marshall wrote:
Outrider wrote:
marshall wrote:
Outrider wrote:
I think deeply myself and enjoy philosophy and psychology. I've used my solitude to develop my own views of the world. Philosophically I am an existentialist. I also am interested in politics, Socialist-Democratic views, environmental issues,conspiracy theories, Anonymous, etc. I use the internet to research things (philo- and psycho- especially) as well when bored instead of just 'killing time'. Never have anyone to talk to about this stuff.
Even my friends, they just don't value deep conversation like I do. My best friend is capable of deep conversation however I am the much more talkative one and 99% of the time I 'lead' all of our conversations. He is short responses and brief type of guy (not because he isn't interested, that's just how he is due to also being an aspie) I am detailed and verbose (as if anyone couldn't already tell in the first place. XD).
Is it weird you make a 'career' out of it? No, I'd say not. Solitude and isolation seems to encourage us to think deeply and introspectively; it's natural. I mean if you don't have many people to talk to about 'interesting things' with that deviate from societies usual boring, generic 'small talk' and the few friends you do have aren't capable of it, then of course you'd be keeping these thoughts to yourself.
It's hard though, I know. It's like some...some sort of energy within you. I believe many people in this world are opinionated and like to hear their own opinions and are confident in them that they are right or correct. Even now I'm going into detail with this., because it;'s true. It feels good to express your inner thoughts, to get them off your chest. Just keeping everything inside negatively affects you when you want people to talk to about this stuff to.
You sound a lot like me. I never stop thinking. I get in trouble with small talk. I start thinking about other (more interesting) things and then drift out of the conversation completely. I need intellectual stimulation but it's hard to find others I can share my thoughts with. I find most people's thoughts and opinions kind of trivial and not very interesting. If I do open my mouth about something in my head I don't communicate it clearly enough and it goes right over people. Its annoying.
In groups I seem 'shy' when the truth is I am not shy, just quiet. I prefer to aproach others and usually only socialize if the topic interests me, in which the majority do not. I often just sit there staring into the distance, thinking deeply to myself while others might talk and socialize. I would rather actually speak to others in deep conversation but that's rarely possible.
It;s the only reason I do come across as shy - by comparison to the people I hang around.
Yea. Most people can't understand not wanting to talk all the time. They assume someone who doesn't talk all the time is timid or afraid to talk. It's really really stupid.
Yeah, the group I hang out with at school I am exactly this. The silent type for the most part but I have opened up a bit more and do socialize a bit more. Still, I do sometimes exchange odd looks with people of nearby groups, it's like they can sense I 'don't belong' with my acquaintances/friends that I hang around. I do try to ignore it and they are none of my concern but still, just interesting really.
I don't know how to overcome it, to not be the 'quietest' one in a group. It's not being the quietest that I dislike, it's being THOUGHT of as shy/timid/stuck-up/etc.
Only around really good friends can I be a lot more loud and extroverted and 'blend in' much better. Around most others however I uniquely stick-out very easily. Not that I'm complaining, but stilll.
And yeah, wish more people could value silence/a lack of talking for once.
06 Oct 2015, 9:40 pm
