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06 Apr 2019, 2:33 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

Why the sad face?

I see nothing wrong with this sort of relationship in most cases.

Most see it as horrible and creepy.
Should pass a law so you can only date and marry someone the exact same age.

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06 Apr 2019, 2:34 pm

Of course you’re not serious lol

When I was a 19 year old male, I had a great desire for a 38 year old woman.

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06 Apr 2019, 2:36 pm

sly279 wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

Why the sad face?

I see nothing wrong with this sort of relationship in most cases.

Most see it as horrible and creepy.
Should pass a law so you can only date and marry someone the exact same age.

Some, not most.

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06 Apr 2019, 2:46 pm

It depends on the situation.

That would be the best answer.

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06 Apr 2019, 4:00 pm

Runo Misaki wrote:

It may be legal but that doesn't mean it's not creepy. A 19 year old is still a teenager that just got out of high school a year ago while a 30 year old is a full grown adult that's probably old enough to have a child of their own. If a 30 year old man wants to date a 19 year old girl, he should get used to being called a cradle robber and a creep if he decides to tell people about his relationship. Just saying.

& the 19 year-old should get used to being called Grave Robber :lol:

Seriously I think as long as both parties are capable of making their own decisions about who to date & noone is being manipulated & the realtionship works for both of them, then I see nothing wrong.

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06 Apr 2019, 11:29 pm

For sex and hookup it is ok.

For marriage... not much, big gap.

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07 Apr 2019, 1:48 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

Of course you’re not serious lol

When I was a 19 year old male, I had a great desire for a 38 year old woman.

I’d bet older woman younger man is ok just like how when a 25 year old sex with a 14 year old boy, people are ok with it but if it’s a 14 old girl with a 25 year old man irs horrible and people want him hanged.

I dont know such a law would enforce equality.

I’m a bad guy for wanting to date a 20-26 year old woman.

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07 Apr 2019, 6:40 am

Nobody who has any sanity would think you’re a bad guy for dating young 20s women.

You’re meeting some really funny people. I don’t hang out with that sort of person who believes that garbage.

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07 Apr 2019, 6:46 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

Nobody who has any sanity would think you’re a bad guy for dating young 20s women.

You’re meeting some really funny people. I don’t hang out with that sort of person who believes that garbage.

QFT

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07 Apr 2019, 1:47 pm

I’m almost 26 and couldn’t date a guy under 22. I’m attracted to people also in their 20s. So a 30 or above year old is out of the question for me.

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07 Apr 2019, 2:01 pm

sly279 wrote:

ust like how when a 25 year old sex with a 14 year old boy, people are ok with it but if it’s a 14 old girl with a 25 year old man irs horrible and people want him hanged.

This actually is not that uncommon where I'm from.

My grandpa was about 12 or 14 years older than my grandma & they started dating when she was in her late teens.

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07 Apr 2019, 2:22 pm

I mean personally I turn 19 this year, and I could never imagine dating a thirty year old man. I dont think me or my parents would feel comfortable with that situation. Its not the age gap that bothers me though. Like a 30 and 40 year old sure, but teenagers and thirties seems like a big gap in age, maturity, and experience. Id prefer to date someone close to my own age.

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07 Apr 2019, 4:07 pm

graceksjp wrote:

Aspies are not as mature d and experienced. I get along better and have more in common with 18-25 year olds. As my ex friends said I didn’t grow up while they did.
Which makes dating hard on top of my other downsides. The average 31 year old woman would find me childish and immature.

I wonder why you think 30-40 is ok but not 20-30. The 40 year old will be more mature and experienced then the 30 year old so all the same issues still exist.
Not challenging your decision most won’t date 30 old men, different for 30 old women.

It’s another reason why my situation will only get worse as I get older. At 26 I could date a 18-24 year old who matched my experience and maturity although women are more mature at that age then men, now I can only date 30+ old women, who will if they get past my income and status find me incompatible

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07 Apr 2019, 4:08 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

Nobody who has any sanity would think you’re a bad guy for dating young 20s women.

You’re meeting some really funny people. I don’t hang out with that sort of person who believes that garbage.

My mom does.
She seems to think I’m a pedo for it.

You hang out with the people here who think it.

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07 Apr 2019, 4:29 pm

Your mother is not right. You’re a pedophiliac when you want to have sex with, say, 13 year olds. Not full-grown adults.

I don’t “hang out” with anybody who would see something wrong with a 31 year old dating a 26 year old. Or even someone in their earlier 20s. That’s nonsense.

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07 Apr 2019, 4:32 pm

I'm nearly 29 and my boyfriend is early 50s. Anyone beat that age gap? :lol:

He's NT by the way, and I'm Aspie.

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