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29 Oct 2015, 4:19 pm

Neotenous Nordic wrote:
..It's a trust kind of thing to provide an image of yourself when you have romantical interest. Both parties have to do that or something is fishy…
Yeah, however ugly you think you are, however much you don't like your looks..chances are you look beautiful to the other..Just being yourself and not sounding fishy to the other part could be better choice.


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29 Oct 2015, 4:20 pm

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… If somebody can not video call in the digital age, it could seem suspect unless they are trying to maintain a level of anonymity….
Video call can be the smartest choice if we want to avoid any kind of trolls in online relationship. But if the other insists that he/she cannot video call since his internet speed is too slow to do that, should I be suspicious of this person ? If I were there, I could trust what he said. Would you trust him? What would be an alternative to video call?


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29 Oct 2015, 11:16 pm

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An exception would be someone who has shared far too much diverse yet interconnecting information to be a troll and can be trusted on what they describe their physical appearance to be.
I've struggled understanding this sentences for several minutes ..maybe due to my bad English..more elaborate pls..


I feel like I worded that strangely as well I guess. What I'm saying is people with no photo can enter into my trust/can be trusted on what they give their physical description to be if I know them well enough to know they aren't fake/a troll.

You hid it in a wall of text :ninja:, didn't see it



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29 Oct 2015, 11:18 pm

Thanks I got it! :D

I did hide it, as you seem to like games? hehe.


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30 Oct 2015, 1:36 am

Drawyer wrote:
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… If somebody can not video call in the digital age, it could seem suspect unless they are trying to maintain a level of anonymity….
Video call can be the smartest choice if we want to avoid any kind of trolls in online relationship. But if the other insists that he/she cannot video call since his internet speed is too slow to do that, should I be suspicious of this person ? If I were there, I could trust what he said. Would you trust him? What would be an alternative to video call?

I get anxiety from calls and video chats



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30 Oct 2015, 2:04 am

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I found that he's very attractive.
I am straight and I admit, he has a nice butt. :lol:
Let's talk about your butt..Is it flat? Just from curiosity.


I won't ruin the suspense now, you are free to check it yourself. :lol:

Wait....you're over 18, aren't you?



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30 Oct 2015, 2:16 am

sly279 wrote:
Drawyer wrote:
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… If somebody can not video call in the digital age, it could seem suspect unless they are trying to maintain a level of anonymity….
Video call can be the smartest choice if we want to avoid any kind of trolls in online relationship. But if the other insists that he/she cannot video call since his internet speed is too slow to do that, should I be suspicious of this person ? If I were there, I could trust what he said. Would you trust him? What would be an alternative to video call?
I get anxiety from calls and video chats
I see, difficulty in reading the other's face and having a rather monotone voice would make you get anxiety from calls and video chats. That's why most Aspies would feel more comfortable to talk to via texts.
If the other knows about the Spectrum, she/he would understand that difficulty,
but if they don't, they would be suspicious of you, which isn't helpful for your overall romantic life at all.
Hmm..That could be a big problem.


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30 Oct 2015, 2:18 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Drawyer wrote:
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Drawyer wrote:
I found that he's very attractive.
I am straight and I admit, he has a nice butt. :lol:
Let's talk about your butt..Is it flat? Just from curiosity.
I won't ruin the suspense now, you are free to check it yourself. :lol:
Wait....you're over 18, aren't you?
C'mon, Boo. Just show me what your butt looks like in some spandex pants. 8) 8)


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30 Oct 2015, 2:44 am

Drawyer wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Drawyer wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Drawyer wrote:
I found that he's very attractive.
I am straight and I admit, he has a nice butt. :lol:
Let's talk about your butt..Is it flat? Just from curiosity.
I won't ruin the suspense now, you are free to check it yourself. :lol:
Wait....you're over 18, aren't you?
C'mon, Boo. Just show me what your butt looks like in some spandex pants. 8) 8)



No, you're fishy...you're avoiding the age question. :-)



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30 Oct 2015, 2:51 am

Of course, I'm legally permitted to engage in whatever I want. I'm over 18.

Were you blushed? Did I succeed in making you blushed in real? :lol:


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30 Oct 2015, 3:27 am

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Of course, I'm legally permitted to engage in whatever I want. I'm over 18.

Were you blushed? Did I succeed in making you blushed in real? :lol:


You're confusing my shyness symptoms with arousal. :mrgreen:



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30 Oct 2015, 3:34 am

Damn. You won! :skull:


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30 Oct 2015, 4:06 am

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Damn. You won! :skull:


...and what did I win?



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30 Oct 2015, 5:04 am

My mission of making you blushed, I failed therefore you won.


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30 Oct 2015, 5:23 am

Drawyer wrote:
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… If somebody can not video call in the digital age, it could seem suspect unless they are trying to maintain a level of anonymity….
Video call can be the smartest choice if we want to avoid any kind of trolls in online relationship. But if the other insists that he/she cannot video call since his internet speed is too slow to do that, should I be suspicious of this person ? If I were there, I could trust what he said. Would you trust him? What would be an alternative to video call?


You could ask them to take a photo holding a random, inanimate object or a signed piece of paper.

That is the only alternative I can think of, minus a blind date.



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30 Oct 2015, 6:12 am

Drawyer wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Drawyer wrote:
Nocturnus wrote:
… If somebody can not video call in the digital age, it could seem suspect unless they are trying to maintain a level of anonymity….
Video call can be the smartest choice if we want to avoid any kind of trolls in online relationship. But if the other insists that he/she cannot video call since his internet speed is too slow to do that, should I be suspicious of this person ? If I were there, I could trust what he said. Would you trust him? What would be an alternative to video call?
I get anxiety from calls and video chats
I see, difficulty in reading the other's face and having a rather monotone voice would make you get anxiety from calls and video chats. That's why most Aspies would feel more comfortable to talk to via texts.
If the other knows about the Spectrum, she/he would understand that difficulty,
but if they don't, they would be suspicious of you, which isn't helpful for your overall romantic life at all.
Hmm..That could be a big problem.


I agree, familiarity and comfort are very important when it comes to feeling a sense of acceptance and trust. It is important that the other person knows that you can not always be expressive or communicative towards them.

I prefer writing because there isn't a need to process body language or facial cues, social interactions are very dynamic and they can be very exhausting..I come across as very robotic and expressionless at times.