Very few women want Aspie men

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Well I have to say that all of your replies are very insightful. I’m past the sex part now. I also have put away my feelings. I gave up my home to move in with him and A) he did not help me move and B) my household belongings went into a storage locker because there is no room in his house. The moment he said I could not even bring one of my own dressers in.....it was the start of the end. I haven’t even attempted sex with him again.

I have concluded we are room mates. He cannot understand why I am so upset. I went from owning my own home (equal in value to his that I bought with my own money and not a penny from anyone else), to a storage locker.

And lately our communication has gotten so bad I can’t stand to be near him. Everything I say irritates him. His replies are rude. Now you need to understand I am a positive, intelligent and respected person in my personal and professional life and liked by many......so I know it’s not me.

Of course I understand he is going through a bitter divorce and it is causing him much stress. But that stress is causing me huge amounts of stress.
I meditate to find my happy. It’s gone.

But I keep thinking there is hope with this guy.

I would agree that it tends to be a lot harder for Aspie guys to get women than it tends to be for NT guys to get women. Lots of us on the spectrum have various issues that are partly related to us being on the spectrum & I believe the combo & extent of all those issues is a huge factor as to why Aspie guys have a harder time than NT guys. I belonged to various online communities for people with various disabilities & lots of NT guys who have various disabilities in general tend to have a hard time getting women compared to non disabled guys. An NT guy who has some physical disabilities that prevent him from maintaining gainful employment & having his sh!t together in life but who has good social skills, may have just as hard a time if not harder time getting women than an Aspie guy who's very high functioning. When I mentioned Aspergers on dating site profiles, I got lots of messages from women who were expecting me to have a good career in the tech industry or STEM fields in general. I have various physical & mental disabilities besides Aspergers & I struggled majorly to get romantic relationships & I think the combo of all my disabilities was why. I could of compensated for my Aspergers a lot if I wouldn't of had my other disabilities. My Aspergers wouldn't of been a huge deal for some women if I would of been able to have a good job & been much more independent with life. I also would of been able to compensate for my other disabilities much better if I wouldn't of had Aspergers on top of everything. I could of had better jobs & I would of had a much easier time finding employment if I wouldn't of had awkwardness with job interviews & I would of made much better 1st impressions with women when approaching them offline & online if I wouldn't of had Aspergers.

What ended up working for me with getting my current girlfriend & both my exes was that I actually sought out women who had various so-called issues, disabilities, & problems. Sometimes those types of people tend to be more accepting of others who also have issues/disabilities/problems. It makes sense to me from a logical perspective that sometimes people who have different issues/disabilities/problems can relate to what it's like to have struggles even if their struggles are due to different causes. Plus depending on how their specific strengths & weaknesses match up, the couple might could both have a very fulling mutualistic symbiotic relationship or interdependent relationship.

The problem with all of those is that they are "status markers". If you have lots of money, a successful business, is good looking, excel at sports or is a public figure in some other way, then you will boost social status of your potential partners that become attracted to you because of this, but it will mostly be NTs since it is those that are attracted to such issues.

If you look at many successful artists, writers and such on the spectrum, you will notice many will stay lonely and their love affairs will often be highly catastrophic because they attract the wrong people.

What do you call low-quality suitors?