orbweaver wrote:
I had no trouble meeting people in my teens and early twenties, but probably common for a lot of cute teenage girls who for whatever reason are set back in adulthood, it peaked early. I didn't really learn anything from any of these experiences that could be applied to my future relationships. Dating as a teenager did not teach me anything about dating as an adult except that it gets harder to find a new relationship with anyone NTs consider "relationship material" when you are in any way decompensated (and many NTs, especially ones who had it relatively easy, often aren't understanding).
You kind of remind me of my sister, at least in terms of being able to get dates quite easily.
Growing up, my sister was the cute petite blonde girl that had zero difficulty with getting male attention. She dated a lot during her teenage years and early twenties and her looks got her in with the "cool crowd". In high school, she liked to go out with her friends and went to parties designed for college students. She developed a drinking habit as a result (more on that later)
Anyways, because she was quite attractive, this enabled her to find boyfriends quite easily despite having (no offense) not the best personality and having little career prospects out of high school. She met "the one" at 21, got married at 25, and was married for 10 years before ultimately getting divorced.
Now she's 33 with no job, no college education, an alcohol addiction with health problems as a result, and still doesn't have a great personality. With her looks and fertility beginning to decline, she won't be able to solely rely on her looks like she used to as a 21 year old.
07 Jul 2022, 11:02 pm
