Why I think I would be a good love partner

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31 Jan 2018, 1:27 pm

So you want someone whose life is a complete disaster constantly?



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31 Jan 2018, 1:29 pm

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I come across lots of people every day who pretend they have their life together and I find them annoying.


Now that's different... I rarely believe it when people go on about their "perfect" lives.


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31 Jan 2018, 1:29 pm

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I'm happy now, Fluffy!

I'm definitely not boring!

I just posted again and it's not meant at you :D
Glad you're happy, I'm not too bad myself at the moment.
Would you say you had your life together? I don't find you boring or annoying so I'm sure you must be as mad as I am really.



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31 Jan 2018, 1:32 pm

ZZZTired wrote:
So you want someone whose life is a complete disaster constantly?


I'd prefer it if everyone was happy... but you have to be honest with yourself, then hoenst with everyone else.


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31 Jan 2018, 1:32 pm

LOL.....You didn't get my point.

You find people who "have their life together" boring.

I'm not boring; therefore, I don't "have my life together."

I was saying that you'll never consider me boring, because I don't have my life together.

I really don't. I'm in immense debt, and I'm in a state of flux in many ways.



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31 Jan 2018, 1:37 pm

ZZZTired wrote:
So you want someone whose life is a complete disaster constantly?

Not a complete disaster and not constantly. More like a bit wobbly, three days a week.
That would leave three days for me to wobble (which I do wonderfully) and then we can both have Sunday off together. :D



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31 Jan 2018, 1:38 pm

You wobble, but you don't fall down......

And you're rather cute, too....



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31 Jan 2018, 1:42 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
LOL.....You didn't get my point.

You find people who "have their life together" boring.

I'm not boring; therefore, I don't "have my life together."

I was saying that you'll never consider me boring, because I don't have my life together.

I really don't. I'm in immense debt, and I'm in a state of flux in many ways.

Lol :lol: That went right over my snout.

Is everyone in America dept?



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31 Jan 2018, 1:43 pm

We're Daft, but not Dept.

Many people here are in debt, actually. Though many are also not in debt.



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31 Jan 2018, 1:56 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
You wobble, but you don't fall down......

And you're rather cute, too....

:oops: It is a particularly good picture of me, I'd just polished my trotters.



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31 Jan 2018, 2:03 pm

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We're Daft, but not Dept.

Many people here are in debt, actually. Though many are also not in debt.

It's probably the same here. I'm kind of unaware of it because my parents were so anti dept. They both had unreliable earnings so nothing was on HP.



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31 Jan 2018, 2:44 pm

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Reading through this thread, and I'm seeing a similar theme I see with these threads: you are blaming everyone and everything but yourself. The only person who can change your life is you, and if you wait for the entire world to change for you, you will be waiting forever. So the question is - do you want to be happy enough to take responsibility for these issues, or do you want to continue moping, waiting for the rest of the world to change to fit you? Its your life and it's 100% your choice.


Blame myself? I should start saying the bullies were right to treat me poorly just for being myself?

I realize that my thought processes haven't helped me for nearly 12 years now but I haven't been able to convince myself that time hasn't run out.


No, I'm saying you can't keep blaming them. Regardless of why you have problems or who gave them to you, only you can fix them.

And yes, you do need to take some of the responsibility. Your excuse for not starting a club is that people are on their phones too much. Come on.

While we're at it - people do not want to date a guy who feels sorry for himself. They don't want to date a guy they have to "fix". When looking for a partner, peopoe want someone who has their life together and doesn't wallow or dwell on the past. I'm sorry if it seems harsh, but its reality.


Please hear me out. I did try to talk to others on the campus but pretty much all I got was "Oh, hey." and they went back to looking at their cellphones with uninterested looks. Someone didn't respond to me at all. I've had other people, including my ex-social worker, tell me they had similar experiences at the place. That college has a reputation for being underwhelming as far as the social scene there goes. It's very discouraging when you can't even establish a basic conversation.

I have seen relationships where both people aren't exactly all together. My first and only girlfriend certainly wasn't when we were together.


Just because those relationships exist, doesn't mean they're good. Its a recipe for codependency.



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31 Jan 2018, 2:50 pm

fluffysaurus wrote:
ZZZTired wrote:
So you want someone whose life is a complete disaster constantly?

Not a complete disaster and not constantly. More like a bit wobbly, three days a week.
That would leave three days for me to wobble (which I do wonderfully) and then we can both have Sunday off together. :D


That's not realistic for most people. Most people want a partner who pushes them to be a better person. They don't want "wobbly". I mean, that stuff may work for teens/early twentysomethings, but it gets to a point where its simply emotional immaturity. Like, I want to get married and have a family, as do most people.

Why would I date a guy who is "wobbly"? Why would I want to have children or live with someone who is a disaster half the week? None of those traits bode well for someone I'd want to have a romantic relationship with.



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31 Jan 2018, 3:09 pm

I think Fluffy is cute wobbly :heart:



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31 Jan 2018, 4:15 pm

Disconaut wrote:
fluffysaurus wrote:
ZZZTired wrote:
So you want someone whose life is a complete disaster constantly?

Not a complete disaster and not constantly. More like a bit wobbly, three days a week.
That would leave three days for me to wobble (which I do wonderfully) and then we can both have Sunday off together. :D


That's not realistic for most people. Most people want a partner who pushes them to be a better person. They don't want "wobbly". I mean, that stuff may work for teens/early twentysomethings, but it gets to a point where its simply emotional immaturity. Like, I want to get married and have a family, as do most people.

Why would I date a guy who is "wobbly"? Why would I want to have children or live with someone who is a disaster half the week? None of those traits bode well for someone I'd want to have a romantic relationship with.


But wouldn't trying to push someone be similar to "fixing" them?

Don't you think I want to get married and maybe have a family myself?



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31 Jan 2018, 4:39 pm

Disconaut wrote:
fluffysaurus wrote:
ZZZTired wrote:
So you want someone whose life is a complete disaster constantly?

Not a complete disaster and not constantly. More like a bit wobbly, three days a week.
That would leave three days for me to wobble (which I do wonderfully) and then we can both have Sunday off together. :D


That's not realistic for most people. Most people want a partner who pushes them to be a better person. They don't want "wobbly". I mean, that stuff may work for teens/early twentysomethings, but it gets to a point where its simply emotional immaturity. Like, I want to get married and have a family, as do most people.

Why would I date a guy who is "wobbly"? Why would I want to have children or live with someone who is a disaster half the week? None of those traits bode well for someone I'd want to have a romantic relationship with.

I don't want a partner who pushes me to be a better person. I'm pretty certain I'd end up pushing someone like that off a cliff.

I didn't say a disaster, I said wobbly. People, all people, wobble, It's called being human.

Good luck finding Mr Solid As A Rock but don't be too surprised if he ends up wobbling. You might even wobble occasionally yourself.