31 May 2009, 6:35 am
01 Jun 2009, 11:26 am
01 Jun 2009, 11:30 am
01 Jun 2009, 1:24 pm
GhostOfTheChameleon wrote:
sunshower wrote:
aspiedude wrote:
then they often chase the same desires as regular women and may see an aspie male as settling.
What is *with* the stereotype that all women are after rich a**hole guys? I swear, I have never in real life met a female who was specifically trying to find a guy with money. All the girls *I* know are trying to find guys they can relate to, guys they feel they have a connection with.
And isn't it the same thing with what guys want in a girl?
People on this forum really need to learn to stop stereotyping.
P.S. I'm an aspie girl, and I can be extremely outgoing at times when I feel like it; I love socializing and meeting strangers (as well as loving solitary activities and quiet time). How's that for breaching the stereotype?
He didn't mention anything about money or jerks.
I think he's talking about people who are socially confident, well-liked, and not perceived as "strange" by most of the human race. I'm sure any woman who did fairly well socially would consider a relationship with a person like this to be less desirable than one with the alternative. I'd even go so far as to say they'd consider it settling, just as he did.
It's natural for people to gravitate toward people with good social skills, and to consider the latter to be less desirable. If you don't realize that you, yourself, have a problem, you have no foundation for true empathy.
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And just to support that... I'm sure many people with AS have money and can be major jerks. I do very well for myself for my age, myself, and AS men aren't exactly models of sensitivity.
QFT.
sunshower, you should also start to stop stereotyping that all guys think that girls like only jerks.
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aspiedude didn't even mention the word jerk and probably didn't even mean to indicate the jerk guys. Can you deny that girls prefer successful guys? Well, NTs can become more socially (and in most cases career-wise) successful than most aspies.
01 Jun 2009, 6:35 pm
LePetitPrince wrote:
GhostOfTheChameleon wrote:
sunshower wrote:
aspiedude wrote:
then they often chase the same desires as regular women and may see an aspie male as settling.
What is *with* the stereotype that all women are after rich a**hole guys? I swear, I have never in real life met a female who was specifically trying to find a guy with money. All the girls *I* know are trying to find guys they can relate to, guys they feel they have a connection with.
And isn't it the same thing with what guys want in a girl?
People on this forum really need to learn to stop stereotyping.
P.S. I'm an aspie girl, and I can be extremely outgoing at times when I feel like it; I love socializing and meeting strangers (as well as loving solitary activities and quiet time). How's that for breaching the stereotype?
He didn't mention anything about money or jerks.
I think he's talking about people who are socially confident, well-liked, and not perceived as "strange" by most of the human race. I'm sure any woman who did fairly well socially would consider a relationship with a person like this to be less desirable than one with the alternative. I'd even go so far as to say they'd consider it settling, just as he did.
It's natural for people to gravitate toward people with good social skills, and to consider the latter to be less desirable. If you don't realize that you, yourself, have a problem, you have no foundation for true empathy.
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And just to support that... I'm sure many people with AS have money and can be major jerks. I do very well for myself for my age, myself, and AS men aren't exactly models of sensitivity.
QFT.
sunshower, you should also start to stop stereotyping that all guys think that girls like only jerks.
. Too true.
I meant in general on this forum (and in responses to this topic), I wasn't referring to the OP specifically. It can get a bit tiresome.
I agree that girls prefer successful social guys. I just disagree that girls prefer jerks and a**holes. In my opinion.
Of course, I'm just a stereotyping aspie - what would I know?
(I didn't mean that sarcastically either)
03 Jun 2009, 12:13 am
03 Jun 2009, 5:30 am
03 Jun 2009, 5:39 am
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Actually, there is. It's called Aspie Affection. But good luck with that; the girl to guy ratio is about four to one.
Did you say that the wrong way around or is there really 4 girls to every 1 guy? Because those would be hard odds to ignore
03 Jun 2009, 6:42 am
Michjo wrote:
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Actually, there is. It's called Aspie Affection. But good luck with that; the girl to guy ratio is about four to one.
Did you say that the wrong way around or is there really 4 girls to every 1 guy? Because those would be hard odds to ignore
Lol wrong way around.
03 Jun 2009, 5:03 pm
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04 Jun 2009, 3:25 am
I looked at AA once. I don't think there were any girls on it in my area. You'd have to get really lucky to find anyone in your area there because there were so few members.
GhostOfTheChameleon wrote:
I'm sure many people with AS have money and can be major jerks. I do very well for myself for my age, myself, and AS men aren't exactly models of sensitivity.
Oh, AS men can be very sensitive. Try making fun of one and you'll see just how sensitive they can be.
MissConstrue wrote:
Because women suck and they all think alike. They're only a vessel for pleasure.
Only a vessel for pleasure?
C'mon, some of them can cook and clean, too.
Back on topic, I think that some AS guys overestimate how similar an AS girl might be to themselves. I'm convinced that the male aspie experience is different than the female aspie experience so there would still be misunderstandings.
04 Jun 2009, 6:26 am
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