Are all the good ones REALLY taken by 27?

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I'm 27. I'm not taken yet......... but I probably might be soon.

Is that a definite maybe?

People should wait till their thirties to get serious.Most people are still pretty immature in their early twenties,you don't really know what you want.

You might call it that, yeah.

on the other hand, in the history of mankind, most people got married in their teens
by order of the elder
with no choice in the matter!

that seems to be the case for women for the most part

I'll take anyone who will have me be they bad or good.

Nah, the good ones aren't all gone by 27.. I know because my crush is 28 at the moment.

As for how long people should date before marriage.. that's different for everyone. Some people believe in love at first sight and marry someone right away in a relationship, and others stay together as a couple for decades and never get married. There are no rules.

I was 28 when my wife and I met and turned 29 within weeks of our first date. I just wasn't ready for a relationship prior to that. The best advice I can give you or anyone is to focus on getting you ready for a relationship. Identify your strengths and weaknesses, know who you are, know what you bring to a relationship and have a positive self-image. If you don't love yourself, then how can you ask anyone else to love you.

Also, their is some truth to the adage, "God helps those who help themselves"

Regardless of your religious beliefs, the point is, you can't just sit and wait for a spouse to fall in your lap. You need to make an effort to meet people, whether that be through Church, social clubs, online dating, whatever you find that works for you. Most Aspie's struggle with social skills to some degree or another. You have to master these to some degree in order to date.

For example:

Can you go to a restaurant without experiencing sensory issues?
Can you maintain a relationship one-on -one or do you go off on tangents?
Could you listen to someone talk about something that has no interest for you?
Do you know how to make a friend and keep them as a friend?

These are the types of things you need to work on within yourself to prepare to meet someone you may want to someday marry.

Last but not least, cultivate a good friendship with someone of the opposite sex. They can offer great advice when you do find someone you want to date.

There are tons of people who don't like themselves who have gf\bfs.

No problem with your list

Depends on the country, but then again they become single again later on in life. So it doesn't really matter, there are single people of any age.

My girlfriend was 29 when I met her (I'm 25). And she's very nice.

27 years is just a blip in the passage of time. the longest life is likewise just a blip. the passage of time that amounts to many quintillions of years is as insignificant a blip in the spread of time as is a single beat of a hummingbirds wings.

people may think they have found their "lifetime" partner, and they presume subconsciously that they will be together forever, but the fact is that it is an insignificant pairing as is the transient pairing of 2 molecules that glance off from each other after a few valent bonds are satisfied during their intersection, so that each can be on their inevitable way with their respective needs resolved from the encounter.

i have always been interested in finding pictures from a very long (relative to my life) time ago of women that i find to be visually appealing in both their physical attractiveness, as well as their facial expressions. it is very hard to find a picture that is more than 100 years old of a young lady who is engaging to my wits in that manner, but i have nevertheless found many pictures of women who must be long dead who's facial expressions i found comfort in looking at.
"what a beautiful girl" i would have thought if i were alive when she was, but since the photo was taken in maybe 1860 or so, i realize that her remains would be almost indistinguishable from dirt now.

if i had been alive then and was involved in a relationship with her, then no matter how hot or tawdry or playful or whatever we were, we both would now be long gone and indistinguishable from dirt.

so to wonder if everyone over 27 (at this present minute) is not worth considering is to agonize over a question that is self defeating given a cosmic blink in time, for all who are under 27 will not be so for long.

all who will be born will die, and the last person to be born on earth (the youngest person who will ever exist) will be long gone in the fullness of universal progress.

who cares? temporariness to me equals non existence.
any finite quantity is reduced to nothing when divided by infinity (which is it's relative significance within the framework of all that is (and all that is not)).

anyway, 27 is a physical age i guess where most people have gone into someone else's orbit and it is all just a social merry go round as far as i am concerned.

I may be a "good one" in certain ways. I'm not sure, it all depends (at least I'm not a person who does things that are bad, illegal, irresponsible, or dangerously immature). But I'm old and not taken.

I'm 37 and not chopped liver, and not taken either.

I'm 27 now, and I'm not taken. But I may be soon.......

eh, us Autistic gals, the NT guys don't know what to make of us, let alone what to do with us.

This town I'm in is pretty blue-collar so "weirdness" is pretty untolerated at least in terms of who people will approach.