People assume i am gay

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unlike non-social people, many social people suffer greatly in the absence of congenial company. we should try to remember that.

I assume str8 until actually told otherwise. If they're gay, they usually feel flattered by the assumption. Unfortunately, you str8 folk still feel insulted by the opposite assumption. Anyways, I don't care anymore at my age, and don't really stop and think about it other than idle curiosity.

So true. COVID-19's quarrantine has been ultra-stressful for the raging extroverts. One size doesn't fit all, for sure.

I get lonely too, but it subsides to just a dull background ache, apt to be forgotten in the wake of games or shows.

I find this funny.
Am I a bad person?

am bi not str8. but i hated the arrogance of the females that assumed that just because i didn't make moves on them that i automatically HAD to be gay. the arrogance offended me greatly.

having had only failed relationships, i find aloneness the lesser of two evils.

Really?
Aren't we too old, these days, to be offended "Greatly"?

Fortunately for me,
The fewer people I know in real life,
The happier I am.
Seriously.

Do you have pets?
If so, are they str8, bi, gay?
It doesn't matter to them what gender diversity they are or you are.
They are better than people that way, and many more.

that is why i said "it USED to infuriate me...."

I'm not gonna read 5 pages of replies but I will say that others had sometimes assumed I was gay. It was really awkward when I hit on a girl & she's completely surprised cuz she thought I was gay I also had guys hit on me on & offline. I considered having a gay relationship before cuz I HATED being single & sleeping alone & gay guys were the only people interested in me. I decided against it cuz I realized it was a sexual thing with them & they hit on lots of other guys. I'm NOT saying all gay guys are like that. I'm sure there's plenty who aren't but the 1s who hit on me probably were like that. I could talk about my gender & sexual stuff here but that probably belongs in Adult or LGBT section, so I'll just say I don't think I'm gay or bi, well maybe I'm slightly bi & confused about my gender but that's it. As for why others assumed I was gay, I don't really conform to the typical male stereotype. I'm sort of on the asexuality spectrum & I'm not interested in sex outside of a serious romantic relationship. I like sex OK but it's NOT a need or anything. I also hate sports(well except for watching cheerleading & dance competitions before I had access to porn), I like boy bands, feminist pop music, & shows like Ally McBeal & The Good Wife, & I'm also a feminist to name a few things. My current girlfriend likes to joke that she's 51% male & 49% female due to her not conforming to the female stereotype & that I'm 51% female & 49% male due to me not conforming to the male stereotype so together we make up a girl & guy couple if that makes sense. In some ways we strongly conform to our genders but in other ways we don't.

I laff at it too. Extroverts always pumping their chest about how great they are...until now.

I'm with ya brother. On the viewpoint, that is.

Your profile pic looks puzzled and mildly irritated rather than infuriated. However I wouldn't get too close to the walking cane.

more like resigned.

Someone else mentioned of being assumed gay because he sits with legs crossed. There are even more subtle things that people see as ‘gay stuff’, like for example if you don’t like a certain sport, or drive in certain way.

In school I was assumed gay by some girls (I overheard her) because I never ogled at girls (but neither at guys but apparently that didn’t matter for them).

pardon, but can you tell me what kind of driving would make somebody else say, "that driver is GAY"?