I am not allowed to date or talk to women romantically

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I'm worried about this too

Well a lot of people in my culture dont like to discuss inheritances with kids before they die.They do it to provide for me as I am unable to work.

Well the only ways for me to seize independence from my parents would be being homeless on the streets or locked up somewhere for life in a state insitution or group home.

AFAIK, group homes don't lock people up.

Why are you unable to work?

Yep.....parents with trust funds for their kids have a way of doing this sort of thing.

You are certainly in a quandary....and I wish we could come up with a solution.

Have your parents ever told you why they feel you're not ready for a relationship?

In my opinion, I feel you should be allowed to, at least, form friendships with women.

I am unable to work because of my aspergers but I have been trying to get a job for about a decade and i really have not had much luck.

They think I am not ready for a relationship because they think i will have my feelings hurt.I am allowed to have friendships with women but I am not allowed a romantic relationship.

Group homes don't lock people up----but they frequently do have curfews, and they give residents mandatory chores that they have to do around the house.

One is less "independent" in a group home than in one's own home.

It would certainly involve a significant disruption at first and because of that I can't suggest it's a good course of action but at the same time depending on how much the situation with your parents is hurting you it still might have a similar cost/benefit analysis.

That said, I'd also not tell them if a relationship is romantic because they've chosen to create a circumstance where it's reasonable to deny them those details.

There are different jobs. Asperger's is a condition that may make you unable to do one but perfectly suited for another.
What are you good at?

Have you had a very bad reaction to someone breaking up with you in the past?

I believe it is true that friendships with women can sometimes turn into romances with women.

It's natural for a person to want a romantic relationship with another person----whether the person is "disabled" or "not disabled."

We don't know, in totality, the OP's situation.

I wouldn't advocate encouraging someone to "go out on his/her own" unless I know the person well.

If he hasn't had any employment at all, he would only be possibly eligible for SSI. One really doesn't get a sustainable monthly payment with SSI.

I can certainly understand why a person would want a romantic relationship with another person. People are human, after all---whether or not they are "disabled."

Well I am good at preaching but I dont know if a church of Christ would hire me since I drink in moderation.We have been trying to get a job for my aspergers through the state job supported people for close to a decade and they have not gotten me a good job yet.I am thinking about possibly working for my church but idk if they would hire a drinker.

I'm not sure it's your employer's business if you moderately drink.

Well maybe i used the wrong term or mispoke.I was mainly referring to being locked up in a state insitution.Sorry for the confusions.But a group home or a state facility may be the only way i avoid the streets.

If your church is already so important part of your life, I think seeking some employment within it would be a good idea.