Will I always be told "I have a boyfriend."?

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Hmm. Funny thing is at this age it seems like single men don't exist.

I think single people get to a point where they don't socialise anymore. It gets more difficult to when there are no other singles to hang out with and you don't fit in with your married friends.

Number wise, after a certain age, single people become a tiny minority.

Fact of life: You can never fit in with married friends while you are single, never, they won’t invite you anyway.

I accepted at the age of 16 that no girls will ever be interested in me because I am shy, introverted and I am not good looking. Over the last 20 years I have not bothered asking women out. If they are interested in me they will ask me out and that never happened.

I've always had this mentality, but I'm starting to feel like asking men out is just something women rarely ever do, even if they are interested. I expect that the women who will ask men out are probably the super bossy kind who you'd never actually want to be in a relationship with.

It's easy to tell if you can rely on this. Do you get asked out at least once in a while? If the answer is no, then you need to be more active.

It is the same losing game played over and over for an Autistic guy when trying to approach a female. She has to be available and interested in you and is fully aware that dating a socially inept, awkward, introverted autistic guy is social suicide. If a guy is a gay/bi Autistic guy, it is the same thing when approaching a gay guy who does not have Autism. He has to be available, interested in you and is fully aware that dating you is social suicide.

They usually make it too obvious when they're interested.

Yes, as Boo suggests, they will make it obvious as they can but they will never ask. That is the guy's job.

When I stopped "chasing girls" and started working on self-improvement, after a while women started expressing interest in me.

Case in point: I like to roller-skate. So do a lot of women. Back around 1976, I noticed that guys who tried to get girls' attention usually struck out, so I kept to myself and kept working on my skating technique. After a few weeks, girls started coming to me and asking if I had a partner for the evening's "Couples Skate". From then until I moved out of the state, I never lacked for female companionship at that roller rink.

My older brother claimed being a "jackass" worked for him and told me I needed to do the same. He would pull stunts like the guys in the show Jackass would do (Not to the same dangerous extent but he did break one of his legs, suffered a stroke, and got in fights in the process.) and my classmates who were girls were always telling me "Mark, your brother is so hot!" to the point I told them to stop telling me things like that.

He's now stuck in a bad marriage and has four children (One from a previous marriage but this one's younger than his first child due to a long and brain bending story) that drain his life but I still feel like the kid stuck in his room after school.

If you're wanting to get better with women, you should visit the seduction subreddit on reddit. It's full of articles on dating advice if you want to improve your dating life. I know a lot of guys visit there and it's a pretty good and supportive community.

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/


Also try dating_advice subreddit as well, that one is good as well.

Well no woman has ever given me signs that couldn't be interpreted as general friendliness or politeness. Most recent case is a former work-colleague once made some offer of teaching me how to drive, and some vague mention of hanging out with her friends. At the time I brushed it off and subtly changed the subject. Sure enough, she never brought it up again, which is how I know she never had any intention of following through, hence no actual interest.

Not if you work on yourself and make yourself more desirable to the modern woman, you won't.

idk

To be honest, a lot of women will rather say "I have a boyfriend" rather then to turn you down outright because as you see the news there's alot of violence against women and to just outright say "I'm not interested in you" might turn out a scary result. Something about when someone says that they have someone already makes people less likely to pursue what is considered to be "another's property" I guess. Dunno if that works on girls that pursue guys that have a girlfriend already though. I know of girls that will still suck his soul dry despite him having a girl ... o_o This is why I don't bother with cishet females xD

Hey Sabre....this is true....the lady really did something pretty forward by offering to teach you to drive.

That's a major undertaking---teaching someone to drive!

I feel like, at least, she had an interest in trying to help you with things. I feel she was sincere, this time.