Opinions on love

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ambition is actually one of the most important deal-breakers for me (which, yes, severely limits my pool of potentially compatible partners, and realistically forces me to be ready to accept some compromises i would probably resent otherwise). i would not be compatible with an ambitious woman. passionate is okay and potentially very good, driven is okay and potentially very good, but ambitious... not really

i want a simple and mostly frugal life. even if it would probably involve expensive things once in a while (travel, mostly), i would still want it to be a simple life. going places just to be there and look around, not to do fancy stuff. and if my partner wouldn't be someone to share that kind of life with, then she wouldn't be my partner at all

I don't care if she's not very intelligent. I'm not super intelligent in book smart sense.
I don't think anyone is truely dumb

Guys here are lots of hugs for all of you

I get the intellectual talk and it's tempting to get all misanthropic (been there done that)... but in the end remember you are not alone and worthy of being loved

Since we're getting into preferences now, I'll weigh in on that conversation.

I wouldn't date a female me, at least not the way I am right now. But the more I consider what kind of person I would like to be with, the more I draw paralells between myself and my 'ideal partner', at least in terms of personality and interests. I guess most people want a partner with whom they share interests, though.

Creativity and intelligence are traits that are pretty dear to me. These are traits that I would like to see in a partner, and they're traits I believe I possess.

I wouldn't be as interested in dating someone who is overly adventurous or outgoing, as I feel a person with those traits might not have as much common ground with me.

I have friends who go out drinking most nights. A night a week is enough for me. Two at most.

I'm not very outdoorsy, so somebody who wanted to hike or camp a lot probably wouldn't be content with someone like myself who only wants to do those things occasionally.

I wouldn't say I'm attracted to 'boring' girls though, but we may be working with different definitions.

I guess my kind of girl would be someone who has a creative medium of some sort through which she expresses herself. Someone who appreciates my sense of humour, and who perhaps has a similar one, but who can get serious and have deep and meaningfuls when the occasion calls for it.

I don't think I'm asking for more than I can provide with these particular preferences.

^It sounds more like you want shy and introverted but interesting woman with artistic pursuits and possibly interest in activities you also enjoy e.g. video games, etc.

somebody a lot like myself, but more adroitly social, that would be the only person who could understand and accept me as I am without thinking they can or should "fix" me [am not "fixable"]. am basically about out of time for this to happen. mebbe in the next life, here's to hopin'...

I don't like overly "adventurous" women, either.

I like women who like to cuddle, but who are not aggressive about it.

I like women who have an artistic/creative bent, and who appreciate my creative side.

In terms of looks, I find most women to be attractive. Looks don't really, really matter with me.

I value femininity---but not too much of it. I would enjoy a woman who is a sports fan.

LOL....sometimes I just don't feel like cuddling----but it's okay if a woman wants to cuddle; my mood would change quickly

A couple of years ago I would have said love was hokey and dumb and relationships were pointless (and would have meant it about 70%), but now that I'm with someone where things are actually good I like it.

I don't believe in any crap about pre-destined relationships (even though I do have dreams sometimes that are almost prophetic ), I think love is about chance and effort.

Also I think love is much more likely to be long lasting when it starts as friendship. I've noticed a lot of people who dated without knowing each other first don't know each other as well as they think. There's also just something like superior to being with your best friend. My boyfriend knew me when I was at my absolute worst and vice versa. He knows most of my negative aspects as a person already, so there's no need to gradually introduce them so as not to scare him off (something you have to do with dating someone you don't have history with).

Love should absolutely be about trust, emotional openness, support, and shared passions.

You guys wanna enlighten me as to where all these outdoorsy girls are? I mean when I go hiking, I do not see many past college aged... I'd totally be into that too... I love camping and figured most women just hate it. My ex did like it but only for a night and it had to be certain temperatures out. Which is still better than the large 'no way I'm sleeping on the ground' population.

I think many women think camping sounds romantic, and it can be, until they're dirty, using less than enjoyable bathrooms if any at all, and smelling of smoke. Then it's not so fun... I'd love a woman who actually likes it on her own not just to go along for the ride because it sounded romantic... though that's still better then the other.