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15 Nov 2025, 1:48 am

I think I rather feel needed by my partner than wanted. I like feeling useful & having a sense of purpose.


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15 Nov 2025, 8:28 am

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I think I rather feel needed by my partner than wanted. I like feeling useful & having a sense of purpose.


If they need me to continually be an emotional punching bag then I need to get wanted now and then.



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26 Nov 2025, 5:44 pm

I sent an anonymous birthday card to the same female NT who I pursued for a while to be a potential girlfriend. Her birthday is next week in the early part of December. My therapist advised me to stop this behavior, but after I mail an anonymous Christmas card to her is when I will stop.


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06 Dec 2025, 6:12 pm

I find myself confused by the concept of acceptance.
Why is it that NOTHING lets me feel normal like finding someone wants to get naked with me?
It seems irrational to believe that the best evidence that someone loves me is that they're willing to sex me up, but that seems to be the only referent worth considering.
I'm still trying to work out if my partner stopped loving me when she stopped sleeping with me and when I became just a favoured accessory/emotional punching bag..
Maybe I always was and she just kept reducing maintenance requirements.



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09 Dec 2025, 2:47 pm

I think that anything to do with toenail or hair removal should never be done anywhere near a food preparation area

that kind of carry on might actually be a deal breaker for me


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13 Dec 2025, 6:23 pm

I will continue to avoid potential girlfriends who have superficial interests.


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17 Dec 2025, 10:57 am

I always smile when I see orange and blue
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19 Dec 2025, 2:47 pm

I've finally forgiven myself for the way my relationship ended last Christmas


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19 Dec 2025, 2:49 pm

Well to be fair there was nothing to forgive myself for. That's the whole point

I suppose it would be better to say that I've finally drawn a line under it


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19 Dec 2025, 6:00 pm

In the immediate Anonymous Household, love and dating are taboo subjects.


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27 Dec 2025, 4:15 pm

Is "ditto" an adequate response to "I love you"

I'm torn


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27 Dec 2025, 4:46 pm

babybird wrote:
Is "ditto" an adequate response to "I love you"

I'm torn

Sometimes actions speak louder than words.


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01 Jan 2026, 4:56 pm

So if half the potential romance pool retires at menopause, and the majority of the remainder are married then there there is a pretty limited field to consider.
Of these remainder I feel most are just "over" men in general. Hey... I probably would be too if I ever had an interest in men.

What is continuation of my pursuit then, other than futile?

Why do I have to be the one with a libido welded in "Full Steam Ahead." when age is supposed to munt these things?
How did I manage to trap myself in asexual monogamy for so long? 17 years makes me feel SO stupid.



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13 Jan 2026, 12:16 pm

My ex thought he was a genius

I beg to differ


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21 Jan 2026, 3:16 pm

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24 Jan 2026, 5:05 am

Chocolate spread on tiger toast
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