i cut my long-distance thing. i feel like s**t

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Oh..ok, but that has little to do with it, you`re
talking about censoring your post and what
you say - I`m talking about honesty and
editing posts because its poorly written or
too long textwise or just in the way, i dont
connect that so much with honesty - but
it was not a huge deal, someone mentioned
it was 100% impossible so i was just curious

..and it just occured to me that i do take back
my words in real life, i can say something and
then say no wait, scratch that, let me start
over

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well I don't believe that people don't censor the things that they don't want seen over the Internet. it's human nature, you want to appear better than you are IRL. most of the time it's probably more about having an overly-optimistic image of oneself.

either way, an online persona is always to some extent a creation...

"you want to appear better than you are IRL"

I cant speak for others but i can safely and without
a doubt say, no. No i dont. And i can put that in
writing. In fact i just did.

""either way, an online persona is always to some extent a creation...""

Ah, thats another difference, i dont have an "online persona" thats any
different from me, its either me or nothing and its not an creation in
any way, its me being me writing stuff, thats pretty much it. And i`m
just not the forum type either, never spent much time on them or
made any habbits before i came to wp, so its just me writing -
no more, no less.

--edit
maybe i just read honest to literally or
something, i did delete a post i made in the adult
section recently, it just felt a little too personal,
but i dont see that as not being honest - i didnt
lie, and it was not something i haven`t said in
real life also and i dont see anything dishonest
about removing it since no one would gain or loose
anything at all by reading it, it was just a random
detail in a thread. So if thats dishonest, then i`m
dishonest, yes defention problems. Dishonest to
me is someone who is not trustworthy, someone who
lie and cheat, usually to gain an advantage.

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People do censor themselves in real life. How do you think so many people end up married to someone who turns out to be the complete opposite of who they pretended to be when dating? Online romance has a good dose of fantasy, true. But so does a real-life relationship. Granted, online is a lot harder to tell when a person is being truthful. But all I'm saying is you really never know.

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""People do cencor themselves in real life. How do you think so many people end up married to someone who turns out to be the complete opposite of who they pretended to be when dating?""

Because some people make the mistake of marrying people
they dont know, i think.. First one gets to know the people,
then one marries if its still good. If i ended up married to
someone who turned out to be a nightmare, i would see it
as my fault, it jumped into it too fast, didnt do the groundwork

That's often but not always true. It's called a bait-and-switch and people do it all the time.

Yeah they can trick you - anyone can get tricked into things,
depends on how good the tricker is and how gullabel/easy to
fool the victim is i guess - its sad that it happens, since theres
such deep emotions involved - rotten thing to do to someone
that actually cares for you

..this thread kinda went off-track
back to the topic maybe

If my friend would agree to see me, I'd be there in a heart beat, nothing would stop me from visiting. If a woman is truly into you, she will move heaven and earth to be with you. This online thing meant more to you then her. The fact that she went offline when you go online is a big factor in telling you that she's not interested.

I'm sorry this happened but your really better off not having her visit. She could have used you worse than she did.

i know, the signs are clear as day - in retrospect

anna_banana: i was reacting to your comparisons of online/irl love by using "100% honesty" as a factor.
nobody is ever 100% honest

and as i said
50% of norwegian marriages end in a divorce. 50% of the MARRIAGES, not the couples.
and theyre ALL "irl".

love is love. this one failed.
i had another one that WAS going the right way, cus the woman was actually prepared to move here, and find a job here, but it freaked me out, i got scared, and told her off

sounds like something that could happen "irl"? fear of commitment perhaps? if you insist so hard that its not possible, then it just never happened to you. im not saying it happens to me all the time, but its happened twice, so far.

QFT except I'd like to amend it to "If someone is truly into you, they will move heaven and earth to be with you" because it should go both ways.

Yeah, this can apply. But not if it impedes her (of his) own well-being. Then that falls into the category of codependency, and the two might be hard to tell apart with the novice eye.