that1weirdgrrrl
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Rexi
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24 Dec 2020, 4:45 am
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24 Dec 2020, 9:03 am
cyberdad wrote:
Pepe wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
For me it never happened. I had one very attractive female friend who "friendzoned" me for 5 years. During that time she had hookups with men who didn't match up to me in looks, income or other factors. She knew I liked her. After 5 years I broached her why? and she said "I value our friendship too much".
At that point I realise I didn't value the friendship if there was going to be a "no touch rule". We parted the ways.
At that point I realise I didn't value the friendship if there was going to be a "no touch rule". We parted the ways.
Your choice.
I would have kept the friendship as well as looking elsewhere.
A rather logic approach, I would have thought.
I really like women as friends.
Is it my age, my autism, or something else?
I don't care why.
I simply enjoy being supportive!
I enjoy being protective!
Perhaps it is a consequence of being gang-stalked for 25 years.
Who gives a crap?
I don't.
Read my lips: I like women as friends!
Yes, I have been into the caffeine/chocolate. [sigh]
A bit of Xmas vice.
I should be "better" in around 12 hours.
Well it was 32 years ago now so its quite possible she is busy now looking after her grandchildren. She did ring me a year later scolding me for being immature and saying the reason she freindzoned me was because her best friend was infatuated with me and she didn't want to come between us. Ironically I also thought her best friend also friendzoned me.
I often heard well afterward (time and distance) that certain girls were interested in me and I could/have should made my move (shrug shoulders emoji)....
Life's a biatch, huh?
24 Dec 2020, 9:06 am
Rexi wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Rexi wrote:
Maybe she has 5 others do it to her c;
This aspect of the relationship differential is related to the law of demand and supply.
Feelings are beautiful if you portion them, just like making good food. Add the right ingredients in the right amounts and you get a wonderful meal.
Mmm...
The secrete ingredient is a dash of gang-stalking.
24 Dec 2020, 9:17 am
Rexi wrote:
Pepe wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Sounds like he might "want his cake, and to eat it as well."
He is only 21, FFS.
How many 21 year olds, these days, want to settle down?
These are the years to gain experience so you know what you want when you are ready for a proper commitment.
It ain't rocket surgery.
I suggest people play the field, at this young age.
That may not be something innocent people are ready for or desire. Like, Porn used to traumatize me.
From my perspective, it is a sensible, mature thing to do.
Rexi wrote:
But as long as they are ready to do it and not invest emotionally, which is harder for younger people, it could be fun. I don't believe that it would be helpful.
We will have to agree to disagree.
Rexi wrote:
I have a lot of experience with not only playing the fiels but it hasn't brought me any closer to making it work with different people. You have to observe your issues and theirs, and avoid making them worse, but aim to build a safe and fulfilling interaction.
With experience usually comes greater wisdom.
I find it hard to believe you would have a lesser understanding of what you wanted out of life now than when you were 21.
Rexi wrote:
They could be missing chances for serious relationships that will give them beautiful moments. They just have to be careful about what the people they want to date do, not what they say they are like. A majority can present themselves misleadingly up to the times that are to test if they can be respectful, kind and communicative.
Well, I am of the firm belief that very few 21 year olds intimately know who they are, let alone, what sort of life partner they want.
You are lovely.
I don't want to upset you.
So let us agree to disagree.
24 Dec 2020, 9:20 am
MaxE wrote:
skiddlebugz wrote:
I wouldn’t say he’s a catfish because we met each other a few times already. Reason why I asked this is because he kissed me and doesn’t want a relationship this second so it kind of confused me.
Well he's only 21, he has no idea what he wants long term. You and he are clearly attracted to each other so you should just continue to see each other for now and see where it goes. And try to avoid the heavy discussions. Stick to anime, you and he must have that interest in common or you wouldn't have gotten this far.
Exactly.
24 Dec 2020, 9:24 am
24 Dec 2020, 9:25 am
cyberdad wrote:
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
Lost_dragon wrote:
I'd like to, at the very least, have my first kiss sometime in my 20's.
I did. It was terrible. I wished I'd waited for someone better.
Probably helps if the boy gargles mouthwash and 5 min chewing mint before taking the plunge
You do know that Lost_Dragon is openly gay, right?
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25 Dec 2020, 3:03 am
Rexi
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25 Dec 2020, 3:17 am
Pepe wrote:
Rexi wrote:
Pepe wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Sounds like he might "want his cake, and to eat it as well."
He is only 21, FFS.
How many 21 year olds, these days, want to settle down?
These are the years to gain experience so you know what you want when you are ready for a proper commitment.
It ain't rocket surgery.
I suggest people play the field, at this young age.
That may not be something innocent people are ready for or desire. Like, Porn used to traumatize me.
From my perspective, it is a sensible, mature thing to do.
Rexi wrote:
But as long as they are ready to do it and not invest emotionally, which is harder for younger people, it could be fun. I don't believe that it would be helpful.
We will have to agree to disagree.
Rexi wrote:
I have a lot of experience with not only playing the fiels but it hasn't brought me any closer to making it work with different people. You have to observe your issues and theirs, and avoid making them worse, but aim to build a safe and fulfilling interaction.
With experience usually comes greater wisdom.
I find it hard to believe you would have a lesser understanding of what you wanted out of life now than when you were 21.
Rexi wrote:
They could be missing chances for serious relationships that will give them beautiful moments. They just have to be careful about what the people they want to date do, not what they say they are like. A majority can present themselves misleadingly up to the times that are to test if they can be respectful, kind and communicative.
Well, I am of the firm belief that very few 21 year olds intimately know who they are, let alone, what sort of life partner they want.
You are lovely.
I don't want to upset you.
So let us agree to disagree.
You are a lovable skunk. I will not upset you, this time.
Admittedly oftentimes I end up more confused than in my 20s.
Due to the inability to tell what's proper and improper to want, and what's good and bad, I have gained my knowledge by reading and asking people rather than dating. Dating is very confusing.
25 Dec 2020, 4:08 am
Pepe wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
Lost_dragon wrote:
I'd like to, at the very least, have my first kiss sometime in my 20's.
I did. It was terrible. I wished I'd waited for someone better.
Probably helps if the boy gargles mouthwash and 5 min chewing mint before taking the plunge
You do know that Lost_Dragon is openly gay, right?
I was replying to weirdgrrrl
25 Dec 2020, 9:38 pm
Pepe wrote:
Life's a biatch, huh?
Try to make ends meet, your a slave to money then you die...yeah I know.
