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kraftiekortie
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16 Oct 2015, 8:17 am

C'mon Sly....invite somebody to your home for a barbecue!

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16 Oct 2015, 1:21 pm

I'm not a social person by nature, so it is difficult for me to initiate relationships. I'm thinking that a lot of Aspies are the same.

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16 Oct 2015, 1:48 pm

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C'mon Sly....invite somebody to your home for a barbecue!

Yeah not inviting a stranger to my house. Besides there's no one to invite

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16 Oct 2015, 2:05 pm

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Does anyone here believe in soulmates [not just romantic ones]?

Yes, I do- and I hope they exist. The only thing I would like at the moment is to find a soulmate, not just a sex partner/romantic interest. I don't do well with the conventional dating scheme and it's really taken a toll on me and my already fragile ego has taken a major hit. I hate flirting and just want to get straight into meaningful conversation.

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16 Oct 2015, 2:36 pm

I hope soulmates exist, because then maybe I won't be so lonely. I have low self-esteem and am rather insecure as well. Have you ever read any Clamp manga, RubyTates? A lot of their characters dream of finding their 'special someone'.

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16 Oct 2015, 9:33 pm

SwissPagan wrote:

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InsomniaGrl wrote:

The same way I don't hate the guys or girls who use a person for their gratification. I don't like the injustice of sexual relations, but I'm not perfect, and I don't know anyone who is, so I try to hate the situation we find ourselves in, and not the person, if I possible can.

Now, that seems an unusual view. Using a woman for sexual pleasure is a big no-no; in fact, I'm not sure there's any hypothetical way I could interact with a woman that wouldn't count as "using" her somehow, and this is one of the many reasons any kind of relationship with them looks so completely off-limits to me in real life.

yeah... that kinda feeds the self-defeating bias that feeds my shyness towards anything romantic. even if you start a relationship, you are still the de-facto bad-guy should you find any fulfillment in it.

According to who?

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17 Oct 2015, 4:19 am

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I don't make enough money to be considered for dating or being a man.

I still check dating sites and Craigslist , I just hardly ever reach out and if I do I'm ignored anyways.

Eh, nonsense. I met my current wife while unemployed.

Money doesn't make anyone a man. And a woman too wrapped up in money is bad news anyway.

It's just what most women say. I failed to meet a lot of the things required to be considered a man, i dont know what I am

A man is a man, no matter how poor he is. :wink:

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17 Oct 2015, 4:49 am

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I have had no sexual thoughts whatsoever, but that doesn't mean that I've never been attracted to someone. I always try to stay true to myself. I know that sounds like a cat poster, but it's true [imagine me saying that like Morgan Freeman!]

You wouldn't believe how many times I've used that line

As for the question at hand, In the past I tried to force myself to be more social when I first came to college, I made some real friends for once, but I haven't been in a true relationship yet. These days I've actually kind of given up on meeting anyone here, I have my friends and I know the people in my department and there's nothing here, no one new to meet. I haven't actively tried to go after anyone online either, I've just been myself, but that seems to have worked to some effect.

Do I believe in soul mates? I guess that depends on the definition. I believe in high compatibility relationships, I consider myself monogamous and have never been for the casual dating scene, but I don't feel like I'm destined to be with anyone. I believe we make our own miracles.

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17 Oct 2015, 4:56 am

Soulmates don't exist. Love is not lifelong.

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17 Oct 2015, 5:04 am

I am with my soul mate,
I am the soul mate for my soul...

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17 Oct 2015, 5:58 am

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I am with my soul mate,
I am the soul mate for my soul...

Aww, gots to love her

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17 Oct 2015, 6:00 am

love you too :heart:

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17 Oct 2015, 8:27 am

Cockroach96 wrote:

Soulmates don't exist. Love is not lifelong.

Depends on how you define love. A crush won't be lifelong, but the attachment very well could be.

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17 Oct 2015, 8:55 am

Guys write quite a lot on WP about how they can't be considered for a relationship because they don't have much money. I'm not saying money never plays a factor by any means. I wonder how much geographic location has to do with this though. I'm assuming quite a lot of people are from America on WP? I don't know what percentage are from the UK, but i think money may be less of a barrier to dating or relationships in some places. On balance a lack of money, if you live in the UK, seems like less of a barrier to dating than some places, though of course it can still be a factor.

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17 Oct 2015, 9:11 am

The lack of money (money genuinely earned by you, that is) can be just the tip of the iceberg and a consequence of deeper problems. Anyway, it’s unfair to expect anyone to date you when you have nothing to offer and would only be a burden to them.

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17 Oct 2015, 9:34 am

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Guys write quite a lot on WP about how they can't be considered for a relationship because they don't have much money.

I never put any money into it. It's not necessary, and will give the wrong signals to the girl.

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