16 Jan 2009, 1:48 pm
I was raised to be a Christian, but I still choose to follow it myself. I'm hundreds (if not thousands? she may have moved..) of miles away from my parents so I could do whatever I want now. I believe its the right thing to do. So I guess that means I have to stick it out. I guess I will live. No one really said I have to be happy about it, just that I have to do the right thing
Of course it sounds like there's not much effort on his side. I'm the one telling the story! I'm sure if you asked him he would say that he always tries and tries to make things work but I am never happy.
Yeah, know what you mean.
Where did you grow up then? But say if we only live once, why go through life miserable with the person who you have to spend your life with?
Well maybe. Does he not have aspergers or anything?
16 Jan 2009, 1:52 pm
Well....try to date her again.
yessss. Lol, hope that not a dig at her
We are still going out. Its just I live in England and she lives in America. Just kind of putting things on hold untill we can be together. Long distance is pretty soul destroying. And thats why i'm feeling a bit horny? And can't do anything about it, its not quite long enough to reach across the atlantic
16 Jan 2009, 2:00 pm
I grew up in Arizona and I currently live in California. My mom may have moved to the UK, though. I know she was planning on it and I haven't talked to her in a few months so she might be there already. *shrug*
Well.. there's the whole beleif system.. I can't just throw that away because I mad a stupid descision in who I married. Funny thing is that I went against my religious beleifs TO marry him 
. He's a different type of Christian and mine beleives 'marry only in the lord' means only in our particular denomination. So my family and my pastors and everyone counseled me against it but I married him anyway and here I am! I appreciate irony. 
I don't know what he is. I'm not entirely convinced there isn't something neurologically wrong with him. He has some AS tendencies like not being very sociable, needing to recharge after social events, being very analytical - 'logical", ect. But he is always explaining to me the need to be careful how I word things and of my voice tones and explaining social rules to me and I know that he specifically words things and acts in certain ways to get specific responses from the reciever so that seems to exclude AS.
We don't understand eachother at all. That is pretty much how I wound up on this site. I was looking for ways to learn how to communicate better because I can't communicate with him at all. In fact, although I always felt I was autistic and always had certain signs, I wouldn't say AS has caused me many problems until I got married. I had huge social phobias but I was able to push past them and make something of my life. But communicating with him is just not something I seem to be capable of. I can't understand him and he doesn't undersand me.
I was trying to feel better about him lately so I went and found an old email that I had written years ago to my best friend about why I loved him, to try to remind myself of how it used to be. Of the reasons I listed to my friend, None of them are true anymore!! 
So needless to say, that letter didn't help.
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16 Jan 2009, 2:01 pm
Well....try to date her again.
yessss. Lol, hope that not a dig at her
We are still going out. Its just I live in England and she lives in America. Just kind of putting things on hold untill we can be together. Long distance is pretty soul destroying. And thats why i'm feeling a bit horny? And can't do anything about it, its not quite long enough to reach across the atlantic
Long distance does suck real bad. I had to deal with that for a couple of years before I moved to CA and married my long distance love
16 Jan 2009, 2:10 pm
Well....try to date her again.
yessss. Lol, hope that not a dig at her
We are still going out. Its just I live in England and she lives in America. Just kind of putting things on hold untill we can be together. Long distance is pretty soul destroying. And thats why i'm feeling a bit horny? And can't do anything about it, its not quite long enough to reach across the atlantic
...have you ever met her face-to-face? If no, then it was never a relationship.
16 Jan 2009, 2:12 pm
16 Jan 2009, 2:15 pm
^ and that is your opinion, not a fact
16 Jan 2009, 2:21 pm
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16 Jan 2009, 2:28 pm
I guess it depends on how you define a romantic relationship.
I got this conclusion based on personal observation, science is largely based on observation after all.
16 Jan 2009, 2:29 pm
Yeah That's basically what I'm trying to say.
Sorry, hope I didn't offend you.
True. But even so, it is a hypothesis or a theory until it has been proven with facts.
16 Jan 2009, 2:33 pm
16 Jan 2009, 2:40 pm
Well.. I gotta say I don't agree with that because my hypothesis is that yours is a hypothesis... if yours is a hypothesis, then mine is true.
Hm.. but if you were to indeed prove yours as fact somehow, then I guess mine would be untrue. Which I guess means that mine can still be disproven. Which I think makes it a theory? Lol
16 Jan 2009, 2:42 pm
Yeah I remember doing some disagreeing in that thread...
16 Jan 2009, 2:45 pm
*Ahem* anyway.. back to ben's problem.....
Yeah, that sucks there benny boy!
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