How to get the HOT GIRL

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I think you misunderstood it. It's the girl that initiates it, not the guy. The guy has no role whatsoever in this, and the only thing he can do is to back-out of it.

That's why I initially described it as a tip for girls. Guys cannot use this for anything. That should be obvious too since it's the guy that gets a crush and not the girl. Only a foolish guy would try to trigger this with a random, stranger girl.

Look guys. If you fancy us and we fancy you what we want is for you to talk to us and invite us somewhere. It could be anything, coffee, snowboarding, skating, bowling, a gig. Just reach out. No games, no following, no staring at us for months until we get hurt and upset and think you don't really like us and end up crying all night.

Just tell her.

Conversely girls, if you like a bloke and he seems to like you. Tell him.

I was watching a thing about Charles amd Diana earlier. He should have got together with Camilla from the start. They should have just gone for it and saved years of heartache. Don't be Charles and Camilla.

Nah. Too boring.

Besides, I'm not sure if I can actually get a crush in any other way or not. I have no definite proof that I can, rather three examples with this scenario. Two of these I didn't want to pursue, and one I did pursue.

Also, when I got in a more or less arranged relationship in the 90s (could have been online dating if it was today), I never got a crush, and when she ended it a few months later, I easily moved on because I wasn't attached.

You get the crush first and then act on it. I don't mean ask her out as soon as you meet her, although if you really want to on the first meeting then go for it!

I've recently realised that a lot if the guys I thought I had fancied over the years weren't actually people I really had feelings for. I just liked them in a "hey this is a decent sort of person" kind of way. Once they were gone I realised that I don't miss them and that's OK. Sometimes these things don't last and we're glad that we didn't rush into anything.

Buut, when you meet someone who is different, and as the weeks and maybe months pass and you learn more about them and you feel that connection with... Just tell them!

She says hypocritically. Don't be like hurtloam.

Is that all you people care about? "Hot girls"? Ugh

Please don't be put off the L&D forum because of this one thread. We're not all like that here.

Let's go bowling!

How To Get The HOT GIRL :

First, eh...um...

Authentic human relationships are the polar opposite of "technique mentality", and seeking to get into a relationship from a starting point of ulterior motives and manipulation is repugnant.

I think I have learnt something over the years after all. When I got the college crush on the girl in my class I'm sure she triggered me by being in front of me looking back. She did this so well that I couldn't get over it for many years, even if I knew I would hardly meet her again. This was also too easy, and required no effort from any of thus, so it never led anywhere.

Yes, I did learn from this mistake, and so I invited my would-be-wife on coffee one day at a dance after having observed each others on dances for a few months.

It's not until recently that I've understood the connections. If I had known it at the time, I'm sure I wouldn't have made those mistakes. OTOH, playing the real ND courtship game is very rewarding too, so I feel I would have missed a lot if I had jumped all the stages or never experienced the whole thing.

I think the thread has been largely derailed.

I prefer hotdogs.

I miss Czech hotdogs.... ahhh, best hotdogs ever.

How To Get The HOT GIRL :

First, uh......Be the ice man, you can cool her down in the end.

I followed the OPs advice, and I am now surrounded by HOT GIRLs. It has actually become something of a burden. I can't move without a HOT GIRL approaching me for advice or otherwise attempting to proposition me. Does anybody else regret reading this thread and discovering the truth about HOT GIRLs?

Me too....I am getting suffocated by many HOT Girls'.... bosoms.

"...this gives you the chance to study and learn all about the other person ..." Does this phrase make anyone else cringe? I find this attitude creepy and manipulative.