Do you think u'll end up a 40 y.o. virgin?

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11 May 2010, 1:16 am

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Definitely! I believe in sex after marriage, and I don't see myself ever getting married. Besides, sex is icky. You can catch all kinds of diseases and get pregnant. I'm proud to be a virgin and totally happy with it.

I'm a virgin too and I'm proud about it too

I am not a virgin but I can be proud to a desperately lonely negro aspie. When I was younger I was a little reserved. I thought it would help me find love more easier, I was wrong.

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11 May 2010, 3:05 am

I found the love of my life at age 44. I strongly believe that things have to be right when you go to have sex with someone, and somehow for so many reasons they never were right before.

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11 May 2010, 7:27 pm

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I hope I'm still not a virgin at 40. The thought makes me think I'd rather be dead than bear another ten years being sexually frustrated.

There is a reason women are more picky when it comes to lovers. Where a man usually always has sexual satisfaction, the woman often* does not. Even worse, her inability to express, or even know what is needed is often submerged beneath her need to make her partner not feel inadequate about the subject.

Merle

* (for what ever reason, I am a firm believer that each of us are responsible for our own orgasms[/i so this is[i] not man bashing)

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11 May 2010, 9:35 pm

I doubt I'll remain a virgin that long as I've had opportunities to lose it.

I don't understand why all these people here in there 20s or even younger think they are going to remain a virgin that long. Maybe it's just never been a big deal to me, I dunno.

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12 May 2010, 2:28 am

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I hope I'm still not a virgin at 40. The thought makes me think I'd rather be dead than bear another ten years being sexually frustrated.

This is an interesting explanation. And of course it's good that you're not trying to bash men.

Now all that's needed is why women seem to go for the "normal" guys, who if not blindly guided by the social forces that declare female pleasure unimportant compared to their own, are often guided by the "don't give a f*** principle" about most things--while passing up the eccentric and maybe sensitive guys (whether artists, nerds, etc.) who might actually take pleasure in learning how to be good lovers.

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12 May 2010, 3:00 am

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What is a virgin exactly? I mean, I am not sure if I can say that I lost it or that still am.

A virign is one considered whole and pure and untouched. Its for many religious meaning of being pure as in unblemished by a sexual act of any kind.

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12 May 2010, 4:57 am

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I found the love of my life at age 44. I strongly believe that things have to be right when you go to have sex with someone, and somehow for so many reasons they never were right before.

wish i had your luck.

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12 May 2010, 8:12 am

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sarek wrote:

I found the love of my life at age 44. I strongly believe that things have to be right when you go to have sex with someone, and somehow for so many reasons they never were right before.

wish i had your luck.

it's not 'luck'. It is being open to it when it presents itself. That is far more tricky than 'luck'.

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12 May 2010, 8:25 am

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I hope I'm still not a virgin at 40. The thought makes me think I'd rather be dead than bear another ten years being sexually frustrated.

But my point is learning how to be a good lover before one takes a lover. Read books on how to give and receive sensual massages, get information about being multi-orgasmic, (woman and man) Read how to delay pleasure and sustain pleasure and train your own self to be a good lover when the situation presents itself.

You wouldn't wait to figure out how to drive before you took your first car for a test drive at the dealership ? Wouldn't you have done your homework and received your license and became insurable first? You can wait until you marry before you ]actually become a lover, but being all fumbly and awkward is so 19th century. One would hope that prospective married couples would have already discussed such things before their wedding night.

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12 May 2010, 8:31 am

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I hope I'm still not a virgin at 40. The thought makes me think I'd rather be dead than bear another ten years being sexually frustrated.

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I don't understand your response. I didn't say anything about a woman's pleasure. I was just giving my opinion on the topic.

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12 May 2010, 8:54 am

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Zara wrote:

I hope I'm still not a virgin at 40. The thought makes me think I'd rather be dead than bear another ten years being sexually frustrated.

There is a reason women are more picky when it comes to lovers. Where a man usually always has sexual satisfaction, the woman often* does not. Even worse, her inability to express, or even know what is needed is often submerged beneath her need to make her partner not feel inadequate about the subject.

Merle

* (for what ever reason, I am a firm believer that each of us are responsible for our own orgasms so this is not man bashing)

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I don't understand your response. I didn't say anything about a woman's pleasure. I was just giving my opinion on the topic.

I apologize for not making my opinion more clear.

What I was attempting to say is that just because one finds a lover, sexual frustration is not necessarily ended.

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12 May 2010, 8:54 am

A lot of women who complain about men beeing bad in bed doesn't do much themselves in bed.

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12 May 2010, 8:59 am

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A lot of women who complain about men beeing bad in bed doesn't do much themselves in bed.

EXACTLY!

thank you for demonstrating my point, Felgen!

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12 May 2010, 3:54 pm

:lol: no way im gonna live that long

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12 May 2010, 6:42 pm

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:lol: no way im gonna live that long

A man with a plan. I like that.

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12 May 2010, 7:03 pm

Can't... that ship has sailed. It's probably in Fiji by now.

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