Marknis wrote:
Disconaut wrote:
Reading through this thread, and I'm seeing a similar theme I see with these threads: you are blaming everyone and everything but yourself. The only person who can change your life is you, and if you wait for the entire world to change for you, you will be waiting forever. So the question is - do you want to be happy enough to take responsibility for these issues, or do you want to continue moping, waiting for the rest of the world to change to fit you? Its your life and it's 100% your choice.
Blame myself? I should start saying the bullies were right to treat me poorly just for being myself?
I realize that my thought processes haven't helped me for nearly 12 years now but I haven't been able to convince myself that time hasn't run out.
No, I'm saying you can't keep blaming them. Regardless of why you have problems or who gave them to you, only you can fix them.
And yes, you do need to take some of the responsibility. Your excuse for not starting a club is that people are on their phones too much. Come on.
While we're at it - people do
not want to date a guy who feels sorry for himself. They don't want to date a guy they have to "fix". When looking for a partner, peopoe want someone who has their life together and doesn't wallow or dwell on the past. I'm sorry if it seems harsh, but its reality.
Please hear me out. I did try to talk to others on the campus but pretty much all I got was "Oh, hey." and they went back to looking at their cellphones with uninterested looks. Someone didn't respond to me at all. I've had other people, including my ex-social worker, tell me they had similar experiences at the place. That college has a reputation for being underwhelming as far as the social scene there goes. It's very discouraging when you can't even establish a basic conversation.
I have seen relationships where both people aren't exactly all together. My first and only girlfriend certainly wasn't when we were together.