Polygamy

Post Reply New Topic

These are definitely also things that are possible to receive from friends and/or family:
Company
Love
Affection
Commitment
Attachment
Doing things together

Note: I’m not sure why you mention “possibly children” when you and I were talking about this being a crush situation that specifically has no sex involved. Unless you meant driving her to a facility to be artificially inseminated? In that case, a friend or family member could also provide transportation and emotional support for that. And if you meant being around children in general… a woman could also receive this interaction through having younger brothers and sisters, volunteering with children, or even babysitting.

However, since I do live in the United States…Sweden could be quite unique due to cultural differences. I’m willing to factor that in as a possibility. Here there are very, very few women who are in their sexual peak (in their 30s) that would be willing to live with a man/crush without having sex. It would be extremely rare (with exception of reduced libido due to side effects from medications, medical issues that prevent sex, mental issues/trauma, etc.) Since those are not common, it is not likely that most women would be open to such an arrangement.

The man I met at my university seems nice. However, I cannot see putting my sexual needs/desires aside and letting opportunities to have a full and healthy relationship with another potential partner pass me by due to his preferences. Personally, this would be “settling” for something that is not a wanted or ideal arrangement. It's great if that works for you and you one day find someone that is open to such a situation. I’m simply saying that it would not work for me. So, if this man asked me, I would say, “No.”

We’ll probably just have to agree to disagree on this one, because we have opposing views.

No, by no sex I mean no sex for "fun". I'm perfectly ok with having sex in order to have children (I have 3 children). I just don't see why anybody would want to have sex if they don't plan on getting children.

and i don't get why anyone would not want to have sex just for fun.

good thing both are allowed now.

Thank you for clarifying your position. I also feel the need to clarify mine. I would not be open to having occasional sex with a live-in crush simply for the means of procreation. My main point was that the majority (not all) women will not be open to that type of arrangement, including my Aspie self.

Me either.Too enjoyable to not want to have sex. And, lol...yes, to each his/her own.