Does woman taking initiative scare the man?

Post Reply New Topic

I read something a while back on Bayes statistics. It basically stated you the need to go on 43 dates before finding your soul/perfect mate.

Alas. Looks like it's all over for me, then. I've been on a grand total of...3? And two of those were "blind," and occurred half a lifetime ago.

I dont think this study accounts for affairs or polygamy. My parents are probably among the few remaining one who got it right the first time. Oddly, as stated previously, my mother is the one who approached him. Theyve been together for 31 years now, and still goin. But remember, perfect doesnt exist . . . compatible, yes, but never without flaws.

Works about 50% of the time, and at least you know you're giving it a shot rather than waiting around and hoping for something that might never happen. I always approach the guys I like.

If you are love shy it makes no difference if you are doing the asking out or being asked out. There will be some nerves there. Though it is hardest when you don't want to go out with them. Not been formally asked out ever but had a come on, I had to reject and it is not easy, especially if they are drunk.

Personally it really depends on the day. I would be glad for it. I might need to discretely hit myself in the leg or something and then say 'yes'.

(DISCLAIMER my ideas are mine only and only work in a world of rainbows, sunshine and peace)


With that over and done with:

If a man is offended to be asked on a date, I doubt he's any fun at all to people who consider asking : )

Hmmm...I wikied Bayes and got nothing except an explanation on statistics, but no reference to dating. Do you have a link perhaps?

I asked my boyfriend out

Three years in March, and hopefully we'll have moved into our house by then

Absolutely... Not....
Even if she walked up behind me and put her hands straight down my pants, it would not be a deal breaker

for me, not at all. I think that's more of a generation thing than a gender thing.

Depends of the generation you're talking about

... Maybe more of a geographical and cultural thing I would say.

true, i was thinking from a western perspective not a global one.

I suppose that it depends upon how forward the female in question is. Most guys I know resent the fact that they are expected to make the first move, and females are expected to be coy. However, it is a turn off for me if a female is TOO forward - i.e. throws herself at me. This would indicate that she is overly desparate, utterly lacking of self-esteem, or simply drunk (all of which are turn-offs). The said situation is sort of the female version of the stereotypical male who torments every woman he sees with bad pickup lines. I guess my conclusion would be that it is perfectly ok (even slightly preferable to one such as myself) for a female to be up-front and perhaps initiate the exchange, but it is repugnant for one to be overly obtrusive about it.

Or possibly even an evolutionary thing.

It may even possibly have an evolutionary connection.