goldfish21
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20 Feb 2022, 12:49 pm
No one to tell me I can't go buy this other car on Tuesday. 
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20 Feb 2022, 1:04 pm
goldfish21 wrote:
No one to tell me I can't go buy this other car on Tuesday.
that's the greatest part of all, but also there is nobody up close and person who cares enough to encourage you to double-check things. when my sister was alive she saved me from some potentially disastrous impulse decisions, i almost bought a nice baby-blue '93 cadillac sedan de ville but she encouraged me to pay to have it mechanically inspected, turns out it was a money pit, as expected, so i was saved from that.
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20 Feb 2022, 1:12 pm
auntblabby wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
No one to tell me I can't go buy this other car on Tuesday.
that's the greatest part of all, but also there is nobody up close and person who cares enough to encourage you to double-check things. when my sister was alive she saved me from some potentially disastrous impulse decisions, i almost bought a nice baby-blue '93 cadillac sedan de ville but she encouraged me to pay to have it mechanically inspected, turns out it was a money pit, as expected, so i was saved from that.
Just because I'm single doesn't mean there aren't people in my life, though. I've been renting from my parents for a decade, my brother lives nearby, so does my sister in law and friends and other family members. I have coworkers, tons of friends from the beach etc. Plus online friends I've rarely or never met. I'm certainly not lacking for anyone to run any crazy ideas or big purchases by. The car purchase idea I definitely ran by others and I'm taking my retired mechanic uncle and one of his collector car friends over to the island to inspect the car before I hand over cash.
Bigger than the car purchase, I've run the idea of moving out/in with my 14yo God son and looking after him while he finishes high school by a lot more people for their input. It's not like I ONLY rely on myself to make big decisions just because I'm single!
Hmm, this makes me think.. maybe I'll decide to renew my passport and fill this sucker up stateside - its approximately 40% cheaper (after exchange rate) for gas in Blaine than it is here.
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20 Feb 2022, 1:14 pm
goldfish21 wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
No one to tell me I can't go buy this other car on Tuesday.
that's the greatest part of all, but also there is nobody up close and person who cares enough to encourage you to double-check things. when my sister was alive she saved me from some potentially disastrous impulse decisions, i almost bought a nice baby-blue '93 cadillac sedan de ville but she encouraged me to pay to have it mechanically inspected, turns out it was a money pit, as expected, so i was saved from that.
Just because I'm single doesn't mean there aren't people in my life, though. I've been renting from my parents for a decade, my brother lives nearby, so does my sister in law and friends and other family members. I have coworkers, tons of friends from the beach etc. Plus online friends I've rarely or never met. I'm certainly not lacking for anyone to run any crazy ideas or big purchases by. The car purchase idea I definitely ran by others and I'm taking my retired mechanic uncle and one of his collector car friends over to the island to inspect the car before I hand over cash.
Bigger than the car purchase, I've run the idea of moving out/in with my 14yo God son and looking after him while he finishes high school by a lot more people for their input. It's not like I ONLY rely on myself to make big decisions just because I'm single!
you are fortunate your exceptional social intelligence has got you a huge circle of friends.
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20 Feb 2022, 1:17 pm
auntblabby wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
No one to tell me I can't go buy this other car on Tuesday.
that's the greatest part of all, but also there is nobody up close and person who cares enough to encourage you to double-check things. when my sister was alive she saved me from some potentially disastrous impulse decisions, i almost bought a nice baby-blue '93 cadillac sedan de ville but she encouraged me to pay to have it mechanically inspected, turns out it was a money pit, as expected, so i was saved from that.
Just because I'm single doesn't mean there aren't people in my life, though. I've been renting from my parents for a decade, my brother lives nearby, so does my sister in law and friends and other family members. I have coworkers, tons of friends from the beach etc. Plus online friends I've rarely or never met. I'm certainly not lacking for anyone to run any crazy ideas or big purchases by. The car purchase idea I definitely ran by others and I'm taking my retired mechanic uncle and one of his collector car friends over to the island to inspect the car before I hand over cash.
Bigger than the car purchase, I've run the idea of moving out/in with my 14yo God son and looking after him while he finishes high school by a lot more people for their input. It's not like I ONLY rely on myself to make big decisions just because I'm single!
you are fortunate your exceptional social intelligence has got you a huge circle of friends.
This is not by sheer luck Or skill Or IQ or anything of the sort. As I've been transparent about on these forums for nearly a full decade now, it's because I figured out what the cause of my ASD symptoms is and how to treat it naturally and continue to follow a protocol to do so - granted, less strictly lately, but still I treat my symptoms and then enjoy the benefits of it.
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20 Feb 2022, 2:51 pm
Pepe wrote:
Isabella is clearly upset.
Perhaps you need to give her some space?
Perhaps you need to give her some space?
What would I do without your advice, oh wise one. Such wise counsel.
20 Feb 2022, 3:14 pm
20 Feb 2022, 4:11 pm
20 Feb 2022, 10:35 pm
IsabellaLinton wrote:
Agreed ^ I'm all for doll ownership or whatever makes people happy.
Maybe there can be a special thread somewhere for members to post photos of nearly-naked people / dolls? I'm starting to see photos like those ^ in unexpected places like Random, where children and the general public can see. Sexually-suggestive photos might also be triggering for some members.
If anyone quotes the pictures they multiply on the page. On a few occasions I've seen pages of WP looking like a porn site, or an advertising site for sex toys / sex workers. I'd expect sexual photos to be in Adult, if they're anywhere on WP.
Maybe there can be a special thread somewhere for members to post photos of nearly-naked people / dolls? I'm starting to see photos like those ^ in unexpected places like Random, where children and the general public can see. Sexually-suggestive photos might also be triggering for some members.
If anyone quotes the pictures they multiply on the page. On a few occasions I've seen pages of WP looking like a porn site, or an advertising site for sex toys / sex workers. I'd expect sexual photos to be in Adult, if they're anywhere on WP.
First of all, I didn't say I owned the doll.
Secondly, my photo was nowhere near naked.
20 Feb 2022, 10:41 pm
auntblabby wrote:
ok, how does one grow together with another? that is aside from the nagging question of how does one connect to another in the first place? like a cat watching a human use a doorknob. 
nobody here seems able or willing to explain this, like it is a secret among the in-crowd of beautiful people high-functioners.
nobody here seems able or willing to explain this, like it is a secret among the in-crowd of beautiful people high-functioners.IMO, the most important thing is that there is mutual attraction, and I definitely don't mean simply a physical one.
Without this, I can't see a mutually luving relationship ever developing.
20 Feb 2022, 10:44 pm
auntblabby wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
No one to tell me I can't go buy this other car on Tuesday.
that's the greatest part of all, but also there is nobody up close and person who cares enough to encourage you to double-check things. when my sister was alive she saved me from some potentially disastrous impulse decisions, i almost bought a nice baby-blue '93 cadillac sedan de ville but she encouraged me to pay to have it mechanically inspected, turns out it was a money pit, as expected, so i was saved from that.
Who needs a partner when you have Google?
20 Feb 2022, 10:47 pm
goldfish21 wrote:
Just because I'm single doesn't mean there aren't people in my life, though. I've been renting from my parents for a decade, my brother lives nearby, so does my sister in law and friends and other family members. I have coworkers, tons of friends from the beach etc. Plus online friends I've rarely or never met. I'm certainly not lacking for anyone to run any crazy ideas or big purchases by. The car purchase idea I definitely ran by others and I'm taking my retired mechanic uncle and one of his collector car friends over to the island to inspect the car before I hand over cash.
I simply buy new cars with 5-year manufacturer's warranties.
20 Feb 2022, 11:01 pm
theprisoner wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Isabella is clearly upset.
Perhaps you need to give her some space?
Perhaps you need to give her some space?
What would I do without your advice, oh wise one. Such wise counsel.
I didn't give you advice for your benefit.
I did it for myself.
Based on what you have suggested previously, we have a similar belief in the fact that people do things for profoundly selfish reasons.
Caring for someone is one of the most selfish things a person can ever do.
It fulfils a profound need in most of us.
I.E. A sense of meaning/porpoisepurpose.
Altruists simply satisfy their inherent emotional needs, as an example.
I care for my friend Isabella, and I gain a selfish sense of meaning in life in doing so.
Such is life.
You, on the other hand, are a stranger.
Who do you think I was going to support?
I did so in a gentle way, however.
I hope you can see that.
20 Feb 2022, 11:16 pm
Velorum wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Velorum wrote:
Not having to mask in order to meet someone else's needs at the expense of my own mental health.
Three failed marriages. They were all NT's and I have longstanding trauma and PTSD as a result.
We are all different of course, but for me mixing neurotypes doesn't work. It took me many years to understand that I relate much better to other autistic people.
I am at the beginning is a long distance relationship with an autistic woman with a similar profile to me - one thing that we got straight at the beginning is that neither of us wanted to live with anyone on a full time basis again. And we are both determined not to get married again.
Three failed marriages. They were all NT's and I have longstanding trauma and PTSD as a result.
We are all different of course, but for me mixing neurotypes doesn't work. It took me many years to understand that I relate much better to other autistic people.
I am at the beginning is a long distance relationship with an autistic woman with a similar profile to me - one thing that we got straight at the beginning is that neither of us wanted to live with anyone on a full time basis again. And we are both determined not to get married again.
A step in the right direction, but why not simply be friends?
Is there a sexual component in this long-distance relationship?
Thats important but not the deciding factor. We dont want to simply be friends, if we did then we would.
Call me autistic, but I don't understand where you are coming from.
Are you saying you want to consummate the relationship if you haven't done so already?
I don't understand why you are being coy in regards to your sexual interest, assuming this is or will be one.
I am getting the impression you might be heading towards a friend with benefits relationship.
Or do you want the upgrade version in terms of oxytocin involvement affecting your state of mind created by a drug-induced bonding mechanism?
I am autistic, a bonafide one.
This sort of investigative, err, investigation is something you can expect from moi.
20 Feb 2022, 11:20 pm
Misslizard wrote:
I always get the last slice of cake , pizza or bottle of cider.
The toilet lid is always down.
I have complete control over the tv remote and programs.
No arguments about the room temperature.
I can drink right out of the juice bottle whenever I feel like it.
The hot water never runs short.
I don’t have to share my stash.
The toilet lid is always down.
I have complete control over the tv remote and programs.
No arguments about the room temperature.
I can drink right out of the juice bottle whenever I feel like it.
The hot water never runs short.
I don’t have to share my stash.
Would you like a foot warmer?
I don't mind the smell of cheese.
I hope you don't mind the smell of skunk.
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21 Feb 2022, 12:09 am
Pepe wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Just because I'm single doesn't mean there aren't people in my life, though. I've been renting from my parents for a decade, my brother lives nearby, so does my sister in law and friends and other family members. I have coworkers, tons of friends from the beach etc. Plus online friends I've rarely or never met. I'm certainly not lacking for anyone to run any crazy ideas or big purchases by. The car purchase idea I definitely ran by others and I'm taking my retired mechanic uncle and one of his collector car friends over to the island to inspect the car before I hand over cash.
I simply buy new cars with 5-year manufacturer's warranties.
I have one of those, too. I bought it brand new about 6 years ago, paid for almost 1.5 years now, no problems.
This one is a gas guzzling classic with a pimp coke dealer paint job on it.
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