30 Dec 2017, 7:49 pm
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30 Dec 2017, 7:55 pm
Cabal82 wrote:
karathraceandherspecialdestiny wrote:
Cabal82 wrote:
karathraceandherspecialdestiny wrote:
Cabal82 wrote:
hobojungle wrote:
Cabal82 wrote:
hobojungle wrote:
Cabal82 wrote:
I took a 2 year absence from dating! Came back recently, still the same s**t! Like with most women, its always the mans fault for anything. Ya'll are never wrong. But what most are suggesting is being completely not myself. If these women would be honest, and tell me what I'm doing wrong, I might be able to reevaluate my approach. I didn't say it was easy for women aspies, but it's definitely harder for males, based on that women in general expect men to initiate all contact, and advances. I see most dating problems are from male aspies. But, somehow I'm supposed to change everything I'm doing to make sure the woman likes me, while they don't have to do s**t!
Maybe two years wasn’t long enough.
I wonder if we’ll ever figure out why you can’t get a second date
Personally insulting and slurring women isn't going to make them want to help you. It's also against the rules of this site and will get you banned if you persist.
You have gotten advice, but you've ignored it to personally criticize the women responding to you instead. I wonder if you have a tendency to not actually listen to the women you're on dates with like you're not listening to the women talking to you here, and they pick up on that (as we tend to notice when people aren't listening to what we say.) There are lots of indications in your communications here of why you might struggle to get past the first meeting with women if this is how you talk to them when you get frustrated and struggle to regulate your feelings.
Have you ever considered anger management?
If you vent your frustrations at others a lot and struggle with anger that is another red flag that women look to avoid. I would suggest therapy to work on emotional regulation, I bet that would help you come off as more easy going and it would make women more likely to give you a chance and to look past some awkwardness. Being awkward doesn't have to be a deal-breaker, but being easily frustrated by one's own awkwardness can be. If you were more accepting of your own awkwardness then how other people see you wouldn't get you so angry, and it would help smooth over that awkwardness. This is probably the only thing that's helped me with my own awkwardness with people, you have to learn to let go and just roll with it and not get angry at yourself--it makes a much better first impression with people if you are aware of your awkwardness but accepting of it rather than frustrated by it.
30 Dec 2017, 7:57 pm
30 Dec 2017, 7:57 pm
30 Dec 2017, 8:00 pm
karathraceandherspecialdestiny wrote:
Cabal82 wrote:
karathraceandherspecialdestiny wrote:
Cabal82 wrote:
karathraceandherspecialdestiny wrote:
Cabal82 wrote:
hobojungle wrote:
Cabal82 wrote:
hobojungle wrote:
Cabal82 wrote:
I took a 2 year absence from dating! Came back recently, still the same s**t! Like with most women, its always the mans fault for anything. Ya'll are never wrong. But what most are suggesting is being completely not myself. If these women would be honest, and tell me what I'm doing wrong, I might be able to reevaluate my approach. I didn't say it was easy for women aspies, but it's definitely harder for males, based on that women in general expect men to initiate all contact, and advances. I see most dating problems are from male aspies. But, somehow I'm supposed to change everything I'm doing to make sure the woman likes me, while they don't have to do s**t!
Maybe two years wasn’t long enough.
I wonder if we’ll ever figure out why you can’t get a second date
Personally insulting and slurring women isn't going to make them want to help you. It's also against the rules of this site and will get you banned if you persist.
You have gotten advice, but you've ignored it to personally criticize the women responding to you instead. I wonder if you have a tendency to not actually listen to the women you're on dates with like you're not listening to the women talking to you here, and they pick up on that (as we tend to notice when people aren't listening to what we say.) There are lots of indications in your communications here of why you might struggle to get past the first meeting with women if this is how you talk to them when you get frustrated and struggle to regulate your feelings.
Have you ever considered anger management?
If you vent your frustrations at others a lot and struggle with anger that is another red flag that women look to avoid. I would suggest therapy to work on emotional regulation, I bet that would help you come off as more easy going and it would make women more likely to give you a chance and to look past some awkwardness. Being awkward doesn't have to be a deal-breaker, but being easily frustrated by one's own awkwardness can be. If you were more accepting of your own awkwardness then how other people see you wouldn't get you so angry, and it would help smooth over that awkwardness. This is probably the only thing that's helped me with my own awkwardness with people, you have to learn to let go and just roll with it and not get angry at yourself--it makes a much better first impression with people if you are aware of your awkwardness but accepting of it rather than frustrated by it.
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