How to talk to Asian girls?

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Met another awesome Asian-American girl today (there aren't many in Texas, so this is new; my previous experience meeting them was all in China) who asked, "You were so outgoing at the beginning, then suddenly became quiet, why?!" I said , "what do you mean," and she said, "Just wondering because I'm the same way."

This is cool. I don't think liking Asian girls is as much about wanting a passive, traditional women as wanting a mirror image of myself: naturally introverted, soft, and innocent-acting/looking, and growing up with strict parents & going to good colleges-- not something I get from most girls with whom I otherwise have things in common. Can anyone else relate?

Nope, I've given up on Asian girls and discovered I actually wanted to date the girl on the radio Ke$ha.

*editted because I forgot the very important dollar sign in her name*

Given up already? Even before you got started?

Anyway, I've chanced upon a book that will be of interest to anyone considering Asian chicks.

http://thailandfever.com/

It is very well written (you might find a PDF version on The Pirate Bay).

Anyway, it provides a lot of details about cultural differences for Thai female/American male couples. I'm sure that a lot of it would be relevant if you were considering other Asian cultures, too.

Perhaps the most important thing to understand, before getting started: typically, the top priority in life, for a Thai woman, is to provide the highest possible standard of living for her parents. This might lead to some misunderstandings with an American husband, who doesn't want to see a huge chunk of his wealth and income being transferred to inlaws in Thailand.

In America, we prize independence and self-reliance. In Thailand, it is the opposite.

It can be difficult for first-generation Thais in America, who work hard to support their parents and family members back home. Their children, on the other hand, grow up with American values, and don't want to support their parents once they've grown up. So, rather than stuffing their money into retirement accounts, they've been supporting their parents, and end up not being supported in old age by their own children. The standard American practice is to send the elderly off to die in nursing homes. Which is something that just wouldn't happen in Thailand.

The clerk at the Asian market asked me if I had a girlfriend yet today. He also wanted me to ask my dad to come in and look at their bandsaw (my dad's business is repairing restaurant machines like that.)

Maybe he'll hook me up.

Or maybe not.

You could just go and get your nails done.

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Not something that heterosexual American men usually do, but men in Asian countries do. Your competition would be quite limited.

Oddly it seems the only Asians I "click" well with are South Asians and not Eastern Asians. IE, Pakistanis, Bangladeshis, Indians, etc. They're not in general freaked out by just walking up to them and talking to them, and I've had casual conversations with a Pakistani dude turn into him telling me showing me and telling me basically exact schematics on how to make a tandoor oven. Also Middle Easterners/Muslims in general, too.

To be fair I was raised partially by a Bosnian Muslim family so I always feel "at home" in Islamic influenced places. Heh. But I'm also not Muslim (and no, I know too much about the religion to convert...)

Anyway the people at the Asian market seem friendlier now that they've connected me and my dad together. Only took like 6-7 years. Also I'm not really fat anymore and according to a random girl from elementary school I'd not seen in like 8-9 years I look "kind of buff" now. My sister says it looks like I work out at the gym once a week (I actually go 5.) Yay slow progress.

Oh well, I should buy a persimmon tree this paycheck and make all 3 or so Asians in my neighborhood mad jelly from my persimmons and goji berries I got growing. They'll be like "woah look at that white guy growing the fruit I pay tons of money for at the Asian market, I'm gonna cast some folk magic spells to grant him misfortune in his harvest!" Or maybe they'll be like "hey can I have some" and I'll be like "yeah sure." And they'll invite me to dinner after.

Also the Asians are impressed at me spending the bulk of my money on actual vegetables and food instead of overpriced kawaii Ramune or pocky and other assorted Asian candy. Also I buy random Chinese herbs and pills and crap, too. Yay.

Oh well, maybe next time I go I'll ask random Asian girls about the vegetables they're buying or something. Or not. Because anything you do that's slightly socially awkward is "creepy" or whatever. Speaking of which, I can ask Pakistanis about all the s**t they buy and they'll spend a couple minutes explaining everything to me and how to make it and stuff and Asians are at most like "Oh, you boil, yeah."

tl;dr, should probably just go to Pakistan or India. They're probably the ethnicity that likes me most.

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