being invisible for men

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Considering all the sitcoms where a fat, ugly dude has a hot wife, ugly dudes can get attractive girlfriends...

Didja ever notice how many of those fat, ugly dudes had secure, well-paying jobs? Hollywood keeps reinforcing THAT meme, too...

Roseanne?

I never really liked Roseanne, to be honest. I find her to be crude. I wouldn't want to date that sort of woman.

But.....her appeal was her blunt honesty, and her sense of humor amid considerable adversity.

And Dan fell for her---lock, stock, and barrel. And he's not exactly "the pick of the litter," either.

Good point. But now that she's off the show, dya'wanna bet that Dan's new girlfriend/wife is something more of a "hottie"?

The longest relationship I had was with a guy I met online years ago. (Apart from my failed marriage of course)We dated 5 years and remained friends after that. He chose out of it only coz he felt I was still immature emotionally. Which is true.

I have had a lot of guys in school show interest in me only to not want to pursue anything because they said I was weird and immature for them. Like this guy clearly was attracted to me and talked to me for a few days and then suddenly didn’t want anything to do with me. I have had this happen with 3 guys after that. So I know it’s not my looks.

I feel more mature now than I did a few years ago. All that dating was confusing back then. I feel more confident today. Atleast I think I know what I want today. I have had more success with guys after I turned 25 - when I first suspected I had AS. After that I just tell people I meet that I might come across a bit weird and I suspect I have AS. And of course people who want to leave, leave right away.

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I wish I could be invisible to men. I get dudes that are mostly old enough to be my dad because I look like a kid in high school still despite being almost 30 o_o

Funny a lot of times I got asked if my ex husband was my father haha. Despite being only 3 years apart.

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It's really not all that uncommon for there to be older men/younger women seeing each other.

I wish that ordinary men didn't become socially invisible in their 50s; although men who are famous and/or wealthy don't seem to worry about this.

The real question is, “invisible” to all men, or “invisible” to men who are “visible” to you?

i actually updated this thread because i met some people from high school and they just mentioned how some guys were in love with me and i had absolutely no clue about it. one of those guys was specially someone i liked a lot, and i definitely would be happy if i had known this before.

i wouldn't say that the man that notice me are invisible to me... but maybe their feelings and perceptions are? i'm unaware on how people perceive me. it may be a bigger problem than actually people not perceiving me. i don't really know what to do.

The best way to meet people is face to face in person. You don't meet any spambots offline.

@ltcvnzl from the few photos of yourself that you have posted, I would say that, strictly on the basis of appearance alone, there would be plenty of guys in the US who would be happy to date you, if they had reason to believe you were interested. I know very little about Brazil which is why I specifically mention the US.

If I were still about her age, I myself would gladly have an arm and a leg cut off in exchange for a chance to get to know her. But, of course, it'd be a stupid idea, because I'd be even less use to her in that sorry state than otherwise.

My observation was that there were plenty of guys in the US who would be happy to date her solely on the basis of her appearance. But you have no idea whether you would actually like her if you met her. It's easy to fantasize about having a relationship with somebody you know very little about — the reality can be completely unexpected.

Another point I made though, is that the guys in question would want to know if she is interested in them. It has happened to me that a girl I hadn't especially thought of as a prospective date made me aware that she wanted to date me, and after that I was very interested indeed. I am thinking in particular of a coworker who was 6 years younger than I, who told her housemate she wanted a date with me. In today's world of online dating, I don't know what would be the equivalent situation, but if there is a way a young woman can make a guy aware of her interest, without inadvertently making it appear like an explicit invitation to have sex with her, she should definitely go for it. I think using an intermediary is still not a bad idea.