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Who is this 'society' you refer to ... neurotypicals, perhaps?

If I want to eat cake, I'll eat cake. If I want to go rabbit hunting, I'll go rabbit hunting. Even Freud said that sometimes a cigar is only a cigar.

I believe that the saying “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus” may have originated from the mythology surrounding Aphrodite and Ares. Many Greek Gods and Goddesses have a Roman equivalent. The Roman version of Aphrodite is referred to as Venus. Whereas Ares is called Mars.

Aphrodite is predominately known for being the Goddess of love, although there are other topics which are also associated with her. Unsurprisingly, she had a lot of affairs despite being married. I mean, when it comes to Greek and Roman mythology it’s more of a question of who isn’t having an affair, rather than who is.

One of those affairs is with Ares; the God of War. They end up having seven children together. If you think that’s a lot, I’m only counting the children she had with Ares.

As for the main topic, I’m not fully sure what to add. Frankly, I just wanted an excuse to talk about that. There are things I could add, but they are all fairly situational and anecdotal.

When I was younger, I used to listen to pop music which emphasised men and women not understanding each other. For example, in the song Love Machine by Girls Aloud there are the lyrics;

“Ladies you’re damn right, you can’t read a man’s mind. We’re living in two tribes, and heading for war”.

Growing up, I found this divide to be interesting but I didn’t fully understand it. I never went through a phase where I found boys to be icky. Usually, my thought process went along the lines of What’s the point of all of this? After all, when we grow up we’ll all start liking guys anyway. Seems a waste of time to hate on them.

Then puberty happened and I realised that I’m gay. So I guess the joke is on me.

^^^I hope you find a nice, suitable partner soon.

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictio ... sh/society

I think this definition fits Kraftie's posts.

Yeah it's NTs although because a lot of masculine characteristics align with aspie characteristics, it's harder to extrapolate trends in us (aspie females) by looking at what's 'typical female behaviour' than the other way around (aspie males). Except aspie guys aren't nearly as tribal as the male stereotype is.

NT women are a nightmare... A beautiful nightmare because they put so much emphasis on clothing and makeup but a nightmare to understand...

I think a lot of what is coded as queer is what would be typical in the opposite sex.

Aspies in general can't pick up on subtle hints, don't like telling white lies, don't have a lot of friends to gossip with, have hobbies and are likely to be blunt in what we say. Regardless of our sex.

So determining which gender a certain behavior is appropriate to is determined by consensus opinion, and not by any logical means.

F**** that! I'm gonna have me some chocolate cake!

Exactly.

We should adapt the healthiest/most pleasurable behaviours from both.

Just don't go on a diet after your cake unless you're genuinely fat. I say the same thing to my mother, she isn't fat just she wants to be a UK size 10 and she's a UK size 12 (UK size 12 is average size for a woman)… Same as my auntie who's in her 50s and obsessed with how she's 'old' when she's really middle aged.

Fnord,

August and October are the two hardest months for me. I lost several pets in those months.

August 8-Prince
August 18-Samantha (my favorite cat, who passed away at the age of 20. I still miss her. She started my love of the Lynx point Siamese cat.)
August 23-Peps

October-

10/2 C.C. (Calico, age 15)
10/6 (Partner, my beloved pit bull/Lab mix dog. He lived with us 11 1/2 years. We adopted him when he was about two, making him 13 1/2 when he passed away).
10/25 Peter (age 18, my oldest boy cat)

All still very much loved and in my heart

Passively listening to others is proving to be difficult here. I think it's important to voice our feelings without having to prove why and how or receive a critical response. Feelings don't need explanations, they just need to be expressed and acknowledged imo.
Is this thread failing? I really wanted it to be a safe place with no judgement.

It's impossible for me to get close to someone and feel intimate if he is hounding me for proof or checking statistics every time I express my feelings to him. That's just me.

I hate it when men say to me that I am being emotional, or over-reacting, or correcting me, or being irrational "go figure women" can't you just accept that this is the way my mind works? Emotions exist and need to be validated. Not everything has to be scientific.

Suzie was a beautiful black-and-tan female dachshund, and my only real friend throughout my childhood. She had to be put down because of cancer when I was 12. Sometimes I still have moments when I wish I could cuddle her and tell her everything that's bothering me just to see her look at me with those brown eyes, wag her tail and give me a "puppy kiss" on the cheek.

Dang it ... something in my eye ...

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(((Fnord)))

I have had two black and tan dachshunds. They are great dogs. The first was Heidi (1972-1982). Her life was short due to health problems from inbreeding. Our second dachshund, Rosie, (f.k.a. Heidi, who was about two when we adopted her in 1983, lived approximately 16 years) came to us as a victim of severe abuse. She was traumatized by it and never seemed to understand that, with us, she had a loving home. Both suffered back problems, typical of the breed.

Just so we're clear: not all men are like what I'm going to talk about below, I know that, but I've encountered some that are and am bringing these things up so that the amount of men who do these things would drop, even if just a little.

Men should just say it when they want something. If you are hungry and want to go get something to eat, don't ask me if I'm hungry. Tell me that you're hungry and ask if we could go eat something. If we're on a walk and you want to sit down because your legs hurt from hours of playing some sports the day before, don't ask me if I need a break, just tell me that you need a break. Extra points if you ask "can we take a break" instead of just saying "let's take a break", but if you're really tired then the later one isn't a taboo either. Just remember that "can we" is more polite than "let's."

Life isn't a movie. Just because people in movies do things a certain way on dates, it doesn't mean you should do it the same way, especially if it includes physical contact to the woman you're with. Especially if the movies you've watched have been done in a different country; what's okay there might not be so in your culture.

Likewise, relationships aren't all the same. A relationship should have mutual respect but, aside from that, nothing's set in stone. Don't try to get a woman to do things in a certain way just because you think "that's how relationships work."

A no means no, especially when it comes to physical contact. Do not pressure a woman in to physical contact.

Don't make jokes about periods etc. unless you're sure the woman with you doesn't mind such jokes. They're natural things, but painful to some and heavily personal to most. Female body functions are things that happen no matter if we like it or not, it's not our choice, so the matter needs sensitivity in the same way as other things that people can't help themselves about, like skin color and race. Or neurology. It's okay to joke about these things with the right people, but you need to be careful to not make a joke about these things in front of a person who they are a sensitive matter to.

Do not expect a woman to know how you feel and why you feel that way if you won't tell her. Don't expect her to understand the first explanation you give, either. She may be bad at understanding things or you might be bad at explaining them. In a situation like that, it doesn't matter if it's her who's bad at understanding or you who are bad at explaining. What matters is to try again or, if you don't have the strenght to do it at the moment, telling her that so that you can go and gather your thoughts without her bothering you. And talk it over when you can handle it.

When a woman needs you to listen to her, do so. If you're not sure if she wants to blow some steam or if she wants advice, ask. If she blows up just because you asked, you might want to reconsider if she's really the woman you want to be with. Asking for advice is not wrong.

Women's emotions are valid; you must not brush it off as hormones, not even (or better yet, especially) if she's pregnant.

If a woman only wants to speak about periods and other similiar female body functions with other women, respect that. While it's a natural thing that women (or men) shouldn't be awkward about, some are and only want to talk about it with others who have first hand experience. Respect that.

No woman is exactly like another one; we are separate beings with our own views, dreams, morals etc. Do not make statements like "women just are like that", "women aren't good at this" etc. It's treating us as a mass, not as individuals that we are. It's belittleling. A man saying "women are always like X" is the same as an NT saying "autistic people are always like Z." If you don't like being put in to a mold for your autism, don't do the same to women for their gender. And even if you don't mind being stuffed in to a certain mold because of your autism, still don't do it. People don't always like it.

Both men and women are capable of being soldiers and fighting in combat. Women don't have to sit at home and twiddle their thumbs until wars are over anymore. They can be on the battlefield as well. Not every woman is a delicate flower.

Why do you think that sending me naked pictures of yourself in various provocative poses when I am sick is the most effective way to cheer me up? Like dangling a carrot before a donkey's nose?????? Come on, get better quick then you can have it! That is sooooo funny that it does cheer me up. The fact that you are serious makes it even funnier.
Chicken soup would be wiser