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in heaven the "air" itself is one big 420 
What's special about the number 420?
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auntblabby wrote:
in heaven the "air" itself is one big 420
What's special about the number 420?
Hi Not Male,
This.
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One is bad enough. If I had multiple partners tormenting me my head would explode!
Yes one at a time please. My social processor isn't fast enough to keep up with more than one at a time.
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21 Mar 2021, 7:28 pm
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Mormonism is a religion on its own. It is not Christianity as it does not comply to the fundamental core principles of what Christianity is.
But going to the practice of having more then one wife or more then one husband. Isn't it obvious why God chose ar a certain time for men to have just one wife? (Apart from having more then one mother in law!
) It was because marriage is a very close commitment. When one has more then one wife or husband, one simply cant spend the time with each one as one should.
I could not cope with more then one woman. One woman would be all that I could handle because marriage is a continual "Full on" experience, and it is a continual work in progress cemented together in love.
How can one do this effectively whilst being married to more then one person?
But going to the practice of having more then one wife or more then one husband. Isn't it obvious why God chose ar a certain time for men to have just one wife? (Apart from having more then one mother in law!
) It was because marriage is a very close commitment. When one has more then one wife or husband, one simply cant spend the time with each one as one should. I could not cope with more then one woman. One woman would be all that I could handle because marriage is a continual "Full on" experience, and it is a continual work in progress cemented together in love.
How can one do this effectively whilst being married to more then one person?
Some people may have for example a gf who can't spend much time in the relationship because she's on the spectrum. so then all the time you wish and need to dedicate will not be able to be spent.
Then there are just intellectual partners or partners which connect through sex more so it's not exactly patternized on your needs or desires, they complete them. Best to have 2 partners than emotionally invest in a friend while committed, it's emotionally disloyal.
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21 Mar 2021, 7:38 pm
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I don't see anything wrong with it, if it's consensual between all parties. But I do not think I would want that, seems like it would be quite complicated to have more than one relationship at the same time.
Being complicated depends on the terms of the relationship, for example if you don't want to get too much into things keep it light and not share every detail of the other relationships. If you schedule meetings and have time on your hands. Everyone's different though, what's easy for a person may be hard for another. If you're passionate about it, it's not hard work, it's pleasant and worth it.
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21 Mar 2021, 7:46 pm
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Not my cup od tea. I'm very much "depth over width" kind of person in such contexts.
I'm overly intense and deep and I deem that an issue, it's always driven me crazy at some point, and I lose my mind over it, becomes uncontrollable and unhealthy.
With multiple people, it doesn't enter my hyperfocus so much especially if Im not comitting even if emotionally involved, and I can realize what's going on, and that there's more to it, as well as swap focus and get on with my life. That is mostly if it's drama free which are the ties I try to keep.
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21 Mar 2021, 8:02 pm
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Mona Pereth wrote:
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A whole nested polyamorous society would lead to a STD pandemic disaster.
There’s no guarantee that one of the 3-4 poly circle wouldn’t have a relation with someone in another poly circle and so on.
There’s no guarantee that one of the 3-4 poly circle wouldn’t have a relation with someone in another poly circle and so on.
Depends on what kind of erotic activity the partners engage in, in the first place, as well as on whether they take the relevant safety precautions, e.g. condoms.
Some poly people do PIV and/or oral sex with just one partner, and do other kinds of erotic activity (kink/fetish) with other partners. Such arrangements are equivalent to monogamy as far as exposure to other people's body fluids is concerned.
No PIV or oral (they also couldn't kiss)..... then what do they do?
fingering, toy play, spanking etc. Plus they may be asexual
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21 Mar 2021, 8:04 pm
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What are your thoughts on non-monogamous relationships? Polyamory is a more recent term that means numerous loves. Basically, a married couple can have a gf/bf or numerous gf's/bf's. Non-married couples can have numerous partners as well. Usually the relationships aren't just sexual; they're also romantic and emotional relationships. Any sexual orientation can be Polyamorous; usually the most common sexual orientations that are polyamorous are bisexual, gay male/ male homosexual, and heterosexual. Polygamy is usually one man many wives, or one woman many husbands, but I can see homosexual polygamous relationships being a thing, if it wasn't mainly a religious thing. Usually Mormons or Muslims are the groups that marry different women or men. Even though Christianity looks down upon this type of relationship, Mormonism is the only sect of Christianity that practices Polygamy. There's also different types of non-monogamous relationships like swinging, which is usually a couple having sexual relationships with other couples. Open relationships are different, which is a main couple having a relationship with another another person, which is a secondary relationship. Discuss your opinions here.
Polygamy sounds really appealing to me but I would never do it personally.
Being autistic, I would find being polyamorous mentally exhausting.
Not interested.
Healthy relationships are supposed to be comfortable and make you happy. That includes not doing anything more than what you feel like doing, when you feel like doing it. You can just relax together or talk.
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21 Mar 2021, 8:18 pm
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OutsideView wrote:
I wonder how many of us would want to be poly if we could cope with that many people versus how many would still want to be with only one person anyway. I'd definitely like to have more friends if I could (and if I knew how) but would still only like one person for romance and sex.
Thanks! Never heard that before.
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Thanks! Never heard that before.
I don't know, I think even if my social processing unit (spu) got upgraded to NT, I'd still prefer one woman. I get jealous, plus she would get jealous. It's wild some people look at things differently, I just am me.
Jealousy is inevitable and it's not a problem when you agree from the getgo and make no false beliefs about how we are going to be with others. At least that's for me. You have to deal with it and not let it consume you. It was always a big issue in my commitments and surprisingly it barely is with my multiple men now, given that im not in a poly commitment but have multiple partners that I invest emotionally in, hopefully for long-term.
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22 Mar 2021, 2:27 am
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Gentleman Argentum wrote:
OutsideView wrote:
I wonder how many of us would want to be poly if we could cope with that many people versus how many would still want to be with only one person anyway. I'd definitely like to have more friends if I could (and if I knew how) but would still only like one person for romance and sex.
Thanks! Never heard that before.
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Thanks! Never heard that before.
I don't know, I think even if my social processing unit (spu) got upgraded to NT, I'd still prefer one woman. I get jealous, plus she would get jealous. It's wild some people look at things differently, I just am me.
Jealousy is inevitable and it's not a problem when you agree from the getgo and make no false beliefs about how we are going to be with others. At least that's for me. You have to deal with it and not let it consume you. It was always a big issue in my commitments and surprisingly it barely is with my multiple men now, given that im not in a poly commitment but have multiple partners that I invest emotionally in, hopefully for long-term.
Most guys haven't the luxury of even considering poly. You're rather different than most women, most demand exclusivity from their male partner. I read this in female profiles, it is often mentioned: "No hookups, monogamous only..." In fact, one woman (@ OKCupid) rejected me while we were matched and texting, because I had dared to mention short-term dating in my profile. She concluded I was a "playa" and also found fault with an answer I gave to the questionnaire in which I favored the legalization of marijuana. Oh! the scandal!
I admire your versatility, however a thought in the back of my mind is, perhaps this is how you make your living? I do not mean to offend, I am for legalization and normalization of that occupation, but it has always seemed to me that the Aspy trait would be ideal in some ways for that profession. But what do I know?
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