A Self-Made-Man girl discovers that life as a man is harder

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It shouldn't surprise anyone, men have to initiate relationships which isn't easy under normal circumstances let alone for those on the spectrum. Being pursued while maybe annoying and somewhat burdensome at times is still a position of power and privilege.

Pretty much. I heard someone say that war is inevitable in any country when the ratio of men becomes to high, maybe that's what should really scare people about China.

I like how these posts always go in a direction in which you'd think there are no autistic women...after all, all women are the same even the ones with autism and other neurological and/or mental conditions have it 100 % easy, all they gotta do is look pretty and a viable boyfriend will come along...obviously this is how it is for all women.


Anyways remember there are autistic women and women with other conditions who struggle just as much if not more with relationships than your typical male. And what the f*** is a self made man girl? Did she undergo a sex change...or just dress like a dude....maybe her uh 'costume' wan't very convincing and that has something to do with the difficulties she found in picking up females whilst digusied as a male. Sure historically it has been males who make the first move, that trend can be seen even today...though its not unheard of for a female to initiate anymore...but its been ingrained in society so long its still more or less a 'norm'.

Sure might be hard for your typical autistic male to find a model quality, drop dead gorgeous blonde with lots of friends and an impressive social life that wants them for a boyfriend, but no it is not impossible for autistic males to 'get girlfriends' might not get one that will serve to hide your akwardness and raise your social status by being 'hot' but you could look for someone with some common interests you actually enjoy spending time with or attempt to meet people in venues that cater to your interests.......But of course I know many guys would rather have a drop dead gorgeous blonde with large boobs who dresses sexy and is ready to drop them as soon as something better looking, with more money or offers a better time comes along then someone they really bond with who maybe isn't as visually 'satisfying'. Of course i am generalizing some...but this thread is already full of generalization.

I agree. If men didn't mainly go for looks, women wouldn't be doing all the cosmetic stuff they feel like they have to do in order to compete with other women and it gets exhausting and expensive - highlighted hair, fake nails, boob jobs, high heels, makeup, getting every hair plucked from their body. Men say they like the "natural look". So then how did Marylin Monroe get so popular? And the Victoria Secret Models? Playboy Bunnies?Sports Illustrated swimsuit models. Every guy wants a good girl mixed with a naughty girl in the bedroom. Gotta tell you, it's darn hard to live up to all of that. Society and advertisements are what cause this to happen and it is impossible to live up to.

I like how these posts always go in a direction in which you'd think there are no autistic women...after all, all women are the same even the ones with autism and other neurological and/or mental conditions have it 100 % easy, all they gotta do is look pretty and a viable boyfriend will come along...obviously this is how it is for all women.


Anyways remember there are autistic women and women with other conditions who struggle just as much if not more with relationships than your typical male. And what the f*** is a self made man girl? Did she undergo a sex change...or just dress like a dude....maybe her uh 'costume' wan't very convincing and that has something to do with the difficulties she found in picking up females whilst digusied as a male. Sure historically it has been males who make the first move, that trend can be seen even today...though its not unheard of for a female to initiate anymore...but its been ingrained in society so long its still more or less a 'norm'.

Sure might be hard for your typical autistic male to find a model quality, drop dead gorgeous blonde with lots of friends and an impressive social life that wants them for a boyfriend, but no it is not impossible for autistic males to 'get girlfriends' might not get one that will serve to hide your akwardness and raise your social status by being 'hot' but you could look for someone with some common interests you actually enjoy spending time with or attempt to meet people in venues that cater to your interests.......But of course I know many guys would rather have a drop dead gorgeous blonde with large boobs who dresses sexy and is ready to drop them as soon as something better looking, with more money or offers a better time comes along then someone they really bond with who maybe isn't as visually 'satisfying'. Of course i am generalizing some...but this thread is already full of generalization.

Men say they like the "natural look"...

I completely understand. I feel like I have to be extremely physically attractive for anyone to want or love me. This is why I like weird people. I want someone that's just as quirky as I am, and doesn't give a crap about what's considered hot to other people. In fact, I prefer men with actual feelings and don't mind expressing them in healthy ways. I don't like dumb stereotypes about any sex or gender because it only makes people believe lies. It's taken me a long time to understand that men have feelings too, and I wish it didn't.

Sorry if I seem to be going on a weird tangent. I have a feeling none of what I just typed would make any sense to anyone else except for me.

Depends on what you are being pursued by...it also leaves you open to being taken advantage of, finding yourself in an abusive situation or other dangers. Also what sort of area one lives in can make a difference.

Depends on what you are being pursued by...

it also leaves you open to being taken advantage of, finding yourself in an abusive situation or other dangers.

I like how these posts always go in a direction in which you'd think there are no autistic women...after all, all women are the same even the ones with autism and other neurological and/or mental conditions have it 100 % easy, all they gotta do is look pretty and a viable boyfriend will come along...obviously this is how it is for all women.


Anyways remember there are autistic women and women with other conditions who struggle just as much if not more with relationships than your typical male. And what the f*** is a self made man girl? Did she undergo a sex change...or just dress like a dude....maybe her uh 'costume' wan't very convincing and that has something to do with the difficulties she found in picking up females whilst digusied as a male. Sure historically it has been males who make the first move, that trend can be seen even today...though its not unheard of for a female to initiate anymore...but its been ingrained in society so long its still more or less a 'norm'.

And what the f*** is a self made man girl? Did she undergo a sex change...or just dress like a dude....maybe her uh 'costume' wan't very convincing and that has something to do with the difficulties she found in picking up females whilst digusied as a male

Sure might be hard for your typical autistic male to find a model quality, drop dead gorgeous blonde with lots of friends and an impressive social life that wants them for a boyfriend, but no it is not impossible for autistic males to 'get girlfriends' might not get one that will serve to hide your akwardness and raise your social status by being 'hot' but you could look for someone with some common interests you actually enjoy spending time with or attempt to meet people in venues that cater to your interests.......But of course I know many guys would rather have a drop dead gorgeous blonde with large boobs who dresses sexy and is ready to drop them as soon as something better looking, with more money or offers a better time comes along then someone they really bond with who maybe isn't as visually 'satisfying'. Of course i am generalizing some...but this thread is already full of generalization.

most guys(not all) are probably so intimidated of 'drop dead gorgeous blondes with big boobs' to the point they won't even approach or speak to them.

What jacoby said is very true, I would never approach a model-like girl - they are usually taken, and self-centered; and it's no secret that model-like types would want either a model-like guy or a wealthy guy or both. Simply put, I am out of her league.

In fact, she is usually constantly surrounded by male "orbiters" - you know, guys who like to "help her" and "assist her" and give her attention in every way possible, I would just feel like another one of these lapdogs if I approach her.