard would net you public daily harassment, you might want to consider moving to somewhere where the general population is more sane.

also: equating a woman not shaving her legs to a man walking nude in public is insulting. i am not committing a public indecency if i choose not to shave my legs. :roll:


By unshaved beard I mean a like half meter beard, literally like a cave man - I knew a man like this and always faced troubles.

Also: immigration is not easy otherwise each one of us would simply pick our dream place.

Also: Nudity is indecency? It depends how you see it; you've just reinforced my point, and yes - to most people, including you, it's indecency; as much how to most people (men AND women) would view unshaved legs on women or long beards on men as unattractive.

I was simply saying to Ann (she was the one who said she's thinking of shaving her legs) that it would increase her dating chances. I personally have no problem with leg hair.



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26 Mar 2014, 4:08 pm

starvingartist wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
GivePeaceAChance wrote:
starvingartist wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Ann2011 wrote:
I guess I better shave my legs.


If you want to optimize your mating chances then yes, you should; I am talking pragmatically regardless of your beliefs.

It's for the same reason why so many of us men shave, beards aren't generally desired by ladies.


or, if you'd rather end up with someone who isn't so shallow they would judge you based on your amount of leg hair, don't.


yup this, I did shave when I did for my own comfort, and now I am sick of it and I shave nothing. I state is so and if people want me to do stuff just to satisfy them I don't need them


Personally I like the way my legs look unshaved - kind of like a female hobbit. But I agree, it'll be a cold day in Hell before I start doing things because they might please a man.


Hey I am nudist at heart, I would love to walk naked in public BUT I would get arrested, lose my job and every romance chance - you get my point?

Surely, unshaved beard would not lead to this but most probably would lead to daily harassment, mocking, losing job and hey even maybe arrest too.

Honestly, I have enough troubles in surviving this world and I don't to add more of them.


i think if you honestly live in a place where having a beard would net you public daily harassment, you might want to consider moving to somewhere where the general population is more sane.

also: equating a woman not shaving her legs to a man walking nude in public is insulting. i am not committing a public indecency if i choose not to shave my legs. :roll:


I live in a developed country.

Everything is great, everyone looks open to other cultures...

One day I choose to make a stand not to shave for personal reasons.

Relatives laughed when I told them that I would wait until the following year to shave it off.

By the following year relatives were annoyed.

Their friends on this oh so developed country were telling them that I looked like a terrorist and judging me based on that.

I didnt care about that, and I kept it for another whole year just to show that, but most societies right now do have strong prejudices against men that choose not to shave for whatever reason.