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Here's something I'd love to know: who is more likely to get a new girlfriend first, me or tim?

I believe it will be Tim. If I tell other people's Tim's achievements, everybody will swarm to him and say 'We love you, Tim!'

If sex is in fact all you want, just say so and be done with it! Why bother with silly smokescreens about which cartoons to watch? What a person has on their TV in their loungeroom has no relation to what they're like in the bedroom. Zero, zip, nada.



I've got some unfortunate news for both of you...



What he said.

if you just want friends with benefits, then you dont need criteria as you will not be making any emotional investment in them. Be careful though that you dont fall in love with them and break your heart.

just make more adds on plenty of fish.

I think Tim and Toad would make a pretty good couple. They'd have someone to vent to.

Perhaps we should introduce Tim and Toad to each other when the opportunity arises.

Right, Mr Cupid?

Part of it is because I feel threatened, because I have always been taught that the woman always has the final say regarding sex, and the man must abide by her rules/preferences at all times. If he leaves, he's a user. If he tries any sexual position other than what she wants, it's rape.

Then teach yourself. While the respect of women is admirable, you are using it as a cause to tear them down and damage your perceptions and opportunities to interact with the opposite sex. You can leave yourself on default setting, or learn to customize yourself. Your choice.


M.

I think that oral sex and fetishes have become interests in and of themselves, and if I mention that, instead of the Simpsons and South Park, people will think I am a creep who just wants sex.

correlation isn't causation. There are many women who are very open about sex....and they still hate South Park. Lots of the same people also don't like the Simpsons, but for other reasons.

And not all religious people hate the Simpsons, though there's fewer that like South Park. I find a lot of the people that object to either show, can't grasp/appreciate the subtle points both shows can make, especially South Park. Or their offendedness at the language on South Park seems to them a horribly irredeemable feature, regardless of the point that is being made.

But if you say you are possibly more interested in a friends-with-benefits situation than a romantic relationship, then you are just wanting sex! It's like you have some massive load of guilt and self-loathing on your mind, and you're too afraid to face the reality of your own situation or something.

To those who are nailing Tim on the TV show thing: please read the "Tim_Tex: In His Own Words" (link here) thread. There's more to the TV shows than what Tim's describing here in this thread, but for whatever reason he's just not saying it.

Both partners have the final say in what may be done to their bodies. The woman has the final say in what may be done to/with her body. The man has the final say in what may be done to/with his body. Any non-consensual sex act is rape. You always sound peeved when you write this but maybe you don't realize that it works both ways. Just as you can't do anything to/with her that she doesn't want, she can't do anything to/with you that you don't want.

I am getting the feeling that you say you like "oral sex and fetishes" not because you have developed these tastes over time with a former partner or partners but rather because you have seen them in porn many times and they look interesting. This is advice you are unlikely to take, but I highly recommend that you not look to porn to figure out what you want in an actual relationship and instead keep it purely in the realm of fantasy. Why do I think you've picked this up from porn rather than experiences that you enjoyed and want to repeat? Because you always say "fetishes" as though that was a discrete thing. But it isn't. It's a word that covers an extremely broad range of activities and interests, most of which people are pretty specific about if they have a personal fetish interest. That you can be so vague rather than saying something like "I would want a woman to wear high heeled shoes to bed" (or whatever) makes me think this is porn-based. Porn is fine for fantasy but it's a really bad way to pick up ideas about what real life sexual relationships are all about.

Also, stop trying to use Suimpsons and South Park as proxies for what women like in bed (or don't like). This proxy idea is going a long way towards keeping you out of a relationship. If you are serious about finding aomebody, drop it.

Would it help to say that I ended my last relationship because she thought premarital sex was a mortal sin, and thought sex was only for procreation?

I guess that makes me a user.

Yet if I say, "I would like a romantic relationship with a female Aspie whose main interests are oral sex and fetishes", people will be creeped out.

I think what Janissy says is very eloquent and I advise you to go back and read it again.

You seem like a guy who is very lonely and wants intimacy but is not really sure what that looks like. Good luck!

Y'know, I'm starting to think that all the criteria Tim has set up for himself has less to do with him hoping to find somebody compatible with his personality, and more to do with making himself look more three-dimensional than he really is. He's afraid to project an image that all he wants in a relationship is sex, for fear of being branded a "user". As a consequence he adds the South Park and Simpsons criteria not only to show other people, but also to tell himself that he has other ideas about what's important to him in a relationship. However all the criteria are a deception, an instrument of Tim's denial that he wants sex instead of a romantic relationship. I say that in light of the fact that I have seen very little evidence to show that Tim actually sincerely cares for the welfare of the women he goes out with, and yet he is all talk about sex and how big his... erm, "manhood" is. That is why after years of our telling him with logical reasoning to give up all the overly-stringent criteria, he still holds onto them. He holds onto them, because they have a different purpose that we had not previously addressed, as we were all misled in the same manner by which he hopes to mislead the women he wants to date (I cite the many examples of his hoping to dump his beliefs, so that he could apply a different label on himself and attract more women).


Everybody knows this by now, Tim... You were so quick to mention here on WP how you lost your virginity in an FWB situation. What was it, just a couple of hours after the deed? We all know it's up your alley.

Yet if I focused on personality or religious beliefs, I would have ended up with some right-wing fundamentalist who thinks that sex should only be within marriage, and only for procreation.

So I masqueraded as a liberal, pseudo-hipster, thinking it would increase my chances of finding someone sexually compatible with me.