Where To Meet Women When...?

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Riding a bike is the worse.
I always hated it even when it was my primary mode of transportation. Bikes are for fit people. It’s hell for others. And the seats are uncomfortable cause bikes aren’t meant to have seats for sitting in. They’re just for resting on at stops.
Electric bikes require a motorcycle license. I’d rather get s motorcycle but my family won’t let me

You ride the bike to get fit.
You buy a gel seat if you find the regular ones uncomfortable.
Your family won't let you get a motorcycle licence? Wth.

I've never heard of an electric bike requiring a motorcycle license, and I did the research before I bought it to make sure everything was legal. Maybe things are different in the US, but electric bikes are more similar to regular bikes than motorcycles so I wouldn't think so. With the electric bike as opposed to the normal bike, you don't get as worn out as quickly at all. My old bike I was using was a normal bike, and I would always be sweating when I got to work, but now I don't sweat nearly as much. It's true that when you start riding initially you can get pretty puffed but your body adapts before long.

Rode a bike every day for 15 years it never made me fit.
Motorbikes are super dangerous. People hit them all the time. I’ve almlst been in accidents driving a car I do imagine it’d be worse on a motorcycle.

My dream bike and it’s presumably in my price range

You're more likely to get killed on a motorbike.
But girls love bikies, and you're allowed to be fat - it's almost a prerequisite (for road bike riders at least).

Ohh, that's nice.
My brothers a bikie, had over a dozen bikes, now he rides a little Honda scooter.

I thought the electric bike was a failed product because it defeats the main point of biking?

Not really, if by the main point you mean getting exercise. With mine you can ride it like a normal bike if you want or if it runs out of charge. It has an inbuilt pedal assist system with 5 different modes from low to high pedal assist that instead of doing all the work for me, boosts the power of the pedalling I'm doing. It's not like with a motorbike where there's no pedalling and you rely on the throttle for power, so I'm still getting exercise but maybe just not as much as I would be on a normal bike, however not using as much of my own energy will be helpful for conserving it if I'm riding for hours at a time doing Uber Eats, and also faster and thus can make me more money per hour as I don't have to dismount and walk my bike up steep inclines, since I can pedal up them with the pedal assist.

I also live a few minutes from a street with a bunch of restaurants and food outlets on it so it just seems like a pretty good investment to me, good way to get some exercise and make money at the same time.

Sorry if I’m late to the party and someone has already covered this. Haven’t read the entire thread yet...

If you’re going about value-for-value objectively, you’re not going to worry about a power imbalance. Your single greatest asset in trade is yourself. It’s about how much someone means to you and what you mean to them, not about who holds power. We each maintain our own power as INDIVIDUALS. Picking up a homeless person doesn’t mean you take away her autonomy. She’s still an agent with or without you.

A more important question is why is she homeless in the first place? Is she even capable of independent existence? Does she have a mental illness? I’m not against dating the mentally ill, btw. I’m concerned about the reasons for doing so. Is someone worth enough to me to put my own life at risk? Is this a perpetually miserable person who can only bring me misery? It’s acceptable to me to marry someone who might EVENTUALLY lose her mind. That could happen to any of us, any time. But I don’t want to start my life with someone that way. If I marry a girl, it’s because I want her no matter what. She could lose her mind on day 2 of the honeymoon and it wouldn’t matter. I can’t say the same for most homeless people I know.

But if the homeless person is merely down on her luck...hey, been there, done that. I was homeless for half the summer one year. I know what can happen. I was able to work my way through it. But good luck finding that person!

You do better finding another volunteer you like enough to ask out. Volunteer work is a great way to do that.

Let's let's leave homophobia alone; it'll only derail the thread.

@ The Grand Inquisitor - You mention music and you play. Let me tell you about my brother. He joined a band and lived ecstatically ever after. That's the short version but it's true. How to find a band - go to where they play, hang out with them, find out if they need a player, etc. There may or may not be females in the band, but the music is a terrific thing.

My life changed when I joined a band. I'd been in "fun" bands for years, but I got a call (in 1999) to join a serious hardworking soul band. I met Mrs Trueno... she was the friend of the guitarist's girlfriend. I'd recommend it, but the most important thing is to make sure your ambitions match up with the rest of the band.

So apparently dancing is a pretty effective way to meet women. My uncle met partners past and present from dancing, as did my grandfather. I'm not sure if there'd be women in my age group there, but if I can get my diet on the right track and start feeling less lethargic I'll consider giving it a go.

The catch is you have to be doing it out of genuine interest. If you go for the sole purpose of meeting women, they'll quickly catch on and dislike you.

Well my initial attitude would be just to go there and see what happens. Though meeting women would be the most ideal scenario, I wouldn't be going in there with any expectations, and I'd just be checking out the scene, seeing if it's something I could find any enjoyment in and go from there.

I think where you get into real trouble is when you go somewhere specifically to meet women and really get your hopes up about it, will be disappointed if it doesn't happen and give off a vibe of desperation. I've been in that situation at places like nightclubs before and have come to learn that focusing all your energy on trying to find a woman to get with and not just doing your best to enjoy yourself while you're there will not get you results if you're an average or below average guy.

I'd be trying to focus on enjoying the dancing and just seeing what happens rather than chasing after women. I'd be hoping that maybe going there a few times and being in an environment with women, I'd start to see the same people, and potentially make connections that way, even if not romantic.

I never went to a place to meet women.

I have my pride.

But also wouldn’t turn down some opportunity.

The thing is, SabreClaw is right; every adult is stuck in their already established social circle.

And things are far worse compared to 5/6 years ago; I remember well back in the day i made a lot of buddies and acquaintances with gym members, especially cardio users. It was easy and natural, and everyone did it.

I always watch what others do to make sure whether it’s a socially acceptable etiquette or not, people there were used to talk with each other.

Not anymore tho, now everyone having earbuds and if people talk to some other they only talk with people of the group they come with to the gym/club, I am seeing no ‘strangers’ initiating any talks anymore so I know I should not do it anymore as well.

And women there only initiate conversations with the same 3 guys: the 3 hot trainers, and it’s a small gym and everything is audible, so I know that most often the topics they initiate aren’t about training lol.